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Psych talks to us today about threesomes, one night stands, and judging how open a woman is to these sort of things.

1. What is the secret to achieving the mystical “threesome” that most guys will only fantasize about?

The real secret to having threesomes is amazingly simple … have a girl in “the know”. What I mean by this is use a girl you’ve already slept with to help you find and game another girl into doing a threesome. When I’d go out to game with a girl who was helping me, sometimes I almost had to do nothing except provide a fun time, show that I’m sexual, and handle the logistics. Often times I wouldn’t even have to open! I remember one specific time where my girl went into the bathroom and then came back with a girl on each arm looking at me to choose which one I wanted.

Every girl that helps will be different though. While some will do all the work for you, others will only aid you and it’s up to you to do the real work. Also in order to have a girl willing to do a threesome it’s important to frame things correctly from the start. Make sure you’re strictly sex buddies or in an open relationship, that she’s bisexual or bi-curious, and that you’ve discussed sexual fantasies and have brought up the idea of threesomes to her.

Once you have your wing girl it’s the same game as always, except now you’re getting the target to be into you as a couple and not just one or the other. Typically I’d do things where I take a picture of the girls kissing and then have a three way kiss to get the ball rolling. Also having your wing girl do conspiracy theories where she secretly brags about your sexual prowess to the target and they plan to seduce you is a lot of fun.

The most important thing however is to know what to watch out for. The number one problem that can occur is jealousy. Even if your wing girl says she’s open to a threesome when it’s in the moment she may have second thoughts and not want to share. So make sure to treat your wing girl as another target instead of a wing. Yes she’s going to be helping you out but make sure to divide the attention equally and always put your wing girl first. It’s also usually best to let your wing girl decide on who the target is because she may not be into your choice and that will ruin the threesome. The last thing is alcohol at the club or back at your place allows the girl some plausible deniability to avoid feeling like a slut.

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As I am laying on my porch today, trying to relive the vacation I just got back from in Jamaica, I wanted to share some things with you that made my vacation amazing without having to do much at all. So I won’t be answering questions from the mailbag this time, but continue to send your questions to thomas@tsbmagazine.com. I expect a lot more questions from peeps in college so bring them on.

It was my first trip back to Jamaica in 6 years. My family is from there and although I could have stayed with family, I decided to stay at an all-inclusive resort. Considering that I was staying with my older sister, brother-in-law, nephew and my mother, there wasn’t anyone that I could REALLY hang and party with while I was there. So I was on my own, which meant one thing. I had to create my own fun. Part of that was making new friends.

Here is one thing that you should think about wherever you are – especially when you’re on vacation. If you see someone you’d like to talk to, go and approach them. Chances are, you’ll never see them again, they are NOT going to blow you off (pending you’re not creepy), and if you do get rejected and there is any shame, you can leave it at the vacation spot. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO LOSE.

When I went to the bar, I began talking with the bartenders, who were relatively young (around my age), and our conversation sparked conversation with other people at the bar. By the end of the first night out, I had made about 4 or 5 friends that I could hang out with while on vacation.

When it came to women, I feel as though when you’re on vacation, you should feel as though there is more room for mistakes because under the pretense of having nothing to lose, you can afford to make a couple errors. I’ll tell you what. The same thing applies when you’re back home. If a woman makes direct eye contact with you, she is telling you it’s ok to approach her. One night, a woman and I were exchanging eye contact throughout the night. I was having a good time with friends so I was in no rush to make a move. When I finally approached her, we ended up having a great time and spent a lot of our vacation together (with various extracurricular activities). There were other women who I talked to and made connections with but it all happened because I took action on a present opportunity. You need to do the same too, no matter where you are.

It’s not about being cool or letting her know how awesome you are. It’s about having fun and not caring about what could happen. You only have the ability to work with what IS happening at the moment and what you can MAKE happen.

