secrets women use to attract men
Attracting women isn’t all about appearing attractive, it’s about being attractive from within, and expressing your positive qualities to the girls you interact with.
You can understand why self-loathing guys struggle to get girlfriends. If you play the victim and maintain a negative view on everything, women will repel you.
Learn how to love yourself first before you can love somebody else. Think “Would I date me?”
The more you invest and ‘love yourself’ the more attractive you are going to be in the eyes of women. And with this, you’ll find women come into your life naturally as a by-product to all of this.
To become more attractive inside, take pride in your appearance, and concentrate on pursuing your passions.
Be adventurous, take up something you have always wanted to do.
Do it because you would like to do it. Whatever your hobbies and interests are, it’s extremely attractive if women can sense your passion in how you speak about them and the amount of time you dedicate in pursuing them.
How to attract women: A Beginners Guide
Attracting women is simple, straight-forward, and even logical — when you know how.
And if you would like to take the hard work out of turning accidental eye-contact into, flirty smiles and even a feminine hand resting casually on your arm, the first thing you need to do is forget everything you’ve ever been told about attracting women.
According to the ‘seduction bibles’ floating around the internet, mischievously traded between confused 14 year olds in seedy internet chat rooms, to attract a woman, you need to activate her attraction switches.
Yes, that’s actually the way that they talk about attraction, like women were some piece of Ikea furniture you could ‘turn on’ by following the instruction manual and making sure all the screws were in the right places (pun intended).
This is in fact a load of crap — made up by some confused little boys who couldn’t tell the difference between what they did that made a particular woman attracted to them at a specific point in time and the actual mechanism of attraction.
Saying that you have to flick 5 / 9 / 14 ‘attraction switches’ to entice a woman because they were the things you did to attract one woman is like saying you need to kick a ball forward, then backwards, then with your right foot, then your left foot, then really hard with your right again to score a goal in soccer.
What you did once to achieve an outcome doesn’t mean that that’s how you achieve that outcome every time.
If you walked onto a soccer field and just kicked the ball the same way you did the last time you scored a goal then you’re going to miss 99.999% of the time. And if you blindly follow this flawed ‘attraction switch’ theory, you’re going to miss out on attracting the girl, again and again.
This is because the theory of attraction switches ignores the most fundamental rule of attraction: attraction is a feeling, not a thought.
If you can make a woman experience what she wants to experience, then she is going to be attracted to you. If you can’t, then she won’t.
That’s it. That’s all there is to it.
If a woman wants to feel excited and alive and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel safe and secure and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel free and unrestricted and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
When you can give a woman what she wants, she’ll be drawn to you like a magnet. If you can’t, then at worst, she’ll be neutral and at worst, she’ll be pushed away from you.
Now, you’re probably thinking: “So what? This isn’t revolutionary. And this doesn’t say anything about attraction switches.”
And you’re right, it’s not revolutionary. Which makes it even more puzzling how the guys who developed the attraction switch theory missed how obvious this is…
The fact that attraction is a feeling makes the ‘attraction switch’ theory completely wrong on two counts.
Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 2:
Answer this: when you woke up this morning, did you crave the same thing for breakfast as you did for lunch? Or, over the course of the day, have your desires changed?
Of course you didn’t.
Why? Because people change. All the time. Every day.
And that means that the experience they’re attracted to changes also.
The party girl who wants to taste freedom might see her ex-boyfriend making out with another girl and all of a sudden desire to feel significant and important
The book worm who craves connection might get her fill and All a sudden desire to do something exciting and outlandish
The cougar who desires to feel appreciated and important might find her sense of significance and then crave an adventure
Women (just like guys) change. Their thoughts change, their feelings change, and their desires change.
You can’t just follow one set script and process to attract women because even if all women did desire the same experience at one point in time, that desire is going to change. And when that desire changes, what they are attract to will change.
But that’s not all. There’s one more point you need to know about attraction switches
There’s nobody exact set of resources or switches you can use to attract any woman because every woman is different.
Every single one.
Various women want different experiences at different times of the day and to give them the experience they want (and have them attracted to you because of it), you can’t just follow a script or a prescribed set of actions.
Forget the pickup lines.
Yes, they’ve studied this. Not one but two groundbreaking studies of classic cheesy pickup lines seem to suggest that (SPOILER ALERT) they don’t work. Almost 90 percent of the women in one of these studies rated those bad old pickup lines as extremely useless.
Something like 65 percent of the women surveyed in a Personality and Individual Differences article said they appreciate an easy, confident, and direct approach.
Can the cheesy lines, even when you’re trying to be ironic. In actuality, we tried to include a sample of bad pickup lines in this list, but they’re all too bad.
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Just remember that a simple, self-assured “hello” will get you a lot further, and you won’t be as ashamed of yourself in the morning.
Playful and exciting.
Ladies love the thrill of danger and excitement. They want to be rescued from the boredom of everyday life. If you can be that guy and provide the experience a girl craves, she’ll find you attractive.
To do so, focus on being playful around women. Joke around, be spontaneous, tease them, and tell interesting stories about your life.
And try role playing different circumstances. Women love role play. Pretend you’re hiding from FBI agents, and need a girl’s help to escort you to the bar unscathed.
The ability to excite a girl is like a drug — give her what she desires, and she’ll keep coming back for more.
Tell stories, rather than brag.
Bragging screams neediness and reduced confidence. …I make a great deal of money and drive a Ferrari…. did I mention I make lot’s of money?!”
If you happen to drive a Ferrari, do not feel the need to tell a woman straight away. Rather tell interesting stories about your life so she can work out for herself if you’re successful and a man of status.
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