1st conversation with a girl

1st conversation with a girl

1st conversation with a girl

Ask her direct questions about her personal interests.

Don’t make the mistake of spending too much time talking about “surface level” stuff, like the weather, or the other members of the place, or the band that’s playing.

Don’t be afraid to just go ahead and ask her about herself. I know this sounds like common sense, but do you DO it in real life? If you see that she’s wearing an intriguing necklace, ask her about it.

The point is… you need to discuss personal stuff, not surface level crap. Start with small talk, but move out of it after a couple of minutes, or she’ll get bored of the conversation (and so will you).

Think of amusing and interesting stories

Always have a few interesting and unique stories. Consider them before you go out so they are at your disposal. They should be stories that are smooth conversation starters like, “The weirdest thing just happened to me, you wouldn’t believe it!” Tell it like it was so interesting, you just had to share it with someone. If you tell it well, she’ll be on the edge of her seat, wanting to know more. Whatever you decide to discuss, be certain it makes you look good — you want to come across as confident and humorous, but not arrogant. These stories will distinguish you from everyone else, and will offer her some insight into your character, enough for her to want to find out more.

Focus on body language.

For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as if you’re focused on her.

Watch the way she uses her body. If she makes eye contact with you, lightly touches your arm or leans in toward you as you’re talking, then you can feel confident that she’s into you.

Be sure to’re projecting great body language, too. Don’t cross your arms, tap your feet, sigh or groan audibly. All these tics are signs that you’re bored or dissatisfied with her.

If she’s constantly looking away, fiddling with her beverage or her jewellery or looking like she can not wait to escape, then you might be losing her attention. You can try saying something like, “Are you having a bad day? You look as if you’re a million miles away.” Or, if the conversation hasn’t been all that interesting to begin with, just politely say, “Nice talking to you” and walk away.

Make a bet

Just as engaging as a game, you could also make a bet. The idea here is to continue to interact with her the entire evening. Here’s a great one: Bet her that you will remember her name the whole evening and if you forget, you have to buy her a drink. For the remainder of the evening, you’ll find her calling out your name every time she sees you. Nice! See what kinds of games you can produce.

Notice what she gives you.

Here’s what I mean. If, during the conversation, she mentions that she went bowling last week with her best friend, then you need to ASK her about it. She’s giving you a way to ask her about her personal interests, and she’s hoping you’ll pick up on that, and run with it.

If she mentions that she went bowling, you could follow up with any of the following questions or remarks:

* Oh that’s cool, I used to bowl in a league. How often do you play?

What other kind of things you and your friends to together?

* I think that’s awesome that you like bowling, because it’s one of my favorite things.

Bear in mind, take what she gives you, and use it as an entry way into a deeper conversation about personal interests, instead of being stuck in endless small talk (which she doesn’t want either).

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1st conversation with a woman

1st conversation with a woman

1st conversation with a woman

1st conversation with a woman

Accept pauses.

You’re not going to be able to think of something to say at each point during the conversation, and that’s completely okay. Pauses are a natural part of conversation. Get her comfortable with the idea of pauses by using pauses or deliberations sparingly in your own speech.

Smile at her, have a sip from your drink or look around the room until you come up with something new to say. As long as you seem confident and interested, she’ll wait with plenty of anticipation for the next step in the conversation. When you look nervous or stare at your feet, then she’ll feel uncomfortable, and she’s very likely to say “see you later.”

Use pauses throughout the conversation. When you dive, look as if you are carefully considering what you want to say. She’ll be invested in trying to find out what you’re going to say , and she may feel pressured to fill the silence with her own conversation.

People’s rate of speech naturally synchronizes when they’re talking. That means that people unconsciously mimic how quickly the other person is talking. So if you talk slowly, she’ll talk slowly, and the conversation will last longer. The secret to talking slowly is being confident, not nervous.

Think of the pauses as her chance to impress you. Don’t feel as if you will need to generate topic after topic for conversation. During the pause, you need to silently invite her to take the initiative. If she does, then you’ll know that she’s enjoying talking to you.

Think back to the last time you had a conversation with a woman you were interested in.

Allow me to ask you something… what are you focusing on the MOST? Was it:

Wondering if you’ll get her phone number?
Trying to make a good impression, so she’ll like you?
Doing your best to sound smooth and confident?

I have been thinking about this a lot now, and I understood that one of the biggest mistakes us guys make is that we’re too focused on “what she thinks of us” or “if we are going to get what we want (phone number, date, gender, etc)”… that we completely forget the objective of the conversation, which is…

Getting to know the individual before you!

