10 easy ways to attract girl
Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 2:
Answer this: when you woke up this morning, did you crave the same thing for breakfast as you did for lunch? Or, over the course of the day, have your desires changed?
Of course you didn’t.
Why? Because people change. All the time. Every day.
And that means that the experience they’re attracted to changes also.
The party girl who wants to taste freedom might see her ex-boyfriend making out with another girl and all of a sudden desire to feel significant and important
The book worm who craves connection might get her fill and all of a sudden desire to do something exciting and outlandish
The cougar who desires to feel appreciated and important might find her sense of significance and crave an adventure
Women (just like guys) change. Their thoughts change, their feelings change, and their desires change.
You can’t just follow one set script and process to attract women because even if all women did desire the identical experience at one point in time, that desire will change. And when that desire changes, what they are attract to will change.
But that’s not all. There is one more point you need to know about attraction switches
There’s nobody exact set of tools or switches you can use to attract any woman because every woman is different.
Every single one.
Different women want different experiences at different times of the day and to give them the experience they want (and have them attracted to you because of it), you can’t just follow a script or a prescribed set of actions.
Attracting women isn’t all about appearing attractive, it’s about being attractive from inside, and expressing your positive qualities to the girls you interact with.
You can understand why self-loathing guys struggle to get girlfriends. If you play the victim and hold a negative view on everything, women will repel you.
Learn how to love yourself first before you can love somebody else.
The more you invest and ‘love yourself’ the more attractive you’ll be in the eyes of women. And with this, you’ll find women come into your life naturally as a by-product to all this.
To become more attractive within, take pride in your appearance, and concentrate on pursuing your passions.
Be adventurous, take up something you have always wanted to do. Maybe that’s an extreme sport like rock climbing, surfing or motorcross.
Do it because YOU want to do it. Whatever your hobbies and interests are, it’s extremely attractive if women can sense your passion in the way that you talk about them and the amount of time you dedicate in pursuing them.
How to attract women: A Beginners Guide
Attracting women is straightforward, straight-forward, and even logical — when you know how.
And if you want to take the hard work out of turning accidental eye-contact into, flirty smiles and even a feminine hand resting casually on your arm, the first thing you need to do is forget everything you’ve ever been told about attracting women.
According to the ‘seduction bibles’ floating around the internet, mischievously traded between confused 14 year olds in seedy internet chat rooms, to attract a woman, you want to activate her attraction switches.
Yes, that’s in fact the way that they talk about attraction, like women were some piece of Ikea furniture you could ‘turn on’ by following the instruction manual and making sure all of the screws were in the perfect places (pun intended).
This is in fact a load of crap — made up by some confused little boys who couldn’t tell the difference between what they did that made a specific woman attracted to them at a particular point in time and the actual mechanism of attraction.
Saying that you have to flick 5 / 9 / 14 ‘attraction switches’ to attract a woman since they were the things you did to attract one woman is like saying you need to kick a ball forward, then backwards, then with your right foot, then your left foot, then really hard with your right again to score a goal in soccer.
What you did once to achieve an outcome doesn’t mean that that’s how you achieve that outcome each time.
If you walked onto a soccer field and just kicked the ball the exact same way you did the last time you scored a goal then you’re going to miss 99.999% of the time. And in the event that you blindly follow this flawed ‘attraction switch’ theory, you’re likely to miss out on attracting the girl, time and time again.
This is because the theory of attraction switches ignores the most fundamental rule of attraction: attraction is a feeling, not a thought.
If you can make a woman experience what she wants to experience, then she is going to be attracted to you. If you can’t, then she won’t.
That’s it. That’s all there is to it.
If a woman wants to feel excited and alive and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel safe and secure and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel free and unrestricted and you’ll be able to give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
When you’re able to give a woman what she wants, she’ll be drawn to you like a magnet. If you can’t, then at worst, she’ll be neutral and at worst, she’ll be pushed away from you.
Now, you’re probably thinking: “So what? This isn’t revolutionary. And this doesn’t say anything about attraction switches.”
And you’re right, it is not revolutionary. Which makes it even more puzzling how the guys who came up with the attraction switch theory missed how obvious this is…
The fact that attraction is a feeling makes the ‘attraction switch’ theory completely wrong on two counts.
A man of standing.
Women wish to be desired by a strong man. If you are perceived to be of higher standing around the people you interact with, you hold the magic power to entice infinite women into your life.
Status is determined by two things — how you present yourself and how you behave around women.
Even though some factors (genetic makeup and prosperity) are somewhat out of our control, there are many small changes you can make to look as a man of status.
Keep fit, hit the gym, eat healthy, and taking pride in what you wear. If you wish to attract high value women start dressing like a high value man.
You don’t need to wear designer labels and flash a rolex to dress well.
In terms of how you behave around women, your status is dependent on your level of confidence.
Smell like gasoline, printer ink, or leather…or, just smell.
This survey wasn’t performed with proper scientific controls, but it’s almost too interesting to ignore. Daz, a soap company, surveyed 2,000 people to find the most attractive scents. The results indicated that gasoline, printer ink, paint, and leather were the most sensually exciting scents on a guy, while lipstick and baby lotion were most attractive on a woman.
We’d definitely take that info with a grain of salt, but scientists do believe that scent plays a role in attraction. Some studies indicate that the human nose has pheromone receptors, which would indicate that we’ve got the biological gear necessary to process chemical cues from our potential mates.
So, how does that actually work in dating? One study showed that women exposed to male sweat felt more arousal than women exposed to other substances.
No word on what those other substances were, but we’re guessing that they weren’t printer ink, paint, or leather.
All of us know the stereotype about the older man and the younger woman. According to a zoologist named Stephen Proulx, that stereotype has its basis in the animal kingdom. From there, it traveled the lines evolution to land squarely in the contemporary human heart.
Basically, Proulx’s argument goes like this: In nature, males don’t tend to live that long. If you’re a female deer and you meet a majestic, elderly stag with a complete head of antlers, odds are that potential mate is packing some healthy genes.
At the dawn of humanity, males didn’t live much past their twenties. If women encountered a healthy male specimen who managed to beat the odds, their evolutionary psychology might push them toward attraction. It’s all about the genes.
However, this trick doesn’t work for every male of any species. You can’t just be old. You also need to be sort of fit. “If males can display ostentatiously at that age, then they really need something going for them,” Proulx told The Observer.
It may not be a bad idea to spring for that gym membership.
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