1st conversation with a girl

1st conversation with a girl

1st conversation with a girl

Stop Romanticizing Women

Virtually every guy I know who has trouble keeping conversation going with girls has this strong inclination to romanticize women. They see women as flawless, especially beautiful ones, they think women in general are above them and hard to impress, and they believe they must always say something brilliant in conversation to be able to keep a women’s interest.

They don’t see anything they need to say as good enough, they pressure themselves to be witty with every comment they make, and thus they end up having little to say in a discussion.

This is the reason it’s crucial to stop romanticizing women. It will allow you to relax around women, be confident, and speak your mind without second guessing yourself all the time. And this is a really attractive behavior, which coincidentally also makes conversation feel effortless.

Naturally, to stop romanticizing women is easier said than done. We are talking about changing a thinking and behavioral habit, which demands particular psychological techniques.

Think back to the last time you had a conversation with a woman you were interested in.

Let me ask you something… what are you focusing on the MOST? Was it:

Wondering if you will get her phone number?
Trying to make a good impression, so she will like you?
Doing your best to sound confident and smooth?

I have been thinking about this a lot now, and I realized that one of the biggest mistakes us men make is that we’re too focused on “what she thinks of us” or “if we are going to get what we want (phone number, first date, sex, etc)”… we completely forget the objective of the dialogue, which is…

Getting to know the person in front of you!

It sounds easy, but if you remember this when you are in the real world talking to a real woman, you will loosen up, and start genuinely try to get to know her, and she’ll FEEL that.

If she feels like you’re actually interested in her, she’ll become considerably more interested in YOU. I’ve got a few great tips for you to use next time you speak to a nice looking girl.

Talk about somebody or something in the Area

You may observe a individual wearing outrageous clothing, somebody acting inappropriately, a fight, etc.. Use whatever is happening around you for the conversation, especially if she shows some sort of reaction to it. By way of example, if you observe some dude wearing a ridiculous outfit you could say something like: “I think we just found your future husband!” You’ll be surprised just how well this works.

Bait her with an overheard comment

This technique differs in the sense that rather than approaching her, she’ll overhear you talking to a friend and will feel compelled to approach you to learn what you’re discussing. Make a comment loud enough that she’ll happen to overhear, something interesting or provocative enough that she’ll have to hear more. Something like: “Secretly, I think all women do it.” If she hears this fragment, she’ll want to find out more. “What? She’ll want to ask. And from there, you’re home free!

Observe and critique the last guy to chat her up

If you spot a person who fails horribly while trying to pick up on a woman, approach her shortly after he leaves. Ask her: “So how did he do?” She should find a laugh out of this. Critique his attempt, his style, body language, etc.. This communicates all the perfect things, and is a simple in for you to shine with good conversation, and a playful, winning personality.

Ask her some questions.

You want to show her that you’re interested in her while at the same time deciding whether she’s really worth your interest. [2] A excellent question will make her think, laugh, and like you, all at exactly the same time.

Avoid “yes” and “no” questions. A question like, “Did you like the new movie that came out this weekend?” will get you either a “yes” or a “no” but may not launch a meaningful conversation. This sort of question will find a much longer answer from her.

Girls often like guys to make the first move. Rather than waiting for her to ask you questions, be proactive and do the asking first. You want a balanced conversation in which you find out what she’s about while also sharing parts of yourself.

Find out what she’s passionate about. If you like this girl, then odds are you find something about her really fascinating. Ask her why she likes what she likes, or why she thinks what she thinks. Ask her something that you genuinely want to learn more about instead of asking questions simply to get her to talk. If you’re insincere, she’ll know, and your conversation will be dead in the water.

People like to talk about themselves. If you find out what she’s passionate about, the conversation will go naturally and easily. This is the easiest way to construct a connection.

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1st conversation with a woman

1st conversation with a woman

1st conversation with a woman

Ask her some questions.

You want to show her that you’re interested in her while at the same time deciding whether she’s really worth your interest. [2] A great question will make her think, laugh, and like you, all at exactly the exact same time.

A question like, “Did you like the new movie that came out this weekend?” will get you either a “yes” or a “no” but may not launch a meaningful conversation. This type of question will get a much longer answer from her.

Girls often like guys to make the first move. Rather than waiting for her to ask you questions, be proactive and do the asking first. You need a balanced conversation in which you find out what she’s all about while also sharing parts of yourself.

If you like this girl, then chances are you find something about her really fascinating. Ask her why she likes what she likes, or why she thinks what she thinks. Ask her something that you genuinely want to learn more about rather than asking questions simply to get her to talk. If you’re insincere, she’ll know, and your conversation will be dead in the water.

People like to talk about themselves. If you find out what she’s passionate about, the conversation will go naturally and easily. This is the easiest way to construct a connection.