It sounds simple, but if you remember this when you’re in the real world speaking to a real girl, you will loosen up, and start genuinely attempt to get to know her, and she’ll truly feel that.

If she feels like you’re really interested in her, she’ll become considerably more interested in YOU. I’ve got a few excellent tips for you to use next time you speak to a nice looking girl.

Focus on being friends.

If you are focusing on just having a fantastic time in the present time, this is one way that women begin to open up and have time to decide whether they feel like there’s chemistry. Asking for a friendly game of darts or pool on teams is fun, all of us get to relax, and in the meantime get to know one another a little bit.

Focus on her, not you.

Don’t let anxieties of being shot down or approaching a woman turn you off from talking to a woman. If she chooses not to respond to you, it is not about you. It’s about her. She probably isn’t looking for anyone, has her own insecurities, or is not interested.

If you are focusing on what you’re going to say next or the thoughts in your head, she will pick up on the fact that she doesn’t have 100% of your attention. Why? You’re too focused on yourself.

Bottom line, if you’re both listening to your own thoughts or you get distracted by something else, then you aren’t having a conversation with someone else in the first place!

The mere idea of having to initiate conversation with others, let alone a girl, is draining, intimidating, and daunting for introverts. This isn’t bad, it’s just the way it is. Just remember, half of the population are introverts, so it can be equally tough for women to respond back. It’s doable and is easiest to do when you are doing things that you enjoy doing.

The Energy of “hi”

This simple word is one of the most effective tools to use if you need to speak with a women as it’s natural. Remember: Attractive women are approached a lot. She’s heard every line. That said, a man who comes up to her and says, “Hi, how ya doing?” is actually original! Check it out; you will see what I mean.

“Cheers!”

If you are in a bar or club, among the easiest ways to begin speaking to some woman is to simply raise your glass to hers and say: “Cheers!” It’s simple, respectful, respectful, and paves the way for future dialogue. I used to hang out with a “natural” buddy of mine and he’d “cheers” every lady at the club. It’s a wonderful primer to get things going, because the next time you see her it’s like you’re old buddies.

Make a bet

Just as engaging as a game, you might also make a bet. The idea here is to continue to interact with her the entire evening. Here’s a great one: Bet her that you will remember her name the entire evening and if you forget, you must buy her a drink. For the rest of the evening, you’ll find her calling out your name every time she sees you. Nice! See what kinds of games you can come up with.

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1st phone call to a girl

1st phone call to a girl

1st phone call to a girl

Make yourself look good throughout the conversation.

You want to find out as much as possible about her, but you also need to make sure that you show yourself at your best.

Talk about a subject that makes you feel passionate and persuasive. When you’re talking about something really positive, you are likely to be at your very best. If you are passionate about music, then talk about your favorite bands. If you have something that you love to do, then talk about it with her.

Make certain you give her equal time. You definitely want to share something about yourself, but if you just talk about you, she’s going to think you’re self-centered, and she’s not going to speak with you.

Don’t offer opinions about subjects you know nothing about. Your goal is to impress the girl with your wit, your conversation, and your intelligence. If you blather about something you’re opinionated but uninformed about, you won’t come off as very intelligent.

Ask open-ended questions.

The difference between a close-ended question and an open-ended question is that if you ask a close-ended question the answer is either yes or no. An open-ended question uses What, When, Where, How and Why, but the purpose behind asking the questions is to elicit someone else’s opinions, thoughts, and feelings.

Before you head out the door, create a list of 5 or 10 things you can talk about — be it current events, politics, sports, or a hobby — and be open to listening and hearing differing opinions.

Focus on her, not you.

Don’t let anxieties of being shot down or approaching a woman turn you off from talking to a woman. If she chooses not to respond to you, it isn’t about you. It’s about her. She probably isn’t searching for anyone, has her own insecurities, or isn’t interested.

If you’re focusing on what you’re going to say next or the thoughts in your head, she will pick up on the fact that she does not have 100% of your attention. Why? You’re too focused on yourself.

Bottom line, if you’re both listening to your own thoughts or you get distracted by something else, then you aren’t having a conversation with someone else in the first place!

The mere idea of having to initiate conversation with other people, let alone a woman, is draining, intimidating, and daunting for introverts. This isn’t bad, it’s just the way it is. Keep in mind, half of the population are introverts, so it can be equally tough for women to respond back. It’s doable and is easiest to do when you are doing things that you like doing.

