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Attract Her Tonight, Impress Her For Life Seminar (LA/NYC) $20 Only

March 15, 2010, 11:24 pm

If you live in the NYC/LA areas, check out David Wygant’s “Attract Her Tonight, Impress Her For Life” $20 seminar on March 13th and March 20th.

This event is for anyone who desires to be able to instantly CONNECT with beautiful women, anytime, anywhere. We aren’t talking about average women. We are talking about the women you see walking down the street that you’ve always told yourself you’ve got no chance with.

New York is this weekend. Los Angeles is next weekend. 6-hour seminars. Join me there!

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Ignoring Your Penis…

March 15, 2010, 11:24 pm

This is an open letter to all men who still think with their penis.

Mr. Penis really is the cause of all of your monkey chatter.

Have you ever been to the zoo? Have you seen what monkeys do all day long? They eat and they play with their penis.

It’s time to put the penis away and speak from your heart. If you want to stop being a monkey and kill the monkey chatter forever, then you need to listen to today’s podcast.

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Closing At Her Place

March 15, 2010, 11:21 pm

Once I started learning Love Systems, I was actually able to pull beautiful women home to my place. But in the meantime, I also got good at making things work by going back to her place. Here are four tips for closing at her place.

1) Find out where she lives.

This step seems obvious, but you’d be surprised how often it is unintentionally left out. When you know where a woman lives, you can plan ahead to deal with the logistical problems you’re going to hit later.

Does she live near the venue? Does she have a roommate? Is she in a dorm? Do you know of a cool bar/after hours joint near her place? When you want to bounce her back there, are you going to drive, walk, or take a cab? Even if you end up with a phone number + date instead of going home with her, this info will be useful for when you go out again.

Here are a few scenarios to consider, and ways I’ve figured out how to deal with them.

* Roommates: When there is a separate bedroom to retreat to, sacrificing a few minutes of conversation to win over the roommate(s) will make your being there a lot more comfortable. After they trust you, you can use any nonsense reason to bounce your girl to her bedroom. “Bet my room is cleaner than yours,” is one example.

* Cab ride: If she lives a cab ride away, be sure to keep up the momentum in the car, and continue to build up physical intimacy. If you were touching her arm in the bar, touch her leg in the cab. If you were about to make out in the bar, make out in the cab. Avoid cabs with bucket seats that make physical contact impossible.

* Dorm: If there’s a security guard, you can go through the lengthy (and vibe-killing) process of giving him your ID and signing in, or you can tell the girl to slide her card through and sneak in behind her. You get points for being resourceful, and it’s exciting because it seems like you’re doing something wrong.

* Shared bedroom: There are public bathrooms in dorms and hotels that I have found very accommodating when dealing with shared room situations. Be sure and scan for them when entering, and when it’s time to bounce to it, tell the girl that you’re “taking her on a field trip.”

2) Amp up the physical tension.

This is a huge topic that lots of Love Systems instructors have gone into incredible detail on, but the general principle is important. If you can get a girl sexually excited, then she’s going to want to bring you to a place where you can have sex as quickly as humanly possible. At Love Systems we teach everything you need to know to accomplish this goal, from framing the conversation sexually to escalating things physically, but in the meantime here are a few quick pointers to get you started:

* Always end a touch or kiss before they do/want you to.
* Drop the topic of sex into conversation (in a light, joking way) as quickly as possible.
* Start touching the way you’d touch your boss and build to the way you’d touch a girlfriend.

3) “Let’s get you home.”

It’s easy to think of reasons to give a woman why she has to come back to your place. Keep it simple. “Let me show you that book I was talking about,” is perfect. It gives her plausible deniability and doesn’t tip your hand.

It’s harder to do this with her place. “Do you want to take me home with you?” makes you sound like a stray dog, not a man. “Let’s go to your place” is totally cliché thanks to every movie from the 1970s. “Let’s get out of here” is great if it’s obvious and explicit that she wants to have sex, but if you’re still flying a bit under the radar or her friends are around, you’re going to need something a little more subtle.

Instead, take the lead with “let’s get you home.” It’s a little dominant, it shows you know how to lead, but it also doesn’t trigger state breaks. If her friends are around, it implies that you are just going to make sure that she gets home safe. She shouldn’t feel any pressure since there’s really nothing implied. And if nothing’s going to happen, then there’s no reason she can’t bail on her friends, right?

(If you don’t remember state breaks, review Chapter 10 of Magic Bullets now. If you haven’t read Magic Bullets, get it. It’s the official Love Systems guide to meeting and attracting women, and where most successful guys start. Get it.)

4) Assume you’re going upstairs.

There’s nothing more awkward than walking a woman home and standing there silent for an eternity waiting for her to invite you up. Avoid this situation by assuming that she’ll be bringing you upstairs. Do not pause by the door. Do not say “Well, it was nice hanging out with you.” Keep the momentum of the interaction going as though you are still in the process of hanging out.

If she has to invite you in, that’s risking a state break.