Ask her opinion

Among the most effective ways to begin a conversation is to ask her opinion on something. This works especially well with groups of women, and with a topic they would love to talk about. Fashion, relationships, celebrity gossip: the topics are endless. The important point to remember is to make it look like you are actually interested in getting someone’s opinion. “My friends and I disagree on something, maybe you can help answer this. If the question is engaging enough, women will jump at the chance to answer.

Accept pauses.

You’re not going to be able to think of something to say at every point during the conversation, and that’s completely okay. Pauses are a natural part of conversation. Get her comfortable with the notion of pauses by using pauses or deliberations sparingly in your own speech.

Smile at her, have a sip from your drink or look around the room until you come up with something new to say. So long as you seem confident and interested, she’ll wait with plenty of anticipation for the next step in the conversation. When you look nervous or stare at your feet, then she’ll feel uncomfortable, and she’s likely to say “see you later.”

Use pauses throughout the conversation. When you dive, look as if you are carefully considering what you want to say. She’ll be invested in trying to find out what you are going to say , and she may feel pressured to fill the silence with her own conversation.

People’s rate of speech naturally synchronizes when they’re talking. That means that people unconsciously mimic how quickly the other person is talking. So if you talk slowly, she’ll talk slowly, and the conversation will last longer. The key to talking slowly is being confident, not nervous.

Think of the pauses as her opportunity to impress you. Don’t feel as if you need to generate topic after topic for conversation. During the pause, you want to silently invite her to take the initiative. If she does, then you’ll know that she’s enjoying talking to you.

Focus on body language.

For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as if you’re focused on her.

Watch the way she uses her body. If she makes eye contact with you, lightly touches your arm or leans in toward you as you’re talking, then you can feel confident that she’s into you.

Make sure you’re projecting great body language, too. Don’t cross your arms, tap your feet, sigh or groan audibly. All these tics are signs that you’re bored or dissatisfied with her.

If she’s constantly looking away, fiddling with her beverage or her jewellery or looking like she can’t wait to escape, then you may be losing her interest. You can try saying something like, “Are you having a bad day? You look as if you’re a million miles away.” Or, if the conversation hasn’t been all that interesting to start with, just politely say, “Nice talking to you” and walk away.

Manage Your Anxiety

Guys who want to know how to keep a conversation going with a girl typically feel a lot of anxiety when talking to girls, or even just considering it. Their heart races, their mind often goes blank, and this naturally makes dialogue difficult.

Nearly every time, this anxiety is the real root of the problem. Not a lack of conversation skills; or at least, not as much. And if you wanna be able to produce effortless conversation with a girl, you will need to weed out the problem from its root.

To put it differently, you will need to learn how to manage your anxiety around girls, so you can feel at ease talking to any girl. Then you’ll naturally be able to have conversations as long as you desire.

Because this is an intricate topic, I address it separately and in more detail in this special video. I recommend you watch it right now, because in it you’ll learn some of the most effective data in existence about eliminating conversation anxiety and building conversation confidence. So be sure to watch it.

I know talking to a girl might be tough for you at this time. But trust me, this can completely change. Yes, it will take some work. You have to learn how to deal with your nervousness, and you need to create better conversation habits for yourself.

The good news is that there are quality resources and specialists ready to help you on this journey. If you haven’t already, I invite you to join my free social confidence newsletter, and you’ll receive regular advice from me for improving your social confidence and social skills.

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1st phone call to a girl

1st phone call to a girl

1st phone call to a girl

1st phone call to a girl

Notice what she gives you.

Here’s what I mean. If, during the conversation, she mentions that she went bowling last week with her best friend, then you should ASK her about it. She’s giving you a way to ask her about her personal interests, and she’s hoping you’ll pick up on that, and run with it.

* Oh that’s cool, I used to bowl in a league.

What other kind of things you and your friends to together?

* I think that’s awesome that you like bowling, since it’s one of my favorite things.

Bear in mind, take what she gives you, and use it as an entry way into a deeper conversation about personal interests, instead of being stuck in endless small talk (which she doesn’t want either).

Bait her with an overheard comment

This technique is different in the sense that rather than approaching her, she’ll overhear you talking to a friend and will feel compelled to approach you to learn what you’re discussing. Make a comment loud enough that she will happen to overhear, something interesting or provocative enough that she’ll need to hear more. Something like: “Secretly, I think all women do it.” If she hears this fragment, she’ll want to find out more. “What? She’ll want to ask.

Ask her some questions.

You want to show her that you’re interested in her while at the same time deciding whether she’s really worth your interest. [2] A great question will make her think, laugh, and like you, all at the exact same time.

A question like, “Did you like the new movie that came out this weekend?” will get you either a “yes” or a “no” but may not launch a meaningful conversation. This type of question will find a much longer answer from her.