Bait her with an overheard comment

This technique is different in the sense that rather than approaching her, she’ll overhear you talking to a friend and will feel compelled to approach you to learn what you are discussing. Here’s how to do it: Make sure she is nearby, close enough to hear you talking to your friend. Make a comment loud enough that she’ll happen to overhear, something interesting or provocative enough that she will have to hear more. Something like: “Secretly, I think all women do it.” If she hears this fragment, she will want to find out more. “What? What do all women do?” She will want to ask.

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1st phone call to a woman

1st phone call to a woman

1st phone call to a woman

Focus on her, not you.

If she chooses not to respond to you, it isn’t about you. It’s about her. She probably isn’t looking for anyone, has her own insecurities, or is not interested.

If you’re focusing on what you’re going to say next or the thoughts in your head, she’ll pick up on the fact that she doesn’t have 100% of your attention. Why? You’re too focused on yourself.

Bottom line, if you’re both listening to your own thoughts or you get distracted by something else, then you aren’t having a conversation with someone else in the first place!

The mere thought of having to initiate conversation with other people, let alone a girl, is draining, intimidating, and daunting for introverts. This isn’t bad, it’s just the way it is. Just remember, half of the population are introverts, so it can be equally hard for women to respond back. It’s doable and is easiest to do when you are doing things that you enjoy doing.

Ask open-ended questions.

The difference between a close-ended question and an open-ended question is that if you ask a close-ended question the answer is either yes or no. An open-ended question uses What, When, Where, How and Why, but the purpose behind asking the questions is to elicit someone else’s opinions, thoughts, and feelings.

Before you head out the door, make a list of 5 or 10 things you can talk about — be it current events, politics, sports, or a hobby — and be open to listening and hearing differing opinions.

Latest events

Before you go out tonight, read up on the news today and stay informed on the latest celebrity gossip and entertainment news. You will want to pay special attention to the latest celebrity bad behaviour (there’s something new every week). There are many ways to use this. By way of instance, if you see that somebody is overly drunk, you can compare them to the latest celeb spotted falling from a nightclub. She’ll have a laugh, and you’ll communicate that you get what’s happening in the world and are in the know.

Don’t ask for a date. Provide a date instead.

You’re not a child who needs to ask permission anymore. If you want to take a woman out, just let her know that you’re interested in make an offer to spend time together at some place interesting.

A great deal of people make offers to you every day. Here’s an every day example:

When you go through the drive thru at a fast food place, and you order a sandwich, what do you almost ALWAYS hear? Usually you’ll hear something like, “You can upgrade this to a combo meail for only a dollar more. Do you want to do that today?”

It’s kind of the same thing with talking to women.

She’s already purchased the sandwich by having a wonderful conversation with you right now. You can simply let her know that you enjoy her company, and you want to offer her a chance to continue getting to know each other. If she says no, it doesn’t have anything to do with you as an individual. It’s just not something she’s interested in, just like you’re not interested in buying the combo meal sometimes.

Those fast food places offering the combos with each order have dramatically increased their total sales volume by juat making that simple offer.

YOU could do the same thing with your love life!

You could dramatically increase the amount of women you date just by offering each one that you’re interested in an opportunity to get to know you even better. The next 2 will say yes. But ALWAYS make the offer.

The 14 year old kid at the drive thru isn’t scared of you saying “No thanks, and you shouldn’t be afraid of some woman saying the same thing.

Manage Your Anxiety

Guys who want to learn how to keep a conversation going with a girl typically feel a whole lot of anxiety when talking to girls, or even just considering it. Their heart races, their mind often goes blank, and this naturally makes dialogue difficult.

Nearly every time, this anxiety is the real root of the issue. Not a lack of conversation skills; or at least, not as much. And if you wanna be able to make effortless conversation with a girl, you will need to weed out the problem from its root.

In other words, you need to learn how to deal with your anxiety around girls, so you can feel at ease talking to any girl. Then you’ll naturally be able to have conversations as long as you desire.

Because this is an intricate topic, I address it separately and in more detail in this special video. I recommend you watch it right now, because in it you’ll learn some of the most powerful information in existence about eliminating conversation anxiety and building conversation confidence. So make sure you watch it.

I know talking to a girl might be tough for you at this time. But trust me, this can completely change. Yes, it will take some work. You have to learn how to handle your nervousness, and you need to create better conversation habits for yourself.

The fantastic thing is that there are quality resources and specialists ready to help you on this journey. When you haven’t already, I invite you to join my free social confidence newsletter, and you’ll receive regular advice from me for improving your social confidence and social skills.