Learn to spread your energy and your value wherever you are. People find that kind of personality infectious and they will gravitate toward you. I remember (for the most part – I had A LOT of alcohol while on vacation) every night I was talking with a different group of people. Some were my age, others were married couples that’ve been married forever, some had just got married, and so forth. I was listening to their stories and I was sharing mine. By the end of the night, people were dying to hang out with me again. And by the end of my vacation, everyone knew who I was at the bar. Bartenders knew me by first name and were taking care of me first (which helped my mother and brother-in-law get served a little quicker whenever they needed a drink). Some people threw a farewell get together for me on my last night. I even had people who were in the lobby looking for me when it was time for me to checkout and leave. It was one of the best true vacations that I have ever been on.

I am not boasting for the hell of it. These people were awesome and I plan on keeping in touch with as many of them as possible. I had an amazing time and these are the types of things that I have always taught my clients and blogged about incessantly. I hope you guys can take these tips and my experiences and make them your own. Whether you are in your hometown and know a lot of people or on vacation and know absolutely no one, you can make your experience an amazing one if you just let go, take some risks and live in the NOW instead of the future of POSSIBILTY and FEAR.

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One of the only things I remember about my grandpa is that he was an Old Spice man. Right there in his bathroom cabinet was always that small white bottle with the iconic sailboat on the side. As such, I’ve always associated the product with the grizzled behavior and no-nonsense attitude that can only come from being an old man. And this grizzled attitude was how Old Spice always sold their products: “Little boys, move along; this here’s a man’s product.”

However, in the past decade or so with the rise of the meterosexual, Old Spice lost a boatload of money after products like Axe Body Spray attacked their market share. Luckily for us, this pushed Old Spice to forgo their “old man and the sea” line of boring ads and instead focus on a younger market, continuing their message of “Old Spice Makes You A Man” but taking it to extreme and absurd levels. As a result, we’re left with an incredible collection of advertisements, which today, are being inducted into our Rad Ad Hall of Fame. To celebrate, I’ve chosen five of our favorites.

Well done, Old Spice. Keep up the good work!

[NOTE: We’re not getting any Old Spice swag to promote this. But if you do work for Old Spice or the ad agency that produced the ads and want to give us plenty of free shit, go right ahead.]

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It’s a few days before our car rental is up, and not many more before Todd leaves Panama. This calls for some sort of grand finale.

“How long does it take to drive from one ocean to another?”

We look it up and find out two key pieces of information. One: it’s a pretty short distance, less than forty-five miles in a straight line. Two: there doesn’t seem to be any posted record for swimming in both the Atlantic and Pacific in the shortest amount of time possible.

Take those bits of information, add about fifteen minutes of Todd and I riling each other up, and you’ve got a challenge on your hands. How quickly could we go from being in one body of water to the other?

We do some research. Accessing the Pacific Ocean in Panama is tricky. Sure you can see it everywhere, but the water near Panama City is gross. You’d never want to swim in it. We find a beach called Playa Bonita (Beautiful Beach) which is pretty close by. Good enough. Finding a beach on the other side is much more difficult. We know roughly on the map where we want to be, but Google Maps doesn’t show many roads for Panama. We’ll have to wing it.

If you have to call a beach “Beautiful Beach”, then it’s a good bet that it’s not actually beautiful. The sand is pretty nice, but the water seems dirty, so we settle on wading rather than swimming. No one else is anywhere near the water.

A few Panamanians look at us strangely as we walk out wearing nothing but Speedos, set our camera up on a rock, and start talking to it. For some reason it takes us a dozen takes to get our intro right, which only contributes to the scene.

Finally we get it right, hit “start” on our stopwatches, and sprint across the beach. The rocks hurt our feet and dodging the glass and debris is a bit of a challenge, but we were on a mission. We are setting a record, unimportant as that record might be, and every second counts.

We squeeze into our rental car and Todd takes off while I struggle to set the camera up in the back of the car. We have the idea that we’ll video the whole event in one continuous shot, but the road vibrations from the poorly maintained roads and the g-forces from Todd taking corners quickly knock the camera around and stop it several times.