Rather than waiting for her to ask you questions, be proactive and do the asking first. You want a balanced conversation in which you find out what she’s all about while also sharing parts of yourself.

Find out what she’s passionate about. If you like this girl, then odds are you find something about her really fascinating. Ask her why she likes what she likes, or why she thinks what she thinks. Ask her something that you genuinely wish to learn more about rather than asking questions just to get her to talk. If you’re insincere, she’ll know, and your conversation will be dead in the water.

People love to talk about themselves. If you find out what she’s passionate about, the conversation will go naturally and easily. This is the easiest way to construct a connection.

Stop Romanticizing Women

Virtually every guy I know who has trouble keeping conversation going with girls has this strong inclination to romanticize women. They see women as flawless, especially beautiful ones, they think women generally are above them and hard to impress, and they believe they must always say something brilliant in conversation in order to keep a women’s interest.

This mindset is very far from reality, and it makes it hard for them to hold a conversation with girl. They don’t see anything they need to say as good enough, they pressure themselves to be witty with every comment they make, and thus they end up having little to say in a discussion.

This is the reason it’s imperative to stop romanticizing women. It will allow you to relax around women, be confident, and speak your mind without second guessing yourself all the time. And this is a really attractive behavior, which coincidentally also makes conversation feel effortless.

Of course, to stop romanticizing women is easier said than done. We are talking about changing a believing and behavioral habit, which demands particular psychological techniques.

Accept pauses.

You’re not going to be able to think of something to say at every point during the conversation, and that’s completely okay. Pauses are a natural part of conversation. Get her comfortable with the idea of pauses by using pauses or deliberations sparingly in your own speech.

Smile at her, have a sip from your drink or look around the room until you come up with something new to say. So long as you seem confident and interested, she’ll wait with plenty of anticipation for the next step in the conversation. If you look nervous or stare at your feet, then she’ll feel uncomfortable, and she’s very likely to say “see you later.”

Use pauses throughout the conversation. When you pause, look as though you are carefully considering what you would like to say. She will be invested in trying to find out what you are going to say next, and she could feel pressured to fill the silence with her own conversation.

People’s rate of speech naturally synchronizes when they’re talking. That means that people unconsciously mimic how quickly the other person is talking. So if you talk slowly, she’ll talk slowly, and the conversation will last longer. The key to talking slowly is being confident, not nervous.

Consider the pauses as her chance to impress you. Don’t feel like you will need to create topic after topic for conversation. During the pause, you want to silently invite her to take the initiative. If she does, then you’ll know that she’s enjoying talking to you.

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Find out Her Interests

Guys often have a difficult time knowing what to talk about with a girl because they don’t know her interests. They may think: “I can talk about computers, because I’m interested in this subject; but will she be interested?”

One approach to solve this predicament is by trial and error. You start talking about a particular topic that you think she might be considering, and if she does indeed seem interested, you keep talking about it. Otherwise, you move to another topic, and another, and another, wanting to find those that she can relate to. And this is a natural part of a regular conversation.

However, there’s an even better way to manage this predicament. Early in the conversation, you ask the girl a simple, straightforward question that elicits her interests. I typically like to ask something like: “So, what do you like to do?” or “Tell me: what are your interests?”

She will mention some of them, and I know what I can discuss that she’ll enjoy. I then identify among those topics the ones I enjoy as well, and I understand these are directions I can confidently take the conversation in. This is how to keep a conversation going with a girl by finding common ground.

Don’t ask for a date. OFFER a date instead.

You’re not a child who needs to ask permission anymore. If you want to take a woman out, just let her know that you’re interested in make an offer to spend time together at some place interesting.

A great deal of people make offers to you every day. Some you accept, some you don’t. Here’s an every day example:

Usually you’ll hear something like, “You can upgrade that to a combo meail for only a dollar more. Would you like to do that today?”

It’s kind of the exact same thing with talking to women.

She’s already ordered the sandwich by having a wonderful conversation with you right now. You can just let her know that you enjoy her company, and you want to offer her a chance to keep on getting to know each other. If she says no, it doesn’t have anything to do with you as an individual. It’s just not something she’s interested in, just like you’re not interested in buying the combo meal sometimes.

Those fast food places offering the combos with each order have dramatically increased their total sales volume by juat making that simple offer.

YOU could do the exact same thing with your love life!

You could dramatically increase the amount of women you date just by offering each one that you’re interested in a chance to get to know you even better. The next 2 will say yes. But ALWAYS make the offer.

The 14 year old kid at the drive thru isn’t scared of you saying “No thanks, and you shouldn’t be fearful of some woman saying the same thing.

Manage Your Anxiety

Guys who wish to know how to keep a conversation going with a girl typically feel a whole lot of anxiety when talking to girls, or even just considering it. Their heart races, their mind often goes blank, and this naturally makes dialogue difficult.