Think of amusing and interesting stories

Always have a couple interesting and special stories. Think about them before you go out so they are at your disposal. They ought to be stories that are smooth conversation starters like, “The weirdest thing just happened to me, you wouldn’t believe it!” If you tell it well, she’ll be on the edge of her seat, wanting to find out more. Whatever you decide to talk about, be certain it makes you look good — you need to come across as confident and humorous, but not arrogant. These stories will distinguish you from everyone else, and will offer her some insight into your character, enough for her to want to find out more.

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1st phone conversation with a girl

1st phone conversation with a girl

1st phone conversation with a girl

Ask her direct questions about her personal interests.

Don’t make the mistake of spending too much time talking about “surface level” stuff, like the weather, or the other people in the place, or the band that’s playing.

That kind of conversation is only interesting for the first couple minutes, because she’s waiting for you to take it to the next level.

I know this sounds like common sense, but do you DO it in real life? If you see that she’s wearing an interesting necklace, ask her about it.

The point is… you need to discuss personal stuff, not surface level crap. Start with small talk, but move out of it after a few minutes, or she’ll get bored of the conversation (and so will you).

Play a game

There are tons of fun little games you can play that will get a woman locked into a conversation with you. Take advantage of your environment, and try some fun, playful games to get her attention. For example, if you’re sitting in a restaurant and you spot a woman at another table, you could play tic-tac-toe on a napkin, and have your waiter deliver it to the unsuspecting target. Look online and find all kinds of fun games that involve language, memory or skill.

Initiate The Conversation.

A texted hi is a lame way to get started. No one on Earth except maybe your mother is excited to find a hi from you. Hi makes it obvious you’re only prepared to do the bare minimum to call attention to your existence, and that the other person will need to do all the conversational heavy lifting. The only good response to hi is another hi, and then it’s only four seconds in and you’re both already bored as hell, ready to scroll through Instagram or watch the “Bitch Better Have My Money” video for the 60th time.

What really makes a conversation is enthusiasm. Be excited to talk to this person, whether that excitement stems from the sheer awesomeness of her existence or from finally having the right audience (her) for sharing something hilarious you saw last night. Don’t attempt to force it–just be honest. Not to get heavy, but why do you like having this individual in your life? They get your jokes, they share the best remixes, they love you and make you feel good about yourself? If something made you think of her, say so. If you miss hanging out with her, say that. Bear in mind that it won’t kill you to use exclamation points every now and then.

Perhaps you’re trying to play it cool in front of someone you have a crush on, and your approach is to be the Disaffected Brooding Sensitive Guy. But trust me, this rule of thumb still applies. You can get worked up about something in front of her without giving away your crush. Enthusiasm is contagious, and a very close cousin to charisma. (And charisma is just style plus friendly confidence mixed with super-advanced conversation skills.)

 

Ask Questions.

The all-time ideal way to begin a conversation–in a three-way tie with an invitation to Kanye West’s birthday party and some variation of I was thinking about you recently–is to just ask the other person a question about themselves. Most men are really terrible at this. I mean, just piss poor. It’s so bad that pretty much every straight woman I’ve ever known has remarked upon it.

I know you know how to ask a question, but I’m not convinced you know how to ask a good one. By way of example, every American is adept at how are you? This is okay in some contexts–checking in on a heartbroken ex, for example–but it’s also among the laziest, least sincere-seeming inquiries, and laziness is the antithesis of enthusiasm. In actuality, it’s a conversation non-starter. I know many, many women (myself included) who’ve been in years-long relationships with men who still don’t bother to ask them questions. You want to make an attempt to do this with everyone in your life who matters to you! It’s called emotional labor; step it up.

A good question conveys earnest concern and interest. It includes specifics. If it can be answered with a mere yes or no, that yes or no will easily lead to equally enriching follow-up questions.

Ask her some questions.

You want to show her that you’re interested in her while at the same time deciding whether she’s really worth your interest. [2] A excellent question will make her think, laugh, and like you, all at exactly the same time.

A question like, “Did you like the new movie that came out this weekend?” This type of question will get a much longer answer from her.

Instead of waiting for her to ask you questions, be proactive and do the asking first. Once she’s answered your question, nod and then provide your own perspective. You want a balanced conversation in which you find out what she’s all about while also sharing parts of yourself.