Of course, there will be times when she suggests that you don’t come up, either because she doesn’t want to appear easy, or because she thinks letting you upstairs is an implicit agreement that you’ll be sleeping together. You can usually defuse this by giving yourself a bedtime. “I’ve got work in the morning, so I can only come up for a little bit” is one of my favorites. Say this before she even gets a chance to tell you why you can’t come in – like you coming in is a foregone conclusion.

To find out more information on closing at the girl’s place or getting a girl from the venue back to your place, definitely checkout the interview series on Logistics.

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Introduction To Day Game

March 15, 2010, 11:20 pm

Introduction
If meeting women in the daytime is something you’re interested in then this primer is for you. It contains the basic information on day game that I present at most bootcamps I instruct at. In my opinion, this is what you need to know to get out there and start meeting people outside of a nightclub environment.

Opening
I find the greatest consistency and satisfaction using direct openers such as:

‘Excuse me, I saw you from over there.and I’d regret it all day if I didn’t come met you.because you look absolutely gorgeous. (EXTEND HAND TO SHAKE) Hi, I’m Keychain, what’s your name?’

Direct openers like this (recently popularized by Sebastian Drake, Soul, Dr.Yen etc.) usually open quite strongly and provide a good platform for you to launch the conversation from. At the very least, it’s nice to say nice things to people – it’ll make you feel good and give her positive emotions too.

There’s nothing wrong with starting a conversation in another style such as indirect, functional, comedic etc. There are lots of examples of these types of openers online and you’ll want to come up with your own as the situation dictates. Here are a few to get you started:

- ‘Hey do you know where the nearest Starbucks is?’
- She’s reading a book: ‘What are you reading?’
- She’s wearing head/earphones: ‘What are you listening to? I’m bored of my current playlist’ (credit Sasha) – take her iPod and start teasing/appreciating her playlist (my addition).
- She’s in a shop or coffee house, deliver with comedy: ‘I saw you from out there and had to come meet you. I just couldn’t let a pane of glass stand between us and true love.’ (Credit Sasha)

If the girl is sat or stationary, you can just walk over to her and deliver your opener. If she’s moving, I’ll always approach from behind, even if it means letting her walk past to get my angle.

To stop a moving set, approach from behind and touch the inside of the elbow gently with two fingers. You can also touch the triceps area or the back of the forearm. Say ‘excuse me’ to get her attention, stop walking as she turns towards you and then deliver your opener.

To further stop her forward momentum and start the transition to conversation, extend your hand to shake hers. Give your name and ask for hers. She will, as most people would, automatically shake your hand and give you her name. From here, you’re ready to transition.

A Common Trap With Direct Openers
Don’t try to solicit a reaction. So many guys get addicted to the big, gushing reactions that you will occasionally get from your direct approaches and ‘look’ for it every time. Instead of being an expression of their personality and core intent, the direct opener becomes a tool to chase a reaction.they deliver it and wait for the big WOW! It’s approval-seeking and not attractive.

Try this frame: Her beauty/vibe/aura moved you to approach. Something in your core just said ‘yes’. So you’re going to go meet her, express your core and see if she’s the kind of girl you might connect with and would like in your life. Self-expression, without the need for approval, mixed with a curious fascination for her as a unique creature.

Transition to Conversation
After opening, I like to stack and cycle through the following transition material until I find a topic that you’re both interested in and can naturally talk about together (what Sebastian Drake calls a ‘click topic’). Perhaps you both enjoy traveling or you both like the movies of a certain director.

To that end, here are three content-questions that you can ask to mine for a click topic.

1)What are doing in London/Oslo/Melrose today? (this also allows you to find out how much time you might have to talk. If she’s rushing to meet friends, better go for the number. If she’s just ’shopping’, you might try for an instant-date later in the conversation)
2)What do you do for a living?
3)What do you do for fun?

As recommended by Wayne Elise, these can either be delivered statement/question or question/statement. In other words, you might start by talking about what you’re doing in central London and then ask her what she’s up to (statement/question). Or you might ask her first and then answer your own question when she’s done (question/statement). Either way, be prepared to supply the initial content and energy of the interaction.

It’s not unusual for a person to be a little on-guard when approached by a stranger in the street or a coffee shop and give quite short answers. Allow her initial shyness, she’ll warm up as your statements build comfort and convey your attractive personality.

Another conversation technique I enjoy is to talk about a character trait I enjoy, explain why I enjoy it and then ask her if she has it. I came up with this by combining Mr.M’s ideas about high-value frame attraction and Sebastian Drake’s ‘click topics’. This ’soft qualification’ is a great way to add value to a conversation and qualify in a high-value way. The more astute among you may recognize some sexual framing in this material also. Lately I’ve been teaching this at a lot of bootcamps and the results have been so encouraging that I recommend you add this technique to your arsenal.

For example:
‘I really like people who travel, I love to travel myself. There’s something about people who travel.there’s an open-mindedness to new experiences and a non-judgmental quality that I really like. Do you like to travel?’