Virtually every time, this anxiety is the real root of the problem. Not a lack of conversation skills; or at least, not as much. And if you wanna be able to produce effortless conversation with a girl, you need to weed out the problem from its root.

To put it differently, you will need to learn how to deal with your anxiety around girls, so you can feel at ease talking to any girl. Then you’ll naturally be able to have conversations as long as you want.

Because this is an intricate topic, I address it separately and in more detail in this special video. I recommend you watch it right now, because in it you’ll learn some of the most effective information in existence about eliminating conversation anxiety and building conversation confidence. So be sure you watch it.

I know talking to a girl might be tough for you at this time. But trust me, this can completely change. Yes, it will take some work. You have to learn how to deal with your nervousness, and you need to create better conversation habits for yourself.

The fantastic thing is that there are quality resources and specialists ready to assist you on this journey. When you haven’t already, I invite you to join my free social confidence newsletter, and you will receive regular advice from me for improving your social confidence and social skills.

Ask her opinion

One of the most effective ways to begin a conversation is to ask her opinion on something. This works especially well with groups of women, and with a topic they would love to talk about. Fashion, relationships, celebrity gossip: the topics are endless. The important point to remember is to make it look as if you are actually interested in getting a person’s opinion. “My friends and I disagree on something, perhaps you can help answer this. Why is ’80s fashion coming back? What’s up with that?” If the question is engaging enough, women will jump at the opportunity to answer.

Ask her some questions.

You need to show her that you’re interested in her while at the same time deciding whether she’s really worth your interest. [2] A great question will make her think, laugh, and like you, all at the exact same time.

Avoid “yes” and “no” questions. A question like, “Did you enjoy the new movie that came out this weekend?” will get you either a “yes” or a “no” but may not launch a meaningful conversation. This type of question will find a much longer answer from her.

Girls often like guys to make the first move. Rather than waiting for her to ask you questions, be proactive and do the asking first. You want a balanced conversation in which you find out what she’s all about while also sharing parts of yourself.

If you like this girl, then odds are you find something about her really fascinating. Ask her why she likes what she likes, or why she thinks what she thinks. Ask her something that you genuinely wish to learn more about rather than asking questions simply to get her to talk. If you’re insincere, she’ll know, and your conversation will be dead in the water.

People like to talk about themselves. If you find out what she’s passionate about, the conversation will go naturally and easily. This is the easiest way to build a connection.

Bait her with an overheard comment

This technique differs in the sense that rather than approaching her, she will overhear you talking to a friend and will feel compelled to approach you to find out what you’re discussing. Make a comment loud enough that she’ll happen to overhear, something interesting or provocative enough that she will have to hear more. Something like: “Secretly, I think all women do it.” If she hears this fragment, she will want to know more. “What? What do all women do?” She’ll want to ask. And from there, you’re home free!

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Ask her direct questions about her personal interests.

Don’t make the mistake of spending too much time talking about “surface level” stuff, like the weather, or the other members of the place, or the band that’s playing.

If you see that she’s wearing an intriguing necklace, ask her about it. If you saw her playing pool before, ask her who taught her how to play.

The point is… you want to discuss personal stuff, not surface level crap. Begin with small talk, but move out of it after a few minutes, or she’ll get bored of the conversation (and so will you).

Ask open-ended questions.

The difference between a close-ended question and an open-ended question is that when you ask a close-ended question the answer is either yes or no. An open-ended question uses What, When, Where, How and Why, but the purpose behind asking the questions is to elicit someone else’s opinions, thoughts, and feelings.

Before you head out the door, create a list of 5 or 10 things you can talk about — be it current events, politics, sports, or a hobby — and be open to listening and hearing differing opinions.

Listen.

I mean, you gotta. Why else are you on this earth? You cannot ask good questions without listening and observing and learning about what another individual cares about. You can’t have a good conversation without good questions. So you see, listening is the foundation for the whole damn carnival ride.

 

Start things off to invite her to talk.

Pay attention to the scenario, and mold your invitation to the circumstances. Don’t, for instance, ask her a random astronomy question when she’s shopping for shoes.

If you want to strike up a conversation with a girl you don’t know, try making a recommendation. For example, if you find a beautiful girl at a coffee shop, and she looks undecided about her order, then recommend your favorite drink or tell her that you’re going to guess exactly what she wants just by looking at her.

When you already know the girl, start with some common ground. If you’re in school together, then make a comment about classes or discuss your extra curricular activities. If you’re working together, then start a chat about some workplace news, or request her help with something that you’re working on.

For example, ask her to watch your stuff (like your phone) while you go get her something to drink. It will also make them feel trustworthy and maybe even curious.

If she seems amazing that day or if she said something amazing during class, then tell her so. Compliment her hair, or her smile, or her dress. Stay away from her more feminine features. Ensure that your compliment is genuine and not phony.