Find out what she’s passionate about. If you like this girl, then chances are you find something about her really fascinating. Ask her why she likes what she likes, or why she thinks what she thinks. Ask her something that you genuinely want to learn more about instead of asking questions just to get her to talk. If you’re insincere, she’ll know, and your conversation will be dead in the water.

Folks love to talk about themselves. If you find out what she’s passionate about, the conversation will go naturally and easily. This is the easiest way to construct a connection.

Bait her with an overheard comment

This technique differs in the sense that rather than approaching her, she will overhear you talking to a friend and will feel compelled to approach you to learn what you’re discussing. Here’s how to do it: Make sure she is nearby, close enough to hear you talking to your friend. Make a comment loud enough that she’ll happen to overhear, something interesting or provocative enough that she’ll have to hear more. If she hears this fragment, she’ll want to find out more. “What? What do all women do?” She’ll want to ask.


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1st phone conversation with a woman

1st phone conversation with a woman

1st phone conversation with a woman

1st phone conversation with a woman

Keep the conversation light.

Don’t delve into any controversial subjects or anything that she may find uncomfortable. In addition, don’t gossip about other people, because she may believe that you’re not genuinely nice.

Use your sense of humor. Don’t dive in with a really off-color joke or something which could be shocking to her. Keep it light and test the waters before you say anything that she might think is mean or offensive.

Practice funny stories. More than simply jokes, people love hearing stories about funny things that happened to you. So keep an eye on funny or entertaining things that happened to you and rehearse the story you wish to tell with friends.

Know your pop culture. Keep up on the latest celebrity news and what’s new in movies and music. When you know what’s happening out there, you will always have something light to discuss. Additionally, you might just impress her with the amount of things that you know.

Ask her direct questions regarding her personal interests.

Don’t make the mistake of spending too much time talking about “surface level” stuff, like the weather, or the other members of the area, or the band that’s playing.

That kind of conversation is only interesting for the first couple minutes, because she’s waiting for you to take it to the next level.

Don’t be afraid to just go ahead and ask her about herself. I know this sounds like common sense, but do you DO it in real life? If you see that she’s wearing an interesting necklace, ask her about it. If you saw her playing pool before, ask her who taught her how to play.

The point is… you want to discuss personal stuff, not surface level crap. Begin with small talk, but move out of it after a couple of minutes, or she’ll get bored of the conversation (and so will you).

Play a game

There are a great deal of fun little games you can play that will find a woman locked into a conversation with you. Take advantage of your environment, and try some fun, playful games to receive her attention. By way of example, if you’re sitting in a restaurant and you spot a woman at another table, you could play tic-tac-toe on a napkin, and have your waiter deliver it to the unsuspecting target. Look on the internet and discover all sorts of fun games that involve language, memory or skill.

Talk about somebody or something in the Area

You may observe a individual wearing outrageous clothing, somebody acting inappropriately, a fight, etc.. Use whatever is happening around you for the conversation, especially if she shows some sort of reaction to it. For example, if you notice some dude wearing a ridiculous outfit you could say something like: “I think we just found your future husband!” You’ll be surprised just how well this works.

Notice what she gives you.

Here is what I mean. If, during the conversation, she mentions that she went bowling last week with her best friend, then you should ASK her about it.

If she mentions that she went bowling, you could follow up with any of the following questions or remarks:

How often do you play?

* Who do you usually go bowling with? What other kind of things you and your friends to together?

* I think that’s awesome that you like bowling, since it’s one of my favourite things. How long have you been playing?

Bear in mind, take what she gives you, and use it as an entry way into a deeper conversation about personal interests, rather than being stuck in endless small talk (which she doesn’t want either).

Focus on body language.

For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as if you’re focused on her.

Watch the way she uses her entire body. If she makes eye contact with you, lightly touches your arm or leans in toward you as you’re talking, then you can feel confident that she’s into you.

Be sure to’re projecting good body language, too. Don’t cross your arms, tap your feet, sigh or groan audibly. All these tics are signs that you’re bored or dissatisfied with her.

If she’s constantly looking away, fiddling with her beverage or her jewellery or looking like she can’t wait to escape, then you might be losing her interest. You can try saying something like, “Are you having a bad day? You look like you’re a million miles away.” Or, if the conversation hasn’t been all that interesting to begin with, just politely say, “Nice talking to you” and walk away.

