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COSY:
So perhaps you should not be asking “what/how/why/wtf?”, and instead should just have a look at what kind of behavior would affect things like a cat, or an animal.
What is instinctive to them.

THE ROCK

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while for the more qualified simultaneous
creation is taught, that is, that this world arose like a dream on account of one’s own thoughts
induced by the defect of not knowing oneself as the Self.

The enquiry
“Who am I?” is the principal means to the removal of all misery and the attainment of the supreme
bliss.

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Subject: Re: DTI: The Natural Process Of The Mind And Growth
GRAND SUMMARY:

GUIDED DISTRACTION SUMMARY:
- Focus, and immerse in something that will inherently help develop what you are after

ARGUEMENT SUMMARY:
- Change focus to something constructive, aggressively if need be

LEADERSHIP SUMMARY:
- More sexual/primal drives are more readily adopted as opposed to intellectual/conscious drives.
- If you filter information, you gain a double whammy effect
a) Increased believability
b) Increased aesthetic quality
Resulting in increased positive AFFECT on those around you.

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The question is not HOW but rather WHY NOT?

Why do you have to use the teqnique. Why do you have to consciously remember it. Why do you have to control it. Think about it. Use it. Do it. Why doesn’t it JUST HAPPEN?

Find the cause of why aren’t you doing it right now.

Are you having sex right now? Why not? Because I’m not… Who aren’t you?

Who must you become to be having sex right now? I must become an ALPHA MALE.
That is the answer. You are not an alpha male. Now, today. But…
You can be one, even in 10 seconds if you want to.

Unless you don’t want it. This is important - it won’t work if you really don’t want it. That is the only reason of it not working. So work out what is preventing you from wanting it…

How do you become - someone - you aren’t right now?

What makes you, who you are today, now?

Is it your body, your possesions, your parents, your friends, your khaki? Are YOU something fixed, defined, contained in an object? Or is YOU something more ephemeric, fluid and sponteaneous?

It is rather something that is not created and IS. But something that is in the making. It is being created every moment, every second each day. It is being created, sculpted, by the DECISIONS you make every moment.

You can change WHO you are RIGHT NOW, by changing a decision you are going to make.

If you have a situation right now, where an important decision is to be made. And you know what you do every time something like this happens. STOP. Consider this for a moment:

The decision you are about to make is going to sculpt you.

The decision is not whether you will to wear khaki or not. The khaki does not define you. What defines you is the decision you made whether to wear khaki or not. That is what created you.
Let me repeat - What defines you is THE DECISION you made whether to wear khaki or not. NOT the khaki.

So if you have a situation and you can decide whether you wimp out or go for it. Remember that considering the pros and cons will do nothing. It doesn’t even matter what is the ‘right’ decision. It’s not about that. It doesn’t matter if you lose or win. What matters is:

Who will you be after making that decision?

Will you be a man or will you be a wimp.

The choice is for you to be made.

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I see that too many here are afraid of ebetaization. It is just a secret way of fearing rejection. Don’t worry about it. Thinking about not being betaized is paranoia installed by this board. I want to make one post here that isn’t about attempting to escape it but a post about what to focus on, so that betaization is not a problem and won’t lead to anything shitty.

The number 3 rules. Since this is an advanced board I suppose you know how to do it.

1. Just be attractive to other women. If she sees other women adore you, she will be attracted to you forever. It’s as simple as that. If she sees other women pity and despise you, guess what? Your value for her is also zero. You are not her special man. She is a woman, she does not think by herself, her only measure is the measure of her girlfriends and women around you that she sees.

2. Make absolutely NOTHING dependant on her. If there is at least one thing that you can’t do for yourself or with somebody else then you have failed.

If she washes your underpants because you don’t know how, learn how to do it yourself.
If she is your only source of sex, know that you can have other women quickly, or find something better to do than sex. It is also sufficient to not need to fuck anybody.
She is your only way of spending free time? Get a hobby.
She is the only person you can share your secrets with? Find a friend.
She is the only person that truly loves you? Learn to love yourself.

You can get my point easily if you ask yourself this question:
How would you live on if she left you this very second?

If you would just continue playing your piano, feeding hungry puppies, enjoying a good movie - or something in that manner you have succeeded.

Basically all the stuff you use for battling ONEITIS (I recommend the recent stuff by CostOfSuccess)

In one sentence, the secret of being happy in a relationship:

Learn to be happy on your own.

It is the single most attractive human component. Independent happines.

Change your focus from her - to improving yourself.

One of my recent day game students was a hipster. I poked fun at the subculture a bit and he told me I should seriously consider hitting hipster spots. He said, “At Black Cat, 60% of people there are girls, and half the guys there are gay.” He added that they are also cuter than average because they are notoriously superficial and overly concerned with looks. The case he laid out was pretty solid.

I wonder what the average level of game is among hipster guys. I’m guessing the farther out you go from mainstream venues, the poorer game you’ll find. Guys at regular bars spend their spare time at the gym and hitting on drunk girls. Guys at Black Cat spend their time dressing themselves and finding new bands. He did know a lot about fashion and music so I’m guessing those are the angles you need to play when going into the hipster circles.

As for the student, he shattered both workshop records: longest approach (15:30) and most numbers (2). One was at the grocery store, and he didn’t even buy anything. I was extremely proud. But then within two weeks three other student tied him with two numbers each and another broke the time record (23:00). Three phone numbers remains stubbornly elusive, but it’s just a matter of time.