Focus on body language.

For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as though you’re focused on her.

Watch the way she uses her body. If she makes eye contact with you, lightly touches your arm or leans in toward you while you’re talking, then you can feel confident that she’s into you.

Be sure to’re projecting great body language, too. Don’t cross your arms, tap your feet, sigh or groan audibly. All these tics are signs that you’re bored or dissatisfied with her.

If she’s constantly looking away, fiddling with her beverage or her jewelry or looking like she can not wait to escape, then you might be losing her interest. You can try saying something like, “Are you having a bad day? You look as if you’re a million miles away.” Or, if the conversation hasn’t been all that interesting to start with, just politely say, “Nice talking to you” and walk away.

Think of funny and interesting stories

Always have a few interesting and special stories. Consider them before you go out so they are at your disposal. They ought to be stories that are smooth conversation starters like, “The weirdest thing just happened to me, you wouldn’t believe it!” If you tell it well, she’ll be on the edge of her seat, wanting to find out more. Whatever you decide to talk about, be sure that it makes you look good — you want to come across as confident and humorous, but not arrogant. These stories will distinguish you from everyone else, and will offer her some insight into your character, enough for her to want to find out more.

Manage Your Anxiety

Guys who want to learn how to keep a conversation going with a girl typically feel a whole lot of anxiety when talking to girls, or even just thinking about it. Their heart races, their mind often goes blank, and this naturally makes dialogue difficult.

Virtually every time, this anxiety is the real root of the problem. Not a lack of conversation skills; or at least, not as much. And if you wanna be able to make effortless conversation with a girl, you will need to weed out the problem from its root.

In other words, you will need to learn how to manage your anxiety around girls, so you can feel at ease talking to any girl. Then you’ll naturally be able to have conversations as long as you desire.

Since this is an intricate topic, I address it separately and in more detail in this special video. I recommend you watch it right now, because in it you’ll learn some of the most powerful information in existence about eliminating conversation anxiety and building conversation confidence. So be sure to watch it.

I know talking to a girl may be tough for you at this time. But trust me, this can completely change. Yes, it will take some work. You need to learn how to deal with your nervousness, and you need to create better conversation habits for yourself.

The good thing is that there are quality resources and specialists ready to help you on this journey. When you haven’t already, I invite you to join my free social confidence newsletter, and you’ll receive regular advice from me for improving your social confidence and social skills.

Latest events

Prior to going out tonight, read up on the news today and stay informed on the latest celebrity gossip and entertainment news. This is perfect material for conversations. You’ll want to pay special attention to the latest celebrity bad behaviour (there’s something new every week). There are many ways to use this. For example, if you see that somebody is overly drunk, you can compare them to the latest celeb spotted falling from a nightclub. She’ll have a laugh, and you’ll communicate that you get what’s happening in the world and are in the know.

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1st phone conversation with a woman

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Be yourself.

We pick up on nonverbal body language faster than we register what you’re saying. This means if you’re only interested in getting a number to find a date, women understand this on a visceral level before they’ve even responded to what you’ve said.

One thing to think about is if you’re only interested in getting a number, then most women aren’t interested in you. Women want to feel special. For us to give you our number or talk to you more than two minutes, we need to feel a relationship. Even if we are physically attracted to you, this doesn’t mean we are going to give you our contact information.

If you’re relaxed, being honest, and genuinely interested in what we think and feel, then we may let our guard down long enough to see who you are as a person too.

Should you approach a woman at a bar or club, then bring a friend.

Broadly , when women go out to a bar or club, they are going out to have time with friends first, and possibly speak with a guy if he shows a genuine interest in her.

Women often look to their best girlfriends to provide a thumb up or down on if a guy seems like a good guy or not. Having a friend along with you decreases anxiety on both sides, because there’s more to discuss, and we don’t feel as though you’re trapping or bearing down on us.

Bear in mind, plenty of times women are only getting together to wind down and spend time with friends. Nightlife is often loud and isn’t the perfect place to have conversations. Sometimes women just want to cut loose and dance — that’s all. Canvassing other individuals in committed relationships, I’ve found most of them met outside of the nightlife.

OFFER a date instead.

You’re not a child who has to ask permission anymore. If you want to take a woman out, just let her know that you’re interested in make an offer to spend time together at some place interesting.

A great deal of people make offers to you every day.

When you go through the drive thru at a fast food place, and you order a sandwich, what do you almost ALWAYS hear? Usually you’ll hear something like, “You can upgrade this to a combo meail for only a dollar more. Would you like to do that today?”

It’s kind of the same thing with talking to women.

She’s already ordered the sandwich by having a wonderful conversation with you right now. You can just let her know that you enjoy her company, and you’d like to offer her a opportunity to continue getting to know each other. If she says no, it doesn’t have anything to do with you as an individual. It’s just not something she’s interested in, just like you’re not interested in buying the combo meal sometimes.

