10 easy ways to attract girls
Attracting women isn’t all about appearing attractive, it’s about being attractive from within, and expressing your positive qualities to the girls you interact with.
You can understand why self-loathing men struggle to get girlfriends. If you play the victim and maintain a negative view on everything, women will repel you.
Learn to love yourself first before you can love someone else. Think “Would I date me?”
The more you invest and ‘love yourself’ the more attractive you’ll be in the eyes of women. With this, you will find women come into your life naturally as a by-product to all this.
To become more attractive within, take pride in your appearance, and focus on pursuing your passions.
Be adventurous, take up something you’ve always wanted to do.
But don’t pursue an activity for the sole reason of impressing women. Do it because YOU want to do it. Whatever your hobbies and interests are, it’s extremely attractive if women can sense your passion in the way that you speak about them and the amount of time you dedicate in pursuing them.
How do I attract a woman by giving her the experience she wants?
This is where most pickup books would just in with techniques about to demonstrate this and how to internalise that, and frankly, once again, they’re all crap.
Why? Because the actions you take don’t determine how you make women feel.
You can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel creeped out and you can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel excited and alive
You can tell a story in a way that makes her feel pressured to laugh and give you a positive response and you can tell a story in a way that makes her feel excited.
You can ask her for her number in a way that her feel unsafe and unsure and you can ask for her number in a way that makes desired and appreciated
Your actions don’t determine how you make a woman feel.
And no, it is not your haircut, your style, your understanding or your bank balance.
It’s something far simpler… Think about it like this:
Which sort of people do you feel most excited and alive around? Is it routine, boring, monotone, safe people or is it exciting people who’re living on their edge and pushing their boundaries?
Which kind of people do you feel the most safe and secure around? Is it nervous, anxious, and flighty people or is it calm, confident, and strong people
Which kind of people do you feel more connected to? Is it closed off and standoffish people or is it open and expressive men and women?
What you experience determines what the women you’re interacting with feel. What you experience determines whether women are attracted to you.
You can’t give women the experience of security and security until you feel safe and secure yourself.
You can not give women the experience of excitement and really living until you feel excited and alive.
You can’t give women the experience of freedom and openness until you feel free and open.
It’s just that easy.
Listen and give her your full attention.
Women love a good listener. Don’t get distracted and break eye contact, even if the Super Bowl is playing on the TV behind her. Be fully engrossed in what she has to say.
Forget the pickup lines.
Yes, they’ve studied this. Not one but two groundbreaking studies of classic cheesy pickup lines seem to suggest that (SPOILER ALERT) they don’t work. Almost 90 percent of the girls in one of those studies rated those bad old pickup lines as extremely useless.
But where science shuts a door, it opens a window. Something like 65 percent of the women surveyed in a Personality and Individual Differences article said that they appreciate a simple, confident, and direct approach.
Can the cheesy lines, even if you’re trying to be ironic. In fact, we tried to include a sample of bad pickup lines in this list, but they’re all too bad.
We won’t subject you to the cringefest. Just remember that a simple, self-assured “hello” will get you a lot further, and you won’t be as ashamed of yourself in the morning.
Play an instrument.
Just be certain it’s not the drums. Nobody wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.
The method of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a bad internet “prank” video.
Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In fact, he did this 3 times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.
Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Scientists have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.