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Often times, we learn our successes through failure.  Had you asked me this several years ago, I would have disagreed as I was raised to ‘play it safe’ and avoid taking chances.  It may be decision as critical as how we spend our money, what career we choose or what car we decide to purchase.  On the other hand, there are those trivial decisions such as what we are going to wear, what we will do on Saturday night or what kind of milk we buy.  Whatever the decision is, we always want to choose our best option, the choice that will cause us the most satisfaction, give us the most bang for our buck and the least regret.  At least that had always been my theory on life.

Funny how certain things occur and truly change your realm of thinking.  When it comes to relationships, I have had my fair share.  Although not all have been long-term, they have all affected me and somehow altered my thought process in some way.  Sometimes we let life jade us by the negative experiences we encounter and the perceptions that come from them.  What is important however is that we take something positive from every experience and utilize that to better ourselves in our future relationships.

Let me give you an example of this…  Several years back I ended a very destructive relationship with a person who possessed an addiction that truly devastated him, his family and at the time myself.  I truly thought I loved this person and wanted so much to help or ‘fix’ him.  It was quite some time before I realized that this was not going to be possible.  In turn, I allowed his addiction to control me, become my purpose in life.  Day in and day out I concocted plans of how I could change him, show him a better way, inspire him…  I held on to a time that I had remembered, a time that really never was.  A time that things seemed to be perfect and we were happy.  I fed into the words he spoke to me even though they were not true.  I wanted to believe that he meant them, it was all I had to believe in but his actions suggested something very different. I had been living with this person.  My family thought the world of him and leaving him was not an option, at least not until I exhausted all others.  I couldn’t face the embarrassment of failure. I had to make it work.

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10 hyper-effective secrets for the player who must either pull chicks… or perish.

A man by the name of John Carlton coined the phrase “Gun to the head” selling.  It is basically the mindset of what strategies you would need to take if you absolutely positively had to succeed in making a sale.  Well, I adjusted that concept…   And made a list of the ten simple strategies that you would need to implement if someone was holding a gun to your head and telling you that you had to pick-up a woman.

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Lately, for reasons unknown to my boner, I’ve been attracted to chicks who rock the “I’m a Hot Mess” look. Helena Bonham Carter seems to type cast into the roles. After seeing her as Marla Singer in Fight Club, I think I spent a good two weeks trying to make myself criminally insane in the hopes that I would meet someone like her. Since then she rocked even hotter mess looks in the Harry Potter and Sweeny Todd movies. Don’t get me wrong, I would sell my grandmother’s Elvis Collectible Dinner Plate set for a chance to dump hot grits on a healthy Jessica Alba, but variety is the spice of life…

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Have you ever wanted to throw an awesome “man-event” for the guys but did not feel like broadcasting it on facebook or using the reliable but feminine evite. Well now there is an alternative for booking all your manly events, one that you can be proud to share with your fellow fellas, and it’s called Manvite.

Manvite is like evite without the skirt. It’s not cute and cuddly with rainbow sprinkles, it’s tough and has a hairy chest like your dad. It gets food tangled in its beard and mustache, but dosen’t care because its manly. I once saw manvite wandering in the woods eating the raw flesh of a deer he just donkey punched into submission. I mean if you haven’t caught on yet, Manvite is for MEN!!!

The top 10 most popular events of 2009 so far from Manvite:

• Drink Beer
• Cougar Hunting
• Poker
• Bachelor Party
• Watch Sports
• Lap Dances
• Watch Pineapple Express
• March Madness
• Bowling
• Golf

Before your next event, Be A Man!

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Best Weekend Reading- Padma Eating Hardees Edition

For those of you who might be procrastinating doing something as you read this post- don’t skip this short and simple post about how to beat procrastination.

Read these seven tips for being a more charismatic person. There is nothing groundbreaking here, but these tips are worth reinforcing in your mind.

Are you just a poser following the crowd? Check out this thought provoking article on the idea of non-conformity and street cred.

For a quick laugh read this list of the 10 worst pickup lines of all time.

I found this post to be a nice primer post for those looking to dive into the world of personal development. Its even called personal development for beginners.

This gallery of Christina Aguilera reminds me why I used to find her so freaken sexy.

Brad Jackson posted this funny video called “The Girlfriend Trainer”

If you’re looking for a top notch bootcamp under $1000… check out Adam Lyon’s schedule.

This video below is the sexiest 30 seconds of a woman eating a hamburger I’ve ever seen….