‘I like to surround myself with creative people. They have an energy and a fresh way of looking at life that really energizes me. What do you do for fun?’

If you can’t find a click topic, consider that perhaps the two of you have nothing to click on and are better off moving on to meet other people. With practice, however, you’ll find you can find a way to connect with almost anyone you meet. Remember to listen with curiosity and interest.

Thoughts on Conversation
All the principles of social interaction you’ll find in Magic Bullets and the other materials are relevant here. On top of these, I’d suggest focusing on glimpsing the girl underneath her social facade and being open enough for her to get a glimpse of you under yours.

It’s easy to view interactions with girls as a ‘game’ in which you say certain things, touch your ‘target’ in a certain way to either win or lose the game. This kind of thinking serves to dehumanize the girl who is, after all, a unique person just like you. What if the simple meeting of both of your personalities, opinions and experiences could provide enough content for an attractive, successful conversation?

Don’t forget to be fun and humorous. Tease a little to inject some spice, have fun with the conversation. There’s no need to be intense and serious all the time – in fact, this can be quite creepy! Try a fun role play or future projection, experiment with the attraction materials in Magic Bullets to spice things up. Beware of making these the focus of your content though, remember that you and her are enough to have a great conversation.

Find your own style of interaction. When you meet a man who is successful with girls, by all means copy his style but only to gain an understanding of the underlying principles that make him so successful. Don’t be a clone, you’ll get much better results as a great version of you.

Taking Things Further
Where can you take the conversation after you’re clicking and enjoying one another? Depending on the logistics of the situation, you might try these options:
- suggest a future meeting and exchange contact details.
- suggest going to get a coffee right then and there.
- my first day game approach ended with a hand job in a nearby photo-booth. You could shoot for this if the mood strikes.

Conclusion

The skill of meeting people and having great conversations is a vast one with room for a lifetime of learning and experimentation. It’s a lot of fun and comes with lots of benefits, not least all of the beautiful women you’ll meet!

With this basic information you’ve got all you need to start meeting girls in the daytime. The most important thing you could do with what you’ve read is start applying it in real conversations.

To find out more information on day game, check out this audio download by day game experts Jeremy Soul and Bonsai. The first 10 minutes are free.

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How To Recover From A Bad Breakup

March 15, 2010, 11:19 pm

by David Deangelo.

DATING QUESTION FROM A READER

I am at the end of long long divorce settlement – (18 months) I started dating about six months after our split — meeting most on the internet- Found I was naturally using some cocky and funny but accelerated when I started getting your newsletter.

Meeting them and lining them up has been no problem-but once we are intimate –they want exclusivity–I can’t know what I want yet (except sex)–but don’t want some of the good ones to get away–I keep hearing “you want your cake and eat it too!!”

Also—had one I was dating recently–wanted to know about anybody and everyone else I was seeing —said the openness was good for a relationship.

I disagreed??

rb–michigan

MY COMMENTS

I’m glad you wrote in because I think that this is a topic that is near and dear to a lot of single men. And, even though I have not been married myself, I know what it’s like to be in a relationship for a couple of years and then all of a sudden be single again… and I know what it’s like to start over again.

You have brought up some great points here, so let’s see if I can add some insight.

First, I think that it’s pretty natural for a guy who has just ended a long term relationship to feel rather “naked” when it comes to women and dating. Often times, there are problems and drama when two people break up, and sometimes you even have jealousy and other issues to deal with. So, one of the most important things to do when you’re “getting back into the swing of things” is to remember that things will improve with time. It might take you a few weeks or months after you start dating again to feel like “you’re back”.

You might even feel a little needy and lonely, which I also think is natural after breaking up with someone to whom you were very close.

A critical mistake to avoid is TURNING INTO A NEEDY WUSS AND TRYING TO WIN YOUR EX BACK… OR TURNING INTO A NEEDY WUSS AND TRYING TO WIN ANY WOMAN.

Now, it doesn’t sound to me like this is your problem but, I think that something like this might be part of one of your problems.

Huh?

Whatever… I’ll just keep talking and you’ll figure out what I’m saying. You probably had been in your relationship for at least a few YEARS. When you’re in a relationship for this long, I think that guys naturally start behaving differently than they would if they were just dating a woman. It’s natural and expected that you’re going to see your spouse every day, sleep with her every night (I said sleep with, not have sex with… I know, I know)… and generally be “around” all the time. Well, when you start DATING a woman, one of the KEY factors that she looks at to decide whether or not you’re going to be “relationship” material is HOW MUCH TIME YOU SPEND TOGETHER.

I’m going to bet that these women you’re meeting who want to be “exclusive” with you, are responding that way because you’re spending A LOT of time with them. If you’re only interested in dating and not in forming a relationship, then try this:

ONLY SEE HER ONCE A WEEK… TWICE AT THE MOST.

And only call her once or twice a week as well.