Getting out of Panama is stressful. By now we know most of the roads, but we don’t have the lights or traffic patterns down. What we lack in technical knowledge we attempt to compensate for in raw speed. Knowing that even if we get pulled over a quick $20 bribe is all that we’ll face, Todd routinely pushes the car to its absolute maximum, which is just over one hundred miles an hour.

We get on the highway and things go smoothly for the most part. One area is under construction and a confusing detour sets us back by five minutes. I stay glued to my GPS screen. It doesn’t have most of the roads, but I can see us moving closer and closer to the blue area that represents the ocean.

Things get sketchy as we get to the Atlantic coast. There are lots of roads and no signs for beaches. We know we’re close, but the pressure is on. It’s been 86 minutes and we really want to do it in under 90 minutes, just because it’s a round number.

“I don’t think we’re going to make it. Maybe ninety one or ninety two.”

Todd goes even faster. We’re now going ninety on a narrow but empty road near the coastline. Finally we make a gamble. A road that hooks to the left seems like it must get closer to the beach. We take it, slow down for the pedestrians, and continue to drive to where we think the beach is.

The beach has got to be right behind those shacks. “Let’s run for it.”

We jump out of the car and run through the alleys behind the shacks, disturbing roving flocks of chickens. Bystanders can only assume that we are completely out of our minds. We’re at 89 minutes, and are totally screwed if we’re not at the ocean.

Finally we weave behind some sort of monument covered in broken glass and see the waves crashing on the shore. As soon as my feet hit the water I hit the stop button on my watch. The water is so warm and pleasant that I run all the way in and go underwater. I press the water out of my eyes and look at my watch.

1:29:30.

We made our goal with less than half a minute to spare, setting what we believe is the fastest documented time for being in one ocean and  driving to the other. Try beating us!

Make sure to check the blog later this week! I’m going to release the first couple chapters of the Life Nomadic book for free….

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A lot of the game advice you read on my blog or others encompass a wide range of actions and behaviors, including body language, tonality, humor, grooming, story telling, touching, attitude, teasing, and so on. There’s dozens of topics and these days you can find pick-up blogs exclusively to something specific like style or cooking. That’s because game is like sports—it can be discussed without end to infinity. The cat has definitely been let out of the bag and I’m confident that demand for game knowledge will be strong until the end of time.

That said, most things you learn about game are really teaching you just two things:

1. Being interesting

2. Being cool

That’s tight game right there. (I can easily argue that other things compose tight game like persistance and the logistical know-how to get a girl inside a bedroom, but they are not absolutely essential.)

Being interesting is simply being able to arouse a woman’s interest. This comes from telling good stories to negging, to dancing well or making her laugh. A year ago a man told me that all you needed to do to get laid was give a girl “good chat.” The problem is most guys can’t have interesting conversation. They can’t show their positive traits in an intriguing way. They have no experiences to talk about. Their lifestyle is nothing to be emulated or desired.

Being cool is more about not doing awkward things. This begins with the elimination of weird mannerisms and body language problems and ends with having a presence that other people are simply drawn into it. This is a lot more difficult to teach. I can easily tell a guy to not lean in or have a feminine posture, but that’s only half of it. The other half will magically come (I’m being serious) as his confidence goes up and he starts banging a lot of women. It simply falls into place.

If you are interesting and cool then you’re a man who has a quality woman or fucks a lot of girls. If you’re only interesting than you’re the stereotypical shlub who lands a homely Peace Corp girl with that go-getter attitude (”Must get a graduate degree before we have Connor!”). If you’re only cool then you’ll get trashy skanks or club rats (not necessarily a bad thing).

If pretty girls are not regularly attracted to you then you’re not interesting and/or cool. Maybe to your guy friends you are, but to the female race you are not and therefore you will not be rewarded by pussy. Learning game is nothing but an indirect but necessary means to being interesting and cool. When you read a new line or routine, you’re just mimicing the act of being interesting or cool.

My second book, called A Dead Bat In Paraguay, is now out in paperback or eBook. Check out its home page for a video introduction.

