10 best ways to seduce a girl
How to attract women: A Beginners Guide
Attracting women is straightforward, straight-forward, and even logical — when you know how.
And if you want to take the hard work out of turning accidental eye-contact into, flirty smiles and even a feminine hand resting casually on your arm, the first thing you need to do is forget everything you’ve ever been told about attracting women.
According to the ‘seduction bibles’ floating around the web, mischievously traded between confused 14 year olds in seedy internet chat rooms, to attract a woman, you need to activate her attraction switches.
Yes, that’s actually the way they talk about attraction, like women were some piece of Ikea furniture you could ‘turn on’ by following the instruction manual and making sure all the screws were in the perfect places (pun intended).
This is in fact a load of crap — made up by some confused little boys who couldn’t tell the difference between what they did that made a specific woman attracted to them at a particular point in time and the actual mechanism of attraction.
Saying that you need to flick 5 / 9 / 14 ‘attraction switches’ to attract a woman because they were the things you did to attract 1 woman is like saying you will need to kick a ball forward, then backwards, then with your right foot, then your left foot, then really hard with your right again to score a goal in soccer.
What you did once to achieve an outcome doesn’t mean that that’s how you achieve that outcome each time.
If you walked on a soccer field and just kicked the ball the same way you did the last time you scored a goal then you’re likely to miss 99.999% of the time. And in the event that you blindly follow this flawed ‘attraction switch’ theory, you’re going to miss out on attracting the girl, time and time again.
This is because the theory of attraction switches ignores the most fundamental rule of attraction: attraction is a feeling, not a thought.
If you can make a woman experience what she wants to experience, then she will be attracted to you. If you can’t, then she won’t.
That’s it. That’s all there is to it.
If a woman wants to feel excited and alive and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel safe and secure and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel free and unrestricted and you’ll be able to give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
When you can give a woman what she wants, she’ll be drawn to you like a magnet. If you can’t, then at worst, she’ll be neutral and at worst, she’ll be pushed away from you.
Now, you’re probably thinking: “So what? This isn’t revolutionary. And this doesn’t say anything about attraction switches.”
And you’re right, it is not revolutionary. Which makes it even more puzzling how the guys who came up with the attraction switch theory missed how obvious this is…
The fact that attraction is a feeling makes the ‘attraction switch’ theory completely wrong on two counts.
Speed of Attraction.
It takes 13 milliseconds to ascertain if you find someone attractive, which really works both to your advantage and disadvantage. Of course it’s easier when you’re at a party or bar to ascertain the girl that you want to spend your time chatting up. But additionally, it means women are judging you in less than one split second. So what can you do to make sure you’re looking good during that critical first impression?
When it comes to attraction, confidence is everything.
If you’re a guy who goes after what he wants, is a leader of people and has a higher perception of himself over others, women will find you attractive.
Rather than the guy who’s worried about making a move, follows the crowd, and puts women on a pedestal when he talks to them.
— Assume every girl is interested in you
— Don’t be ashamed to express your sexual desire
— Focus on teasing a girl Instead of complimenting her all the time
— Relax your body posture. Keep your chin up and make slow, non-jerky movements when gesticulating and turning your head.
— When talking to a girl, ask questions to get her qualifying herself to you. eg.
Play an instrument.
Just make sure it’s not the drums. Nobody wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.
The procedure of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a bad internet “prank” video.
Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In actuality, he did this three times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.
Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Researchers have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.
It’s great that you have a nice car and a great job, but don’t tell her that directly. Although women are attracted to wealth, they are not attracted to men who brag about it. The main reason behind this is that women can sense that a propensity to brag likely stems from low confidence. Instead of bragging, tell her an intriguing story that allows her to decipher independently that you’re successful.
Women don’t want to be interviewed
Rather than asking her of questions like “where are you from” and “what do you do for fun,” make a definitive statement or a cold read. By way of example, say “you have a New York vibe” or “you must be a lawyer.” This is a terrific system to stop the conversation from turning into a boring interview. Try to practice this tactic the next time you’re in a bar as it is a crucial behavioral component to draw women. We use a lot of techniques to help guys improve their conversational skills (trigger words is just one).
Playful and exciting.
Ladies love the thrill of danger and excitement. They want to be rescued from the boredom of everyday life. If you can be that guy and supply the experience a girl craves, she’ll find you attractive.
To do so, focus on being playful around women. Joke around, be spontaneous, tease them, and tell interesting stories about your life.
And try role playing different circumstances. Ladies love role play. Pretend you’re hiding from FBI agents, and need a girl’s help to escort you to the bar unscathed.
The ability to excite a girl is like a drug — give her what she desires, and she’ll keep coming back for more.
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