This should solve your “I want to be exclusive” problem. Women tend to get into “relationship mode” when you start ACTING like you’re already in one. And a big part of that is how often you see her. If you only see her once a week or so, a woman will sense, on a deep level, that you’re not ready to “settle down” with her, and that you’re busy doing other things and PROBABLY dating other women. Next, you mentioned that you were dating a woman and she wanted to know about every other woman you were seeing, and that “the openness would be good for the relationship”.

AHHH, THE “R” WORD AGAIN!

I wasn’t there when she said it, so I can’t be sure, but my guess is that what she meant was “The openness would be good for ME because I want to know”, and NOT that it would be good for the “relationship”. This is subtle, but see if you can follow me. You said that you disagreed (with a question mark, which to me means that you’d like to know whether or not I agree with you disagreeing). I’d like to know HOW you disagreed, personally. A lot of guys come across as weak when they disagree because they just sound either argumentative or insecure – or even worse, like they’re trying to hide something.

If a woman said to me, “Tell me about all the other women you’re seeing. I think it would be good for the relationship” I’d probably say:

“Whose relationship are you talking about?”

…and then I’d laugh.

Or I might say, “I don’t kiss and tell” then smile at her.

In any case, I would NOT communicate in a way that says “I’m uncomfortable” or “I’m going to give you what you want so you like me”.

You have to remember that a woman is going to test your limits at ALL TIMES. And it never ends.

If you kiss up to a woman and give her what she’s asking in the moment, she probably won’t respect you in the LONG TERM because she knows that she can get whatever she wants from you.

So, if you answer a question like this by either:

1) Telling her what she wants to know, even though you don’t WANT to tell her…

…or…

2) Telling her that you disagree in a way that makes her think that you’re trying to hide something…

…then she’s going to feel like she “has something on you” and that she can get her way with you in the future. Or she might just up and leave because she feels like you’re seeing other women AND trying to hide it.

I know, isn’t it all so complex?

My personal perspective on this topic is that a man and woman should typically wait at LEAST a few months before getting into any kind of “relationship”. And if I’m dating a woman and she asks me if I’d like to get into a relationship, and if I’m seeing other women, I’ll answer something like this:

“First of all, I don’t think it’s a good idea for a man and woman to have a RELATIONSHIP relationship until after they’ve known each other for AT LEAST 3-6 months. One of the reasons why a lot of relationships end so BADLY is because the two people didn’t take the time to get to know each other first. Also, I think it’s a bad idea to talk about other people that you’re seeing during that time because almost nothing good can come of it” – and I leave it at that.

As you can probably tell, I really believe this. Again, it’s crucial that you don’t answer a question like this in a way that is defensive or argumentative. If you do, you’ll risk being rejected for being sneaky or dishonest. To sum up, it sounds to me like you’re probably used to being in a close relationship, and you’re ACTING like you’re in a relationship with these women that you’re just dating. When you do this, a woman will start to feel those “relationship” emotions and start asking questions and behaving like she’s your girlfriend. If you lean back a little, if you don’t see a woman more than once or twice a week, and if you stop behaving in a way that says “we’re in a relationship now”, then the women will get it. They’ll pick up on your body language and communication and stop acting like girlfriends or wives.

There’s no better or faster way to get your act together and start getting dates with the kinds of women you’d like to date. Often, the end of a relationship is a “second chance” to date women who are more compatible with you or who are more physically attractive.

I’ve found that men who have been in relationships for several years, often find AMAZING insights when they review my materials because they can RELATE to everything so well. It’s a lot easier to see where you’ve made mistakes in the past, and it’s a lot easier to see what you need to do with other women in order to be successful.

Check out more from David Deangelo at his official website.

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4 Reasons Why Women Reject Men

March 15, 2010, 11:18 pm

Most men HATE the idea of “rejection”. I’m not talking about “don’t like the idea” or “wish it didn’t happen”… I’m talking HATE here.

The idea of walking up to a woman and having her REJECT you causes most men to instantly feel sick in the pit of their stomachs and literally feel a horrible combination of nervousness and confusion.

A guy can psych himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING changes. The heart rate shoots up, breathing quickens, eyes dart back and forth, thoughts of rejection fill the mind, and eventually the pressure becomes too much to bare.

Most men find this state so scary that they end up deciding to forget about approaching the women… just to end the discomfort. The temptation is great to just “walk away” because just as quickly as the intense nervousness is triggered by the moment one decides to ACT, it goes away when you decide to “forget about it and walk away”.

The fact that “choosing to walk away” leads to the “instant gratification” of the nervous feeling going away makes it the most popular option. Most of the time (and I’m talking about probably 99% of the time here) men just walk away. They give up before they’ve even started.

I find this topic fascinating.

If I just think about it, I can remember MANY times in my past where I wanted to talk to a woman, but I just didn’t do it. In fact, many of them are so vivid that I can remember the exact setting, what the girl looked like, who else was there, etc… and I’m talking about situations that happened YEARS ago.

These moments obviously made an impression.

I can also remember kicking myself for DAYS afterwards for not approaching and talking to these girls. Can you relate?