Think of amusing and interesting stories

Always have a few interesting and unique stories. Consider them before you go out so they are at your disposal. They ought to be stories that are smooth conversation starters like, “The weirdest thing just happened to me, you wouldn’t believe it!” If you tell it well, she’ll be on the edge of her seat, wanting to find out more. Whatever you decide to talk about, be sure that it makes you look good — you need to come across as confident and humorous, but not arrogant. These stories will distinguish you from everyone else, and will offer her some insight into your character, enough for her to want to find out more.

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3 ways to open a conversation with a girl

3 ways to open a conversation with a girl

3 ways to open a conversation with a girl

Think back to the last time you had a conversation with a girl you were interested in.

Let me ask you something… what are you focusing on the MOST? Was it:

Wondering if you will get her phone number?
Trying to make a good impression, so she’ll like you?
Doing your best to seem smooth and confident?

I have been thinking about this a lot today, and I realized that one of the biggest mistakes us men make is that we’re too focused on “what she thinks of us” or “if we are going to get what we want (phone number, date, gender, etc)”… we completely forget the purpose of the dialogue, which is…

Getting to know the individual in front of you!

It sounds easy, but if you remember this when you are in the real world speaking to a real girl, you’ll loosen up, and begin genuinely attempt to get to know her, and she will truly feel that.

If she feels like you are actually interested in her, she’ll become considerably more interested in YOU. I’ve got a few great tips for you to use next time you talk to a nice looking girl.

Stop Romanticizing Women

Almost every guy I know who has trouble keeping conversation going with girls has this strong inclination to romanticize women. They see women as flawless, especially beautiful ones, they think women generally are above them and hard to impress, and they believe they must always say something brilliant in conversation in order to keep a women’s interest.

They don’t see anything they need to say as good enough, they pressure themselves to be witty with every comment they make, and thus they end up having little to say in a discussion.

This is why it’s crucial to stop romanticizing women. It will make it possible for you to relax around women, be confident, and speak your mind without second guessing yourself all the time. And this is a very attractive behavior, which coincidentally also makes conversation feel effortless.

Of course, to stop romanticizing women is easier said than done. We’re talking about changing a believing and behavioral habit, which requires particular psychological techniques.

The power of “hi”

This simple word is really one of the most powerful tools to use if you need to talk to a women because it’s natural. Recall: Attractive women are approached a lot. She’s heard every line. That said, a man who comes up to her and says, “Hi, how ya doing?” is actually original! Try it out; you will see what I mean.

“Cheers!”

If you are in a bar or club, among the easiest ways to start speaking to some woman is to simply raise your glass to hers and say: “Cheers!” It’s simple, respectful, respectful, and paves the way for future dialogue. I used to hang out with a “natural” friend of mine and he would “cheers” every lady in the club. It’s a wonderful primer to get things going, because the next time you see her it’s like you’re old buddies. Try it out.

Accept pauses.

You’re not going to be able to think of something to say at each point during the conversation, and that’s completely okay. Pauses are a natural part of conversation. Get her comfortable with the notion of pauses by using pauses or deliberations sparingly in your own speech.

Smile at her, have a sip from your drink or look around the room until you come up with something new to say. So long as you seem confident and interested, she’ll wait with a lot of anticipation for the next step in the conversation. If you look nervous or stare at your feet, then she’ll feel uncomfortable, and she’s likely to say “see you later.”

Use pauses throughout the conversation. When you dive, look as if you are carefully considering what you would like to say. She’ll be invested in trying to find out what you are going to say , and she could feel pressured to fill the silence with her own conversation.

People’s rate of speech naturally synchronizes when they’re talking. That means that people unconsciously mimic how quickly the other person is talking. So in case you talk slowly, she’ll talk slowly, and the conversation will last longer. The secret to talking slowly is being confident, not nervous.

Think of the pauses as her chance to impress you. Don’t feel as if you will need to create topic after topic for conversation. During the pause, you need to silently invite her to take the initiative. If she does, then you’ll know that she’s enjoying talking to you.

Ask open-ended questions.

The difference between a close-ended question and an open-ended question is that if you ask a close-ended question the answer is either yes or no. An open-ended question uses What, When, Where, How and Why, but the purpose behind asking the questions is to elicit someone else’s opinions, thoughts, and feelings.

Before you head out the door, make a list of 5 or 10 things you can talk about — be it current events, politics, sports, or a hobby — and be open to listening and hearing differing opinions.

Notice what she gives you.

Here’s what I mean. If, during the conversation, she mentions that she went bowling last week with her best friend, then you should ASK her about it. She’s giving you a way to ask her about her personal interests, and she’s hoping you’ll pick up on that, and run with it.

* Oh that’s cool, I used to bowl in a league.

