10 best ways to seduce a woman
Play an instrument.
Just be certain it’s not the drums. No one wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.
The method of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a bad internet “prank” video.
Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In actuality, he did this three times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.
Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Scientists have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.
Crack a lot of jokes (but only the good ones).
Women love a guy with a good sense of humor. This almost looks like a cliche, right?
But scientists still aren’t completely sure why humor is such a turn-on. At one point, the general consensus was that good jokes showed that a potential partner was smart…but then, several studies proved that humor doesn’t correlate with intelligence.
Jeffrey Hall of the University of Kansas believes that humor may simply show that a guy is sociable, but there’s another possible explanation: Men may be using humor to judge a woman’s attention. Men act like jokers, and girls play along. “The script is strong and it is enduring, and it dictates everything from asking someone out to picking up the tab,” Hall explained.
Needless to say, he also admits that humor may be simply valuable for humor’s sake. That’s a scientific way of saying, “We’re not actually sure what’s going on here, but it’s probably not that important.”
Attracting women isn’t all about appearing attractive, it’s about being attractive from inside, and expressing your positive qualities to the women you interact with.
You can understand why self-loathing guys struggle to get girlfriends. Should you play the victim and hold a negative view on everything, women will repel you.
Learn how to love yourself first before you can love someone else.
The more you invest and ‘love yourself’ the more attractive you’ll be in the eyes of women. With this, you’ll find women come into your life naturally as a by-product to all of this.
To become more attractive within, take pride in your appearance, and concentrate on pursuing your passions.
Be adventurous, take up something you have always wanted to do. Maybe that’s an extreme sport like rock climbing, surfing or motorcross.
But don’t pursue an activity for the sole reason of impressing women. Do it because you would like to do it. Whatever your hobbies and interests are, it’s extremely attractive if women can sense your passion in the way you talk about them and the amount of time you dedicate in pursuing them.
How to attract women: A Beginners Guide
Attracting women is simple, straight-forward, and even logical — when you know how.
And if you want to take the hard work out of turning accidental eye-contact into, flirty smiles and even a feminine hand resting casually on your arm, the first thing you will need to do is forget everything you’ve ever been told about attracting women.
According to the ‘seduction bibles’ floating around the web, mischievously traded between confused 14 year olds in seedy online chat rooms, to attract a woman, you need to activate her attraction switches.
Yes, that’s in fact the way that they talk about attraction, like women were some piece of Ikea furniture you could ‘turn on’ by following the instruction manual and making sure all the screws were in the right places (pun intended).
This is in fact a load of crap — made up by some confused little boys who couldn’t tell the difference between what they did that made a specific woman attracted to them at a particular point in time and the actual mechanism of attraction.
Saying that you need to flick 5 / 9 / 14 ‘attraction switches’ to entice a woman because they were the things you did to attract one woman is like saying you will need to kick a ball forward, then backwards, then with your right foot, then your left foot, then really hard with your right again to score a goal in soccer.
What you did once to achieve an outcome doesn’t mean that that’s how you achieve that outcome each time.
If you walked on a soccer field and just kicked the ball the same way you did the last time you scored a goal then you’re going to miss 99.999% of the time. And in the event that you blindly follow this flawed ‘attraction switch’ theory, you’re going to miss out on attracting the girl, time and time again.
This is because the theory of attraction switches ignores the most fundamental rule of attraction: attraction is a feeling, not a thought.
If you can make a woman experience what she would like to experience, then she will be attracted to you. If you can’t, then she won’t.
That’s it. That’s all there is to it.
If a woman wants to feel excited and alive and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel safe and secure and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel free and unrestricted and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
When you’re able to give a woman what she wants, she’ll be drawn to you like a magnet. If you can’t, then at worst, she’ll be neutral and at worst, she’ll be pushed away from you.
Now, you’re probably thinking: “So what? This isn’t revolutionary. And this doesn’t say anything about attraction switches.”
And you’re right, it’s not revolutionary. Which makes it even more puzzling how the guys who came up with the attraction switch theory missed how obvious this is…
The fact that attraction is a feeling makes the ‘attraction switch’ theory completely wrong on two counts.
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