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ACTUAL REJECTION AND THE FEAR OF REJECTION..

I think it’s important to realize that there’s a BIG difference between ACTUAL rejection (having a girl who is offended, upset, rude, etc. to you when you start talking to her) and the FEAR of rejection (how you feel when you imagine a woman rejecting you).

I’ve found that for me PERSONALLY, my FEAR of rejection is actually FAR, FAR more painful and difficult to deal with than ACTUAL rejection in the real world.

The main reason for this is that most of the time when a man starts talking to a woman, she is actually rather nice about the whole affair.

Men aren’t “rejected” very often!

If a woman isn’t interested, she usually just says “I have a boyfriend” or “No thank you”… or she’ll just walk away without saying anything at all.

Out of the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times that I’ve approached women, I can’t remember any time that a woman has yelled “Get away from me you loser! You are unattractive and the very thought of going on a date with you makes me sick to my stomach!”

I’m sure it’s happened to SOMEONE, but it’s never happened to ME.

The worst I’ve had is a woman making fun of the words I used (telling me that my pickup line was lame) or just walking away. No slaps, no boyfriends beating me up, and no yelling. But here’s the kicker…

You can experience an intense FEAR of rejection EVERY time you consider approaching a woman. Imagine, something you can predict with almost perfect accuracy.

You can be in any situation, anywhere, anytime, and still have FEAR of rejection… which will prevent you from approaching a woman. Ah, the power of the human mind.

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION…

A lot of guys ask me, “How do I deal with rejection?”.

The answer: Don’t worry about it.

If you get “rejected”, you’ll be fine. Really. It’s no big deal, and it doesn’t happen that often. And when it does, you’ll recover shortly thereafter.

You’ll find yourself telling your friends about it, and laughing together. Rejection from a woman is about as painful as getting a “D” on a test.

It’s basically insignificant. The REAL question is “How do I deal with my FEAR of rejection?”.

WHY WOMEN REJECT MEN…

Now let’s talk about those rare instances where a woman actually REJECTS a man.

For the sake of this discussion, I want to define “rejection” as a woman doing something that lets you know that she’s upset and offended that you started talking to her, and she responds in a mean or vicious way to make you go away.

I do NOT consider a woman walking away without stopping to talk to you, her saying “No thank you”, or any other time when a woman just simply doesn’t engage to be “rejection”.

If you DO consider these things to be rejection, please stop reading now, call your mom into your room, and tell her that it’s time you grew up and moved out… and that she’ll get over the fact that she can’t choose your clothes for you and hug you when you have a boo-boo anymore.

I digress…

I’ve found that there are a few main reasons why women actually DO reject men (by the way, it’s VERY rare that I actually get “rejected” anymore… it’s probably happened to me once in the last 100 times I’ve started a conversation with a woman… because I don’t do dumb-ass things anymore).

Here are the main ones:

1. The guy isn’t paying attention, and he does something stupid to begin with.

Some guys think it’s appropriate to walk up to a woman, put their arm around her, and say, “Hey baby, you sure do look hot tonight”.

Some guys don’t see anything wrong with following a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying, “You remind me of my sister”.

These are bad ideas.

2. The guy doesn’t stop when he should.

If two women are sitting alone at a table in the corner, and one of them is obviously upset, and you walk over to them and say, “Hi, can I buy you a drink?”… and the upset one looks at you and says, “No thanks, we’re in the middle of a conversation” (then looks away from you back at her friend)… and you say, “Aw, cummon, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun”… and she looks back at you and says firmly, “We’re busy”… and you say, “What, are you in a bad mood or something? I’m just trying to buy you a drink”… and she says, “We don’t want a drink”… and you say, “Well maybe your friend does”… and the friend says, “No, I don’t want one either”…

OK, hopefully you get it.

If you ever do something like this, you are a dumb ass, and you deserve to be slapped and have 47 drinks thrown in your lap.

3. Making a woman nervous with your body language.

If you start talking to a woman, but your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, and you’re wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you’re probably not going to get a favorable response.

If you creep a woman out, things aren’t going to work for you.

4. Not understanding a woman’s body language and other communication.

When you start talking to a woman, she will let you know within a very short time if she’s receptive to talking to you.

If you’ve been reading too many books that say “A woman will signal her availability and interest by flipping her hair, licking her lips, and cocking her head coyly at you”, then get over it.

This stuff happens to Brat Pitt, not to YOU.

And if it DOES happen to you, then skip this part.

When you first start talking to a woman she’s either going to keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way or she’s not.

She’s either going to act like things are cool or she’s going to act like they’re not.

This is an amazing thought, but women get nervous too. They will often stop talking just because they can’t think of anything to say, etc.

But you need to pay attention.

Experience is the best teacher here.

My simple point is that MOST GUYS CAUSE REJECTION by what they’re doing. They aren’t paying attention, or they’re doing things that are offensive.

If you just avoid a few major mistakes, learn how to start conversations with women, and do a few simple things RIGHT, you’ll all but totally avoid “rejection” from the women you approach.

HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF REJECTION

The REAL obstacle here is the FEAR.

As I mentioned, FEAR of rejection, or IMAGINING rejection when you should be imagining success, leads to walking away.

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Ironically, I’ve found that the best way to overcome my own fear of rejection was to see that it wasn’t going to actually happen.

The more times I approached women and started conversations and the more I saw that women usually responded positively, the less I imagined things going wrong. This led to a positive feedback loop of me wanting to approach more women and have more success.

Here are a few ideas for overcoming your own FEAR of rejection:

1) Go out to a bar, and watch men approaching women.

Take a Saturday night, and just go out alone. Find a seat at the bar where things are busy, and just watch.

Make sure you visit a place that is REALLY busy, so you can see a lot of people interacting.

Now, pay attention.

You’ll begin to pick out the guys who are approaching a lot of women, asking them to dance, buying them drinks, etc. Watch what happens.

You’ll be able to see for yourself that most of the time, even if the woman isn’t interested, nothing bad happens.

You’ll also see that when a guy tries to grab a woman who’s walking by, makes a crude sexual comment, or just keeps talking when a woman isn’t interested, that the woman’s feelings might escalate and she’ll respond negatively.

You can watch what works and what doesn’t right in front of your own eyes.

This will start to reprogram your mind that women don’t usually “reject” men, even in the most intense situations where they’re being approached all night.

2) Start small.

If you have to, start by talking to women who are PAID to talk to you.

Go to a mall (one of my favorites).

Stores in malls hire attractive young women.

Walk into every store, and start conversations.

Practice making eye contact.

Come up with a few jokes that you can use in any situation (“So, do you own this store? Perfect, then you won’t care if I just take some things…”)

Ask the salesgirls to smell your new cologne (the one you sprayed on your wrist next door) and give you her opinion.

The more you do this, the more you’ll get used to starting conversations with women you don’t know, and having comfortable conversations.

3) Choose one default thing for each situation.

It amazes me that guys don’t think ahead.

They don’t plan what they’re going to do.

As the old saying goes “By failing to plan, you plan to fail”.

You really need to figure out a DEFAULT thing you can do to start a conversation with any woman, anywhere, anytime.

Once you come up with your idea, mentally rehearse it until you could do it in any situation.

Then get out and do it.

HOW TO AVOID REJECTION AND INCREASE SUCCESS

Human beings tend to want to “save face” when it comes to relationships.

We don’t like the idea that another person has outright “rejected” us, and we ALSO tend to not want to “hurt other people’s feelings” by rejecting them.

This is one of the reasons why women will often lie and say “I have a boyfriend” when they don’t.

You must become aware of these “subconscious” processes and motivations, work with them, and eventually become the master of them.

Learn to recognize when a woman is “politely saying no thanks”, and move on.

If a woman isn’t interested in you, forget about it. It doesn’t matter.

Go to the next one. There are plenty.

LEARN HOW AND WHY WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTION FOR MEN

Most men believe that if they could only overcome their own fear of rejection, and learn how to start talking to women, all their problems would be solved.

Not so!

Just because you can start conversations with women doesn’t mean that they’ll feel ATTRACTION for you.

It took me a LONG time to really “get” this.

It took me even LONGER to realize that there is actually a way to make women feel the emotion of ATTRACTION for you… just by the way you communicate with them.

I used to believe that it was a mysterious, lucky accident when a woman felt ATTRACTION. Now I realize that it’s only “lucky” for those guys who don’t understand it (and very few do).

And if you’d like to get an introduction to the main concepts, then download a copy of my downloadable eBook “Double Your Dating“. This eBook is a complete intro to the mind set and techniques you need to understand to start being successful with women. It’s here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I’ll talk to you soon,
David DeAngelo

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Sticking Points

March 15, 2010, 11:16 pm

I’m going to add something here, that you should do EVERY SINGLE MONTH, at least, maybe every week.

I still get value from this exercise, and it takes very little time. However, just knowing this exercise won’t help, you have to actually DO IT.

Take one piece of A4. At the top write “I see a hot girl”. At the bottom write: “we start having sex” (or “she says ‘I do’”, or whatever your actual outcome is).

Then fill in a plausible and detailed explanation of how you got from seeing this chick to being balls deep. Whenever you get to a point where you’re not sure what to write, you’ve found a sticking point.

For the VAST majority of guys I’ve met, this will be:

“I see a hot girl. I go and run some opinion opener from the internet on her. Then, uh.. um. Maybe I tease her? Uh, and, uh.”

BANG. Sticking point identified. Do some research at this point. What comes next? Post a question to the forum. Ask someone what should happen next.

You don’t need to work out the best thing to say – you’re not looking for lines to memorize, and you’re not looking for some kind of magical routine – it’ll never go down the way you’ve planned it anyway. You’re looking for an understanding of a plausible next step. Don’t accept answers like “Then you be an alpha male and she fucks you” – not good enough. Ask for specific sample dialogue. Don’t try and replicate those, don’t try and parrot that shit off, but use them to get an understanding of what and why happens next.