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It’s very important to get the kiss out of the way as quickly as possible because it’s rare you will bang a girl the same night you first kiss her. For example, let’s say you first kiss a girl at the end of date one. Then it will be hard to also bang on that date. You may bang on date two or three. But if you kiss her when you first met, there is a much higher chance you will bang on date one. Get it?

I’m extremely reluctant to get a number from a girl who I don’t at least come pretty close to kissing since I’d have to invest a minimum of two whole dates to get the bang. Honestly, what percentage of girls out there are actually bearable to hang out with for several hours of time that two dates entail? 2%? 4% tops? Don’t be bamboozled into spending time with a worthless chick, which is safe to say every chick you will talk to this year except one, two if you’re lucky.

This is why I go for the kiss even if I don’t think I will get it. So the girl senses I’m about to make a move because I’m getting closer to her face and then gently pulls back—big deal. But now she knows what I’m about and if she goes out with me (and she will if she sticks around), it’s as if she has signed a legal document accepting all the moves I may choose to do, including any attempt to weasel my way back into her place. I guarantee you she will show up on the first date with a clean, shaved vagina because of the aggression I displayed when we first met.

Speed is of the essence. On a long enough timeline enough variables will be introduced into her life that prevents you from pumping her. But once you already bang, who cares? You got want you wanted, and can begin the cycle of meaningless birth and death anew with another hole. Giddy up.

Previously: The Fast Kiss I.

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SPECIAL REPORT: The Secret Ingredient of PICK UP LINES…

So why do guys use pick up lines?

I’ve been studying this curious mating ritual for over 10 years

now, and I finally understood the reasons why guys want to use them.

Pickup lines are the equivalent of a knock-knock joke.

1) She feels obligated to answer, even though she knows what’s coming…

2) She knows something dumb is coming after you answer…

3) She’s forced to give you a small amount of polite attention after you’re done…

4) She’s going to get away from you as soon as humanly possible after you’re done telling it…

Truthfully, that small amount of polite attention isn’t even necessary anymore. She could just walk away from a dumb pick up line.

Who’d blame her?

Now, pickup lines come in two flavors:

Pickup Line 1 = The funny pickup line that you look up, seriously wanting something to say when you approach a woman, but knowing you’ll NEVER use it…

Pickup Line 2 = The REAL pickup line that you want to just start a conversation.

Again, most guys use a line because…

To find out more about the missing ingredient that most guys miss, read the rest here:

Pick Up Lines - The Missing Ingredient

Carlos Xuma

PS: In this newsletter report, I also give you several great conversation openers, as well as my “personalization” technique to getting your opener to work every time…

Go read the report here right now:

Pick Up Lines - The Missing Ingredient

QUESTION:

I like the idea of meeting the less attractive chicks with a huge social circle of hot chicks. Whats your success rate like?

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

This is an effective strategy, but you have to watch out for something that most guys aren’t aware of.

Women are very conscious of status and appearances. We all are, actually.

We know when we see someone dating or working for the “less attractive” people, and it colors our perception of them. Sometimes on a level that we’re not willing to admit.

I don’t condone classifying people, but the reality is that this is something everyone does. We judge, we compare, and we do all the dark psychological evaluations you can imagine. And it’s all done under the pretense of “rational” thinking.

So if you’re talking about just approaching the “not as cute” girls to get to know their friends, sure, that works like a charm.

The funny thing is that the women I approach that may not be “10″s usually end up being more interesting, fun, and attractive on other levels.

Hmmm….

Dr. Paul was recently interviewed by the LA Times about Joaquin Phoenix’s recent appearance on the Late Show with David Letterman.

Dr. Paul stated:

Perhaps it will also clear up the question of whether Phoenix is still an actor at heart or has truly undergone a behavior change. If taken at face value, the actor would appear to be mentally ill, says Chicago-based psychiatrist Paul Dobransky, a relationships expert and author of “The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love.”

Dobransky says Phoenix’s “socially inappropriate” behavior reflects some of the symptoms of schizophrenia, a brain-based disease that causes people to lose touch with reality. Phoenix’s appearance as well as his career change, poor hygiene and grooming, vocal tics (such as muttering) and lack of facial emotion are classic symptoms of mental illness, Dobransky says.

“I was pretty offended by that skit at the Oscars,” Dobransky said today in an interview. “It struck me as potentially beating down on the mentally ill.”

Dobransky said much of Phoenix’s behavior on “Letterman” hinted at mental illness, such as wearing sunglasses, which may suggest paranoia. “There is something wrong. And it’s beyond drug abuse.” The public should refrain from mocking Phoenix, the psychiatrist said, because real mental illness is cause for compassion.

“The jury is not exactly in on what is happening,” Dobransky said. “Whatever it is, it’s not funny –whether it’s drug abuse, mental illness coming on, or the clumsiest attempt ever at a career change.”

The comments were responded to by Joaquin Phoenix’s agent at MTV, Newsday, US Magazine, and ENews!:

“How absolutely inappropriate for a doctor who has no personal interaction or relationship with someone to diagnose them,” Sue Patricola said. “And to do so in a public forum. Hope they spelled his name right. Another 15-minute ‘expert’ is born!”

Sue Patricola doesn’t realize that Dr. Paul treats schizophrenia patients at his day dig at a major hospital in Chicago. Dr. Paul teaches them MindOS (the foundation for David Deangelo’s Deep Inner Game product) to deal with boundaries, confidence, and emotional issues as well with prescribed medication. I don’t think Dr. Paul said Phoenix was mentally ill, rather that his behavior was reminiscent of patients who have schizophrenia.

It’s cool that Dr. Paul’s name is getting out there, even if it was misinterpreted.

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