Here’s why I bring this up. Those fast food places that offer the combos with each order have dramatically increased their total sales volume by juat making that simple offer.

YOU could do the exact same thing with your love life!

You could dramatically increase the amount of women you date just by offering each one that you’re interested in a chance to get to know you even better. The next 2 will say yes. But ALWAYS make the offer.

The 14 year old kid at the drive thru isn’t scared of you saying “No thanks, and you shouldn’t be fearful of some woman saying the same thing.

Latest events

Before you go out tonight, read up on the news today and stay informed on the latest celebrity gossip and entertainment news. You’ll want to pay special attention to the newest celebrity bad behaviour (there’s something new every week). There are many ways to use this. By way of instance, if you see that somebody is overly drunk, you can compare them to the latest celeb spotted falling from a nightclub. She’ll have a laugh, and you’re going to communicate that you get what’s happening in the world and are in the know.

1st phone conversation with a woman

Focus on her, not you.

Don’t let anxieties of being shot down or approaching a woman turn you off from talking to a woman. If she chooses not to respond to you, it is not about you. It’s about her. She probably isn’t searching for anyone, has her own insecurities, or is not interested.

If you’re focusing on what you’re going to say next or the thoughts in your head, she will pick up on the fact that she doesn’t have 100% of your attention. Why? You’re too focused on yourself.

The point is, if you’re both listening to your own thoughts or you get distracted by something else, then you aren’t having a conversation with someone else in the first place!

The mere idea of having to initiate conversation with other people, let alone a woman, is draining, intimidating, and daunting for introverts. This isn’t bad, it’s just the way it is. Just remember, half of the population are introverts, so it can be equally tough for women to respond back. It’s doable and is easiest to do when you’re doing things that you enjoy doing.

Play a game

There are a great deal of fun little games you can play that will find a woman locked into a conversation with you. Use your environment, and try some fun, playful games to get her attention. For example, if you’re sitting in a restaurant and you spot a woman at another table, you could play tic-tac-toe on a napkin, and have your waiter deliver it to the unsuspecting target. You could introduce yourself after you beat her, to console her on her defeat. Look on the internet and find all kinds of fun games that involve language, memory or skill.

Bait her with an overheard comment

This technique is different in the sense that rather than approaching her, she’ll overhear you talking to a friend and will feel compelled to approach you to learn what you’re discussing. Make a comment loud enough that she will happen to overhear, something interesting or provocative enough that she will have to hear more. Something like: “Secretly, I think all women do it.” If she hears this fragment, she’ll want to know more. “What? She’ll want to ask. And from there, you’re home free!

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3 ways to open a conversation with a girl

3 ways to open a conversation with a girl

Manage Your Anxiety

Guys who wish to know how to keep a conversation going with a girl typically feel a whole lot of anxiety when talking to girls, or even just considering it. Their heart races, their mind often goes blank, and this naturally makes dialogue difficult.

Nearly every time, this anxiety is the actual root of the issue. Not a lack of conversation skills; or at least, not as much. And if you wanna have the ability to make effortless conversation with a girl, you will need to weed out the problem from its root.

In other words, you will need to learn how to deal with your anxiety around girls, so you can feel at ease talking to any girl. Then you’ll naturally be able to have conversations as long as you want.

Because this is an intricate topic, I address it separately and in more detail in this special video. I recommend you watch it right now, because in it you’ll learn some of the most effective data in existence about eliminating conversation anxiety and building conversation confidence. So be sure you watch it.

I know talking to a girl might be tough for you right now. But trust me, this can completely change. Yes, it will take some work. You need to learn to deal with your nervousness, and you need to create better conversation habits for yourself.

The good news is that there are quality resources and specialists ready to assist you on this journey. When you haven’t already, I invite you to join my free social confidence newsletter, and you will receive regular advice from me for improving your social confidence and social skills.

Ask her some questions.

You want to show her that you’re interested in her while at the same time deciding whether she’s really worth your interest. [2] A excellent question will make her think, laugh, and like you, all at the same time.

Avoid “yes” and “no” questions. A question like, “Did you like the new movie that came out this weekend?” will get you either a “yes” or a “no” but may not launch a meaningful conversation. This type of question will get a much longer answer from her.

Rather than waiting for her to ask you questions, be proactive and do the asking first. Once she’s answered your question, nod and then provide your own perspective. You need a balanced conversation in which you find out what she’s all about while also sharing parts of yourself.

Find out what she’s passionate about. If you like this girl, then chances are you find something about her really fascinating. Ask her why she likes what she likes, or why she thinks what she thinks. Ask her something that you genuinely want to learn more about instead of asking questions just to get her to talk. If you’re insincere, she’ll know, and your conversation will be dead in the water.