As my own example, the first time I did this, I got to: “we’re making out in the club”, and I was like WTF happens next? So I asked a natural buddy, and he said: “Last time I just told the girl I’d make her a cocktail back at mine”.

What did I do? I went out and spent a far too much money on cocktail alcohol and equipment. Next time I went out, I was making out with this girl, and was like: “So, uh, do you want a cocktail back at mine?”. Answer: “No”. DOH! Asked for more advice on this, was told to make the bounce home gentler and less obvious … and with time, got that shit sorted. Learning how to bounce was a massive sticking point for me, and I hadn’t even realised it – once I had that sorted, I started having a one-night stand. The point being: you won’t get this stuff right first time, but a plausible idea of how to go about it is crucial

Do I use some long-winded and complicated extraction technique now? No, of course not. Now I instinctively know how to bounce, instinctively know the subtleties, and tend to just say: “ok, we’re out of here!”. But the identification of the sticking point through the above exercise (and subsequent ones), the focus on actually closing and getting from A to B is what started accelerating my game.

Key points:

* Write personal, detailed, and fictional descriptions of how you went from seeing a girl to fucking her to help you get the process straight in your head, and identify your weak points

* Ask for advice any time you find yourself having trouble writing plausible dialogue or action sequences

* The point isn’t to prescript the interaction, the point is to identify your sticking points in getting from A to B – it won’t ever go down the way you planned anyway

* Don’t accept wishy-washy advice that doesn’t come with plausible detailed examples

Hope this helps – just reading it won’t though – actually TRY IT.

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Why Drew Brees Is The Sexiest Man In America

March 15, 2010, 11:15 pm

No, I don’t have a man crush on Drew Brees nor am I going to have a bromance with him. Here is the scoop on why Drew Brees is the sexiest man in America, and why every single man needs to listen to what he said in his post-game conference.

When asked to what he attributed the Saints’ Super Bowl victory, he basically told the world that he believed in everything the Saints were doing. He believed in his team. He believed in his coach. He believed in the city of New Orleans. He believed in himself.

He said it with such passion and conviction. I am putting a YouTube clip at the end of the blog of him making this speech after the game so you can see it for yourself.

He even showed emotion in this speech. At the end of the game, he had his son (maybe ten months old) in his arms. While his son was clueless about what was going on, Drew was not.

His son looked around the stadium like any ten month old would, with a look of “What the hell is going on here?” (Well, that is what he would say if he was talking on an E*Trade commercial). With tears streaming down his face, Drew Brees held his son because, to him, celebrating that moment with his son was more important than anything.

The bottom line is that it is called passion and desire . . . and it shows. The problem that most men have when it comes down to meeting women is that they do not believe in themselves.

They don’t believe in the game plan. I see this every day. I think of myself as the coach and you guys being my team.

I can’t tell you how many times I receive an email that says something like, “You know, I tried that one thing you talked about in one of your programs, but it just doesn’t work for me.” Do you know why it didn’t work for you?

The reason it doesn’t work for you is because you don’t believe in yourself. These principles and techniques work for me every single time, and they work for everyone else who believes.

When your coach tells you what to do, do you do it or do you just over-think things? Sean Payton told Drew Brees what to do. Drew Brees believed in Sean Payton 110% and did everything he was told, because they work together.

It’s called trust. It’s called confidence. It’s called faith, not only in yourself but in the people you go to for advice.

Do you want to be more sexy to women? Become Drew Brees.

Now, I’m not talking about you throwing the ball to Marques Colston in the end zone. I’m talking about living your life full of passion and belief.

Not one time did Drew Brees ever think that the Saints did not have the better team, even when they were down 10-0. You could see it in his eyes. All he wanted was to get back on that field, because he truly believed that the best team was his team.

When you walk over to a woman, do you truly believe that you’re the greatest gift she’ll every experience? Or, do you walk over with your tail between your legs wondering if she likes you and will accept you?

Where is your mindset? Mindset is everything in life.

Without the right mindset, the Saints would not have won the Super Bowl. I talk all about that in yesterday’s blog.

They had the right mindset. They had the right beliefs.

Did the Colts believe that they were the better team? Absolutely. Do the Colts maybe deep down still believe that they’re the better team? Sure, because they believe in themselves too.

Belief is really important. It’s time that you are able to believe in yourself, and that you stop wondering what other people think of you.

Walk over to that woman, as Drew Brees would, and claim her for yourself. Walk over to her and be the most powerful version of Drew Brees that you can be.

So now, watch Drew in action as he made this great speech yesterday:

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Negative Attraction Video by PUATraining

March 15, 2010, 11:14 pm

A new video from PUATraining and AFC Adam Lyons is below.

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The Secret To Picking Up Women On Valentines Day

March 15, 2010, 11:13 pm

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I don’t recommend most bars and clubs for Valentine’s Day. Unless you’re going to a high-end venue where they keep the ratios good, you’re likely to be surrounded by groups of desperate men and few attractive women.