In Spring of 2009 I picked up What The Buddha Taught by Walpola Rahula and after reading each chapter I went on the internet for more explanation on concepts mentioned in the book. I took notes on everything so that I could consult with them later, as the beliefs espoused by Buddhism matched very closely to my own.

Here is a sampling of the topics I took notes on:

• The Four Noble Truths
• The Five Aggregates
• The Noble Eightfold Path
• Anatta (Concept of No Soul)
• Meditation
• Five Hindrances to Clear Understanding
• Seven Factors Of Enlightenment

Download my notes in a PDF file (the nested lists would take forever to format for the blog). I reread them myself every month.

My second book, called A Dead Bat In Paraguay, is now out in paperback or eBook. Check out its home page for a video introduction.

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I received a very interesting email from a man who has done both. Let’s take a look:

I wanted to write you a note because you posted a blog about being with a whore or being with a conservative woman.

I know from experience with both that whores are the best. I was married to a conservative woman for four years. I was much like you. I went with a ton of whores who would sleep with me in the first hour of a date. Sometimes we would not even get out of the house for the date we had planned because I had her clothes off already.

I thought to myself, this is not the type of girl to marry. I ended up marrying a very conservative girl. She would do most anything for me and was as sweet as can be. Trouble is I wanted sex all the time and that was something she needed all the planets aligned properly before she could have it. It was ridiculous! We started off having sex a few times a week and I thought, okay I can live with this. Then as we got into our daily routine she got very uptight.If I forgot to take the garbage out she would be saying “I am not in the mood. We need to clean the house. I need you to be more sensitive…” etc, etc, etc. Eventually we went from 3 or 4 times a week to once a week and then once a month and then we went as long as six months. Can you believe that? I cannot even imagine it. I wanted to see what would happen if I did not initiate it. I don’t think she even noticed.

Well, rest assured that relationship ended and sixteen years ago I decided to marry a whore. And, I might add I married one of the biggest whores I could find. My relationship with her is awesome. I swear to you I could call her and tell her to come to my office and blow me and she will without hesitation. We have sex six or seven times a week and often it is her initiating it. She will even and has on occasion been with other men at my request. Yes, this sounds bizarre but after years of begging for it and feeling like it was a reward for good deeds I went a bit crazy but I am glad I did. She literally does what I tell her to do and who I tell her to do.

She would NEVER cheat on me if I preferred it that way but when I tell her to take care of a guy or two or three or actually up to four one time, she will do it without hesitation.

I swear this is true and I can prove it to you. I actually look at my decision to marry her as the single best decision in my life. We have four kids ages 12 to 8 and she is an unbelievable mother. Our kids are very well adjusted. One is gifted and talented. Others are great at sports, dance, etc.

That is it. I say go for the whore.

It could be that he’s only had experience with two extremes, but he paints a picture of one extreme as being far better than the other.

I know what some of you thought when you read this line: “She would NEVER cheat on me.” You thought, “Whatever, she’s cheating on him.”

Let me pose three scenarios and you take a pick of which you prefer.

1. You marry a conservative girl and within a couple years you get mediocre sex once every two weeks.

2. You marry a whore and she fucks the hell out of you whenever you want but she cheats on you behind your back. You never find out about it or even suspect anything.

3. You marry a whore and she fucks the hell out of you whenever you want but you know she cheats on you.

Which is the worst option? Option one of course. If you’re an alpha who marries the whore, I have no doubt that neither two or three will come to fruition and she will be faithful to your cock as long as it can satisfy her.

I know if I ever get married it will be with a dirty girl (foreign of course). Assuming that sex goes down by at least 50% a couple years after marriage, I need to marry a girl who has a deviant sexual appetite. If you marry a girl who barely meets your sexual needs before marriage, guess what’s going to happen after you marry her.

My second book, called A Dead Bat In Paraguay, is now out in paperback or eBook. Check out its home page for a video introduction.

In Spring of 2009 I picked up What The Buddha Taught by Walpola Rahula and after reading each chapter I went on the internet for more explanation on concepts mentioned in the book. I took notes on everything so that I could consult with them later, as the beliefs espoused by Buddhism matched very closely to my own.