Folks love to talk about themselves. If you find out what she’s passionate about, the conversation will go naturally and easily. This is the easiest way to construct a connection.

Focus on body language.

For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as if you’re focused on her.

Watch the way she uses her body. If she makes eye contact with you, lightly touches your arm or leans in toward you while you’re talking, then you can feel confident that she’s into you.

Make sure you’re projecting good body language, too. Don’t cross your arms, tap your feet, sigh or groan audibly. All these tics are signs that you’re bored or dissatisfied with her.

If she’s constantly looking away, fiddling with her drink or her jewelry or looking like she can not wait to escape, then you may be losing her attention. You can try saying something like, “Are you having a bad day? You look as if you’re a million miles away.” Or, if the conversation hasn’t been all that interesting to begin with, just politely say, “Nice talking to you” and walk away.


3 ways to open a conversation with a girl

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Maintain the attention always on her.

Let her know that you think she’s important. Don’t be cagey about turning the spotlight on you. Instead, concentrate it mainly on her.

Turn off your cell phone while you’re having a conversation with a woman. If you go outside to have a call, you may come back and find that she’s moved on.

If you encounter friends, introduce your friends to her but stay focused on your conversation. Attempt to send nonverbal signals to your friends letting them know they need to talk to you another time.

Focus on her, not you.

If she chooses not to respond to you, it is not about you. It’s about her. She probably isn’t looking for anyone, has her own insecurities, or isn’t interested.

If you are focusing on what you’re going to say next or the thoughts in your head, she will pick up on the fact that she does not have 100% of your attention. Why? You’re too focused on yourself.

The point is, if you’re both listening to your own thoughts or you get distracted by something else, then you aren’t having a conversation with someone else in the first place!

The mere idea of having to initiate conversation with other people, let alone a girl, is draining, intimidating, and daunting for introverts. This isn’t bad, it’s just the way it is. Just remember, half of the population are introverts, so it can be equally hard for women to respond back. It is doable and is easiest to do when you’re doing things that you enjoy doing.

Play a game

There are tons of fun little games you can play that will get a woman locked into a conversation with you. Take advantage of your environment, and try some fun, playful games to receive her attention. By way of example, if you’re sitting in a restaurant and you spot a woman at another table, you could play tic-tac-toe on a napkin, and have your waiter deliver it to the unsuspecting target. You could introduce yourself after you beat her, to console her on her defeat. Look online and find all sorts of fun games that involve language, memory or skill.

Think of funny and interesting stories

Always have a few interesting and special stories. Consider them before you go out so they are at your disposal. They ought to be stories that are smooth conversation starters like, “The weirdest thing just happened to me, you wouldn’t believe it!” Tell it like it was so interesting, you just had to share it with someone. If you tell it well, she’ll be on the edge of her seat, wanting to know more. Whatever you decide to discuss, be sure that it makes you look good — you want to come across as confident and humorous, but not arrogant. These stories will distinguish you from everyone else, and will offer her some insight into your character, enough for her to want to find out more.

Listen.

Why else are you on this earth? You can’t ask good questions without listening and observing and learning about what another individual cares about. You cannot have a great conversation without good questions. So you see, listening is the foundation for the whole damn carnival ride. Now go forth with open ears and a judicious mouth, and conversate the world into a warmer, happier place.

 

Start things off to invite her to talk.

Focus on the scenario, and mold your invitation to the circumstances. Don’t, for example, ask her a random astronomy question when she’s shopping for shoes.

If you want to strike up a conversation with a girl you don’t know, consider making a recommendation. For example, if you see a gorgeous girl at a coffee shop, and she looks undecided about her purchase, then recommend your favourite drink or tell her that you’re going to guess exactly what she wants just by looking at her.

When you already know the girl, start with some common ground. If you’re in school together, then make a comment about classes or discuss your extra curricular activities. If you’re working together, then start a chat about some workplace news, or ask for her help with something that you’re working on.

For example, ask her to watch your stuff (like your phone) while you go get her something to drink. Additionally, it will make them feel trustworthy and possibly even curious.

If she looks amazing that day or if she said something amazing during class, then tell her so. Make sure your compliment is genuine and not phony.

Find out Her Interests

Guys frequently have a difficult time knowing what to talk about with a girl because they don’t know her interests. They may think: “I can talk about computers, because I’m interested in this subject; but will she be interested?”

One approach to address this predicament is by trial and error. You begin talking about a particular topic that you think she might be considering, and if she does indeed appear interested, you keep talking about it. If not, you move to a different topic, and another, and another, seeking to find those that she can relate to. And this is a natural part of a regular conversation.

However, there’s an even better way to deal with this predicament. I typically like to ask something like: “So, what do you like to do?” or “Tell me: what are your interests?”