This kills the vibe and puts a woman on the defensive. She’ll automatically associate you with these guys.

So… if you are going out like this, prepare for LOTS of “tests.” There’s no way a hot woman is going to let herself get picked up on Valentine’s Day without testing you first. Make sure you have great responses to questions like this:

“Why don’t you have a girlfriend?”
“Why aren’t you on a date on Valentine’s Day?”
“Why are you talking to us?”
“When’s the last time you had a girlfriend?”

By the way – it’s “responses” not “answers.” Actually answering questions like these is usually the EXACT WRONG way to handle a test. Dating expert Jeremy Soul has produced the best guide for handling tests – it’s about an hour long and you can listen to it right away.

That covers bars and clubs. Parties are usually a much better bet. There ARE parties full of attractive single people happening on Valentine’s Day. There the odds are unbelievably in your favor, since just by knowing people in common, you’ll be “safe” for a hot single woman who might be feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day to go home with.

If you don’t have an invite to an A-list nightclub or private party, then start with what you DO have – your phone. Send a text message (SMS) to every attractive woman you might be interested in. Even – ESPECIALLY – women you’ve lost touch with. The “dead phone numbers.”

This text should be simple and “bait” her into responding. For example:

“Happy Valentine’s Day – [Your Name]”

Make sure you put your name in the text message. If you don’t (especially if you’re hitting old phone numbers too), you risk the momentum-killing response “who is this?”

(Credit dating expert Braddock in his new book Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game for this nugget – just one of the hundreds of insights, tools, and tips in this now-classic book.)

Some women will respond back. And that’s when the dance starts. Continue, and escalate the conversation. No matter how attracted she was when you first met, you’ll need to rebuild some attraction through text.

(If you’re stuck, the Ultimate Guide gives you the scripts to attract women via text chats using hundreds of actual text messages and conversations used by top Love Systems instructors.

These days, with every hot woman plugged into her phone, there’s no excuse for not being good at Phone and Text Game. It’s not a skill you can avoid or cover up if you want to pick up beautiful women.

Once you’ve got her past the Hook Point, then casually ask her what she’s doing “tonight.” Not “for Valentine’s” – just say “tonight” like it’s any other Sunday.

THIS IS JUST A QUESTION. DO NOT ASK HER OUT.

There are a million different responses you might get, but there’s only one thing that’s important. Either she has firm plans or she doesn’t.

If she doesn’t have firm plans, then invite her out. But not on a date. That’s too weird, especially if you haven’t been in close contact with her. Tell her that you and your friends are going out for a few drinks and invite her to “join up later.”

Ideally you should frame it in a way that implies that it’s a mixed group or she might worry it’s a bunch of lonely guys on the prowl.

People love how the Routines Manual and the Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game give the exact wording of the right things to say for any situation, so I’m going to use that approach here.

You: “[Random Content]. So what are you up to tonight?”

Her: “I’m not sure, right now I’m just hanging out.” You: “Cool, I’m going to a friend’s place for a bit then we’re heading out. She lives in [neighborhood] so we’ll probably go out there. Come join up later!”

Did you notice how the last message is designed to get the word “she” into the text in a way that doesn’t seem forced?

If you’ve rebuilt attraction properly using Dynamite Theory and other powerful techniques (or copy and paste text messages) from the Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game, from here on in it will be about logistics.

She might bring a friend. If so, bring one of your own. If she wonders where “everyone else” is, say something plausible and then transition to a better topic. For example:

“It’s like Valentine’s Day survivor. Jessica’s still there drunk dialing her ex-boyfriend, (she’ll be back in a few), Dave and Kayla went to do some couples stuff and Jay – well let’s just say that Jay shouldn’t drink on an empty stomach. Hey, that reminds me [and go into a funny story - pick one straight from the Routines Manual if you like]…”

Do NOT act like it’s Valentine’s Day or make it all romantic. Go to a bar or club, have some drinks, and have fun. She’s likely planning to sleep with you anyway.

What if she does have plans?

No big deal. You’re not seeing her tonight. But, you can use this opportunity to reconnect with her and see her later/next week…

… IF – and only IF – you keep your line of retreat open. Once she shows you that she’s not coming out, tell her what you’re doing. It should be something you couldn’t have conceivably invited her to, so that your “what are you up to tonight?” is social chatter instead of a rejected Valentine’s date.

For example:

You: “[Random Content]. So what are you up to tonight?”

Her: “Going out with friends, you?”

You: “Getting used to being an uncle. I’m in Chicago this weekend; my sister just had a baby!”

Or

“Heading to a party later. But it’s a white party and I have nothing all-white. Might make friends with bleach.”

Continue on with BOTH attraction AND comfort-building through text messages (again, the Ultimate Guide is plug-and-play here) and you should get a few dates lined up for this week – even from women with “dead” phone numbers.

Valentine’s can be a lot of fun. Enjoy it.

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