* Who do you usually go bowling with? What other kind of things you and your friends to together?

* I think that’s awesome that you like bowling, since it’s one of my favourite things.

Bear in mind, take what she gives you, and use it as an entry way into a deeper conversation about personal interests, rather than being stuck in endless small talk (which she doesn’t want either).

Ask her opinion

Among the very best ways to start a conversation is to ask her opinion on something. This works especially well with groups of women, and with a topic they would really like to talk about. The important thing to remember is to make it look like you are actually interested in getting a person’s opinion. “My friends and I disagree on something, maybe you can help answer this. If the question is engaging enough, women will jump at the chance to answer.

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Manage Your Anxiety

Guys who want to learn how to keep a conversation going with a girl typically feel a lot of anxiety when talking to girls, or even just considering it. Their heart races, their mind often goes blank, and this naturally makes dialogue difficult.

Nearly every time, this anxiety is the real root of the issue. Not a lack of conversation skills; or at least, not as much. And if you wanna have the ability to produce effortless conversation with a girl, you will need to weed out the problem from its root.

In other words, you need to learn how to manage your anxiety around girls, so you can feel at ease talking to any girl. Then you’ll naturally be able to have conversations as long as you want.

Because this is an intricate topic, I address it separately and in more detail in this special video. I recommend you watch it right now, because in it you’ll learn some of the most effective data in existence about eliminating conversation anxiety and building conversation confidence. So be sure to watch it.

I know talking to a girl may be tough for you right now. But trust me, this can completely change. Yes, it is going to take some work. You need to learn how to deal with your nervousness, and you need to create better conversation habits for yourself.

The good thing is that there are quality resources and specialists ready to help you on this journey. If you haven’t already, I invite you to join my free social confidence newsletter, and you’ll receive regular advice from me for improving your social confidence and social skills.

Focus on body language.

For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as though you’re focused on her.

Watch the way she uses her body. If she makes eye contact with you, lightly touches your arm or leans in toward you while you’re talking, then you can feel confident that she’s into you.

Make sure you’re projecting good body language, too. Don’t cross your arms, tap your feet, sigh or groan audibly. All these tics are signs that you’re bored or dissatisfied with her.

If she’s constantly looking away, fiddling with her beverage or her jewellery or looking like she can’t wait to escape, then you may be losing her attention. You can try saying something like, “Are you having a bad day? You look as if you’re a million miles away.” Or, if the conversation hasn’t been all that interesting to start with, just politely say, “Nice talking to you” and walk away.

Maintain the attention always on her.

Let her know that you think she’s important. Don’t be cagey about turning the spotlight on you. Instead, concentrate it mainly on her.

Turn off your cell phone while you’re having a conversation with a woman. If you go out to have a call, you might return and find that she’s moved on.

If you run into friends, introduce your friends to her but stay focused on your own conversation. Attempt to send nonverbal signals to your friends letting them know that they need to talk to you another time.

Bait her with an overheard comment

This technique is different in the sense that rather than approaching her, she’ll overhear you talking to a friend and will feel compelled to approach you to learn what you’re discussing. Make a comment loud enough that she’ll happen to overhear, something interesting or provocative enough that she will have to hear more. Something like: “Secretly, I think all women do it.” If she hears this fragment, she will want to know more. “What? She will want to ask.

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Latest events

Prior to going out tonight, read up on the news today and stay informed on the latest celebrity gossip and entertainment news. You’ll want to pay special attention to the newest celebrity bad behaviour (there’s something new every week). There are many ways to use this. By way of example, if you see that somebody is overly drunk, you can compare them to the most recent celeb spotted falling from a nightclub. She’ll have a laugh, and you’ll communicate that you get what’s going on in the world and are in the know.

Find out Her Interests

Guys often have a hard time knowing what to talk about with a girl because they don’t know her interests. They may think: “I can talk about computers, because I’m interested in this subject; but will she be interested?”

One way to address this predicament is by trial and error. You begin talking about a certain topic that you think she might be interested in, and if she does indeed seem interested, you keep talking about it. If not, you move to a different topic, and another, and another, wanting to find those that she can relate to. And this is a natural part of a normal conversation.

However, there is an even better way to deal with this predicament. I usually like to ask something like: “So, what do you like to do?”

She will mention some of them, and I know what I can discuss that she’ll enjoy. I then identify among those topics the ones I enjoy as well, and I understand these are directions I can confidently take the conversation in. This is how to keep a conversation going with a girl by finding common ground.