She will mention a few of them, I know what I can talk about that she’ll enjoy. I then identify among those topics the ones I enjoy too, and I know these are directions I can confidently take the conversation in. This is the best way to keep a conversation going with a girl by finding common ground.

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Talk about somebody or something in the Area

You may observe a person wearing outrageous clothing, somebody acting inappropriately, a fight, etc.. Use whatever is happening around you for the conversation, especially if she shows some type of reaction to it. By way of example, if you notice some dude wearing a ridiculous outfit you could say something like: “I think we just found your future husband!” You’ll be surprised just how well this works.

Talk Some about Yourself

There’s this popular idea that to keep a conversation going with a girl you just met, you have to ask her lots of questions, because everybody loves to talk about themselves, and not talk too much about yourself, since you’ll appear self-absorbed.

Because in practice, this idea rarely holds water.

You want to realize that if you’re talking with a girl you just met, to her, you’re mostly a stranger. She knows almost nothing about you. And a girl isn’t gonna feel comfortable answering a long line of personal questions from a guy she knows almost nothing about. I can not tell you how many girls have confessed this to me.

For this reason it’s important if you’re talking to a girl to unite asking her questions with talking about yourself. It’s this mix of her talking, you talking, her talking some more, you talking some more, that makes the conversation move forward and helps both of you become comfortable with each other. And that’s precisely what you would like.

Typically, you may hesitate to speak about yourself, and because you lack practice, you may not be very good at it either. But this is something that you could just overcome with practice. So try to be more talkative and talk more about yourself. With experience you will get better at it and it’ll get a lot easier as well.

Play a game

There are a great deal of fun little games you can play that will get a woman locked into a conversation with you. Use your environment, and try some fun, playful games to receive her attention. For example, if you are sitting in a restaurant and you spot a woman at another table, you could play tic-tac-toe on a napkin, and have your waiter deliver it to the unsuspecting target. You could introduce yourself after you beat her, to console her on her defeat. Look online and find all sorts of fun games that involve language, memory or skill.

Bait her with an overheard comment

This technique is different in the sense that rather than approaching her, she’ll overhear you talking to a friend and will feel compelled to approach you to learn what you are discussing. Make a comment loud enough that she will happen to overhear, something interesting or provocative enough that she will need to hear more. If she hears this fragment, she’ll want to know more. “What? What do all women do?” She’ll want to ask. And from there, you’re home free!

The Energy of “hi”

This simple word is really among the most powerful tools to use if you want to speak with a women because it’s natural. Recall: Attractive women are approached a lot. She’s heard every line. That said, a man who comes up to her and says, “Hi, how ya doing?” is actually original! Check it out; you’ll see what I mean.

“Cheers!”

If you’re in a pub or club, among the easiest ways to begin talking to some woman is to simply raise your glass to hers and say: “Cheers!” It’s easy, respectful, respectful, and paves the way for future dialogue. I used to hang out with a “natural” friend of mine and he’d “cheers” every woman at the club. It’s a great primer to get things going, because the next time you see her it’s like you’re old friends.

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Talk about somebody or something in the place

You may observe a person wearing outrageous clothing, somebody acting inappropriately, a fight, etc.. Use whatever is happening around you for the conversation, especially if she shows some type of reaction to it. By way of instance, if you notice some dude wearing a ridiculous outfit you could say something like: “I think we just found your future husband!” You will be surprised just how well this works.

Find out Her Interests

Guys often have a difficult time knowing what to talk about with a girl because they don’t know her interests. They may think: “I can talk about computers, because I’m interested in this subject; but will she be interested?”

One approach to address this predicament is by trial and error. You begin speaking about a certain topic that you think she may be considering, and if she does indeed seem interested, you keep talking about it. If not, you move to another topic, and another, and another, wanting to find those that she can relate to. And this is a natural part of a regular conversation.

However, there is an even better way to deal with this predicament. Early in the conversation, you ask the girl a simple, straightforward question that elicits her interests. I typically like to ask something like: “So, what do you like to do?”

She will mention a few of them, and I know what I can discuss that she’ll enjoy. I then identify among those topics the ones I enjoy too, and I understand these are directions I can confidently take the conversation in. This is the best way to keep a conversation going with a girl by finding common ground.

Make yourself look good throughout the conversation.

You want to discover as much as you can about her, but you also need to make sure that you show yourself at your best.

Talk about a subject that makes you feel passionate and persuasive. When you’re talking about something really positive, you are likely to be at your best. If you’re passionate about music, then talk about your favorite bands. If you have something which you love to do, then talk about it with her.

Make sure you give her equal time. You definitely want to share something about yourself, but if you just talk about you, she’s going to think you’re self-centered, and she’s not going to speak with you.

Don’t offer opinions about subjects you know nothing about. Your goal is to impress the girl with your wit, your conversation, and your intelligence. If you blather about something you’re opinionated but uninformed about, you won’t come off as very intelligent.


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