10 best ways to attract a girl
Tell stories, and never brag.
Bragging screams neediness and reduced confidence. …I make a great deal of money and drive a Ferrari….
If you happen to drive a Ferrari, don’t feel the need to tell a girl straight away. Instead tell interesting stories about your life so she can work out for herself if you are successful and a person of standing.
Crack a good deal of jokes (but only the good ones).
Women love a guy with a fantastic sense of humor. This almost looks like a cliche, right?
But scientists still aren’t completely sure why humor is such a turn-on. At one point, the general consensus was that great jokes showed that a possible partner was smart…but then, several studies proved that humor doesn’t correlate with intelligence.
Jeffrey Hall of the University of Kansas believes that humor may simply demonstrate that a man is sociable, but there’s another possible explanation: Men might use humor to judge a woman’s interest. Men act like jokers, and women play along. “The script is powerful and it is enduring, and it dictates everything from asking someone out to picking up the tab,” Hall explained.
Of course, he also admits that humor may be simply valuable for humor’s sake. That’s a scientific way of saying, “We’re not actually sure what’s going on here, but it’s probably not that important.”
How to attract women: A Beginners Guide
Attracting women is simple, straight-forward, and even logical — when you know how.
And if you want to take the hard work out of turning accidental eye-contact into, flirty smiles and even a feminine hand resting casually on your arm, the first thing you need to do is forget everything you’ve ever been told about attracting women.
According to the ‘seduction bibles’ floating around the web, mischievously traded between confused 14 year olds in seedy internet chat rooms, to attract a woman, you need to activate her attraction switches.
Yes, that’s actually the way that they talk about attraction, like women were some piece of Ikea furniture you could ‘turn on’ by following the instruction manual and making sure all of the screws were in the perfect places (pun intended).
This is in fact a load of crap — made up by some confused little boys who couldn’t tell the difference between what they did that made a specific woman attracted to them at a specific point in time and the actual mechanism of attraction.
Saying that you need to flick 5 / 9 / 14 ‘attraction switches’ to entice a woman since they were the things you did to attract 1 woman is like saying you need to kick a ball forward, then backwards, then with your right foot, then your left foot, then really hard with your right again to score a goal in soccer.
What you did once to achieve an outcome doesn’t mean that that’s how you achieve that outcome each time.
If you walked on a soccer field and just kicked the ball the exact same way you did the last time you scored a goal then you’re going to miss 99.999% of the time. And in the event that you blindly follow this flawed ‘attraction switch’ theory, you’re likely to miss out on attracting the girl, time and time again.
This is because the theory of attraction switches ignores the most fundamental rule of attraction: attraction is a feeling, not a thought.
If you can make a woman experience what she would like to experience, then she will be attracted to you. If you can’t, then she won’t.
That’s it. That’s all there is to it.
If a woman wants to feel excited and alive and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel safe and secure and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel free and unrestricted and you’ll be able to give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
When you can give a woman what she wants, she’ll be drawn to you like a magnet. If you can’t, then at worst, she’ll be neutral and at worst, she’ll be pushed away from you.
Now, you’re probably thinking: “So what? This isn’t revolutionary. And this doesn’t say anything about attraction switches.”
And you’re right, it is not revolutionary. Which makes it even more puzzling how the guys who came up with the attraction switch theory missed how obvious this is…
The fact that attraction is a feeling makes the ‘attraction switch’ theory completely wrong on two counts.
Forget the pickup lines.
Yes, they have studied this. Not one but two groundbreaking studies of classic cheesy pickup lines appear to suggest that (SPOILER ALERT) they don’t work. Almost 90 percent of the women in one of those studies rated those bad old pickup lines as extremely useless.
But where science shuts a door, it opens a window. Something like 65 percent of the women surveyed in a Personality and Individual Differences article said they appreciate a simple, confident, and direct approach.
Can the cheesy lines, even when you’re trying to be ironic. In actuality, we tried to include a sample of lousy pickup lines in this list, but they’re all too bad.
Just remember that a simple, self-assured “hello” will get you a lot further, and you won’t be as ashamed of yourself in the morning.
The Way to Attract Women: What They’re Not Telling You
What should I do? And you still come up with nothing. Why? Because you’re not asking the proper question.
All these questions you’re asking actually have a deeper undercurrent — something that forms the basis of these questions that you must get to before you can think of a real answer: How do I attract women?
You see, you don’t really care about what you should say or what you should do, as long as they get you the results you want: doe-eyes, wet-panty, delicate-touch-of-your-arm, attraction. You want her to want you, and want you badly.
So if you’re ever going to answer these questions that race through your ming, you need to start by answering the core question first: how can you attract women?
Keep your voice low and speak slowly.
A calming deep voice is extremely seductive. Think Joey Tribianni on ‘Friends’ and his famous pickup line “How you doin?” . Speak slowly and accentuate your words like you’re telling a story to captivate her attention.