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Bait her with an overheard comment

This technique differs in the sense that rather than approaching her, she’ll overhear you talking to a friend and will feel compelled to approach you to learn what you are discussing. Here’s how to do it: Make sure she is nearby, close enough to hear you talking to your friend. Make a comment loud enough that she’ll happen to overhear, something interesting or provocative enough that she’ll have to hear more. Something like: “Secretly, I think all women do it.” If she hears this fragment, she’ll want to know more. “What? What do all women do?” She will want to ask.

Manage Your Anxiety

Guys who want to learn how to keep a conversation going with a girl typically feel a whole lot of anxiety when talking to girls, or even just thinking about it. Their heart races, their mind often goes blank, and this naturally makes dialogue difficult.

Nearly every time, this anxiety is the actual root of the issue. Not a lack of conversation skills; or at least, not as much. And if you wanna have the ability to produce effortless conversation with a girl, you will need to weed out the problem from its root.

To put it differently, you will need to learn how to deal with your anxiety around girls, so you can feel at ease talking to any girl. Then you’ll naturally be able to have conversations as long as you desire.

Because this is an intricate topic, I address it separately and in more detail in this special video. I recommend you watch it right now, because in it you’ll learn some of the most powerful information in existence about eliminating conversation anxiety and building conversation confidence. So be sure to watch it.

I know talking to a girl may be difficult for you at this time. But trust me, this can completely change. Yes, it is going to take some work. You need to learn how to deal with your nervousness, and you will need to create better conversation habits for yourself.

The good thing is that there are quality resources and specialists ready to help you on this journey. If you haven’t already, I invite you to join my free social confidence newsletter, and you will receive regular advice from me for improving your social confidence and social skills.

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Ask her direct questions regarding her personal interests.

Don’t make the mistake of spending too much time talking about “surface level” stuff, like the weather, or the other members of the place, or the band that’s playing.

That kind of conversation is only interesting for the first couple minutes, because she’s waiting for you to take it to the next level.

If you see that she’s wearing an interesting necklace, ask her about it.

The point is… you want to talk about personal stuff, not surface level crap. Begin with small talk, but move out of it after a couple of minutes, or she’ll get bored of the conversation (and so will you).

Ask her opinion

One of the most effective ways to begin a conversation is to ask her opinion on something. This works especially well with groups of women, and with a topic they would love to talk about. The important point to remember is to make it look like you’re actually interested in getting a person’s opinion. “My friends and I disagree on something, perhaps you can help answer this. What’s up with that?” If the question is engaging enough, women will jump at the opportunity to answer.

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Think back to the last time you had a conversation with a woman you were interested in.

Let me ask you something… what were you focusing on the MOST? Was it:

Wondering if you’ll get her phone number?
Trying to make a good impression, so she will like you?
Doing your best to seem confident and smooth?

I have been thinking about this a lot today, and I understood that one of the biggest mistakes us guys make is that we are too focused on “what she thinks of us” or “if we’re going to get what we want (phone number, date, gender, etc)”… that we completely forget the purpose of the dialogue, which is…

Getting to know the person in front of you!

It sounds simple, but if you remember this when you’re in the real world speaking to a real girl, you will loosen up, and begin genuinely attempt to get to know her, and she’ll FEEL that.

If she feels like you are actually interested in her, she’ll become considerably more interested in YOU. I’ve got a few excellent tips for you to use next time you speak to a nice looking girl.

Latest events

Before you go out tonight, read up on the news today and remain informed on the latest celebrity gossip and entertainment news. This is perfect material for conversations. You’ll want to pay special attention to the latest celebrity bad behaviour (there’s something new every week). There are many ways to use this. By way of example, if you see that somebody is overly drunk, you can compare them to the latest celeb spotted falling out of a nightclub. She’ll have a laugh, and you’re going to communicate that you get what’s happening in the world and are in the know.

Listen.

You can’t ask good questions without listening and observing and learning about what another individual cares about. You cannot have a good conversation without good questions. So you see, listening is the foundation for the whole damn carnival ride. Now go forth with open ears and a judicious mouth, and conversate the world into a warmer, happier place.

 

Start things off to invite her to talk.

Pay attention to the scenario, and mold your invitation to the conditions. Don’t, for instance, ask her a random astronomy question when she’s shopping for shoes. Here are a different ways to accomplish this:

If you want to strike up a conversation with a girl you don’t know, try making a recommendation. By way of example, if you find a beautiful girl at a coffee shop, and she looks undecided about her order, then