Here is a sampling of the topics I took notes on:

• The Four Noble Truths
• The Five Aggregates
• The Noble Eightfold Path
• Anatta (Concept of No Soul)
• Meditation
• Five Hindrances to Clear Understanding
• Seven Factors Of Enlightenment

Download my notes in a PDF file (the nested lists would take forever to format for the blog). I reread them myself every month.

My second book, called A Dead Bat In Paraguay, is now out in paperback or eBook. Check out its home page for a video introduction.

Do you know what the worst thing is about vacation? I mean, apart from the fact that they’re always too short, and involve sitting in uncomfortable airplane seats and having the person in the hotel room next door to you play their television way too loudly. Besides all of that, do you know what the worst thing is about vacation? It’s coming home.

What is it about coming home? Why is it such a downer? I have a nice home. I like my home. I love coming back and seeing my dog. I just never want vacations to end. They’re never long enough.

It was sad seeing New Orleans. It’s the second time I’ve been there post-Katrina, and the city still hasn’t totally recovered. I’m not about to go on a political tangent about how the government screwed that thing up, I’m just going to go on to talk about today’s blog topic.

Whether or not you’re getting sex seems to be a fun conversation, so let’s enjoy it. Also, speaking of sex, take a look at the end of this blog because there’s a sneak peek of a very private offer. (I know some of you only read the beginning and the end of the blog, so I didn’t want any of you to miss out on the prize).

Talking about prizes, how much fun was it as a kid to try to get the prize that came in the bottom of cereal boxes before your brothers and sisters could find them? You always knew when my brother had gotten to a cereal box, because the whole side of the box would look swollen. There’s no way to get those toy surprises in a box of cereal without causing some damage.

Sex is kind of like a prize too. So let’s talk about sex and particularly the “third date sex rule.”

It’s the third date, so it’s time to have sex, right? There seems to be a widespread rumor out there that if you get to a third date with someone, then it’s time to have sex.

What is it with this “it’s the third date so it’s time to have sex” thing? Who made up this rule? Who started it? Was it on an episide of “Sex And The City?” I mean, from where did this “rule” come?

I’m going to tell you exactly what the third date means. If you’re really in touch with yourself and the other person, then the third date signifies the point at which you usually know whether or not this is a person with whom you want to hang, get to know better and with whom you want to see if you can establish some kind of relationship.

Three dates with someone will usually tell you if this is a person you want to get to know better, because you’ve probably spent nine, ten or more hours with them by this time. You’ve had a bunch of phone calls with them in between the dates. You’re getting to know them and learn who they are.

For me, the third date always meant that I liked that persosn, I can hang with them and I want to get to know them better. It doesn’t mean that I sit there all uptight counting down the minutes to the end of date one, counting down the minutes in the second date, and then counting down the minutes to the third date when I can try to get her to come back to my house because it’s the third date and we have to have sex. C’mon…that’s ridiculous.

So from now on when you make it to three dates, instead of just thinking about sex why not ask yourself some better questions:

Do I like this person? Do I want to get to know this person better? Is this person someone whom I respect? Do I like their viewpoint? Can I imagine myself doing things with them (e.g., traveling, going out to dinner)? Do we share some of the same interests? Do I enjoy their company? Do I enjoy listening to them? Do I respect what they do for a living?

Instead of just thinking about whether you’ll vibe together in bed, think about whether you’ll vibe together as people. Because if you vibe together as people, the sex will be great. So stop thinking with Mr. Penis, and start thinking with your heart and with your head. Remember that whenever you let the penis do all of the thinking, the penis is usually wrong.

You know what’s funny too? Some people want to have sex right away. They want to live out a sexual fantasy, but they may have NO clue how to make that happen.

Today, I released a product about sexual fantasies (and how to make them a reality) BUT it’s only available to people on my private subscriber list. If you’re on that list, check your email inbox and the link to (and a video I created about) that product is contained in an email I sent you.

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