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Sleeping with a ton of women has some mental consequences that aren’t ususally talked about. Here are four things that I have noticed:

Inability to view women as equal human beings. My default opinion of any girl I meet is “worthless dirty whore until proven otherwise.” When so many girls have opened their legs up for me so quickly and easily, it’s hard for me to respect them (and their opinions or ideas) like I would a family member or close friend. I think this is leaking out into other areas of life as someone pointed out to me that I seem to read books written only by men.

Decreasing ability to sympathize and empathize with the female condition. Because I learned early on that talking to a girl about her problems or issues is the fastest way out of her pants, it’s become habit for me to simply nod or say “That sucks” when a girl has a genuine problem, even one that I can help solve. I have no desire to help a girl out with her life, and I don’t care if she falls flat on her face.

Decreasing patience to work things out. I don’t give a girl more than one chance to act “right” because it’s so easy to find a new whore at the bar. My ability to stay in a long-term relationship, putting up with its natural ups and downs, is evaporating as I adopt the mentality of a dictator, with my bitch the subservient who must attend to my needs without making any mistakes. Over the years my temper has greatly shortened.

Decreasing view of sex as a beautiful act of love. Sex is a mechanical means for me to relieve the pressure building up in my sack and nothing more, one small step above jerking off with my tight-gripped hand. I do not feel any closer to a girl when I pump her, and most of the time I respect her less because my opinion of her as a worthless dirty whore who probably likes being choked was proven correct.

The only way I see to reverse these consequences is to step out of the game completely and go through a massive cold streak that makes me value a woman again, to see her as something important that I need. Since I don’t see this happening, the odds that I will meet a new girl who I genuinely care for and maybe even love will be about the same as me winning the grand prize of a scratch ticket lottery game. And I’m fine with that. For now.

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The stock market is down 300 points…

Unemployment reaches 10% in California…

Foreclosures are at an all-time high…

The housing market is down 35%…

Let me ask you something: how do you feel about all of the headlines these days? Are you using this as your newest excuse for not going out to meet people? Or not to purchase things that you really desire that will improve your life?

Do you know what I’ve discovered? This is something that I really believe: the economy is not really as bad as we say it is – the economy is only as bad as we think it is because most of you are buying into the hype.

It’s that poverty mentality. It’s all of you saying to yourselves, “Well, I may still have a job but the economy is bad right now, and I’m not going to do the things I want to do. I’m going to wait for the economy to get better. I’m going to wait for President Obama to tell me that the economy is better.”

In reality, you have to start taking charge of your own economy. You are your own government.

Do you still have a job? Are you safe at your job? Does your job still pay you what it did last year? Are you managing your bills like you always have? Are you paying things on time? Are you buying things you can afford?

The economy keeps getting worse because the people who find themselves in a good financial situation (which is 90% of us!) stop spending money and push the economy into a further funk.

And this becomes your new excuse. It’s unbelievable. As humans, we are always looking for excuses not to progress. We come from a fear-based society.

So let me ask all of you a question today. How is the economic downturn REALLY affecting you? And be honest – are you really just using it as an excuse?

Life is all about mindset. What you believe is what you are going to attract. And if you have a poverty mindset, you’re going to be the next one fired during these poor economic times. If you truly believe that the world is coming to an end, it will.

I don’t believe that the world is coming to an end. My business is fine. I love my clients. Money comes in, people buy products and come to bootcamps, and I give it my all.

But it really amazes me how many people have that poverty consciousness – they’re watching every last dime thinking that it will actually be their last dime.

You attract exactly what you are. You have to understand that life is about abundance. If you live an abundant lifestyle, you’ll have an abundant lifestyle. I’m not talking about going out there and spending more money than you make – I think that’s ridiculous.

But the “doom and gloom” people – which a lot of you are – tend to really think that life is going to come to an end.

Do you remember Y2K? How many of you thought that the world was going to come to an end when the clock struck midnight, bringing in the year 2000? How many of you actually believed that everything would go haywire? That you wouldn’t be able to get your money out of the bank? That things wouldn’t work anymore?

I knew a person during that time that actually quit his job, moved to the mountains of Arizona and traded all of his money for gold because he was afraid of leaving his money in the bank. This is the same thing all over again. People buy into the “doom and gloom” because they live in a world full of fear and excuses.

What would you rather live in: a world of abundance and positive energy or a world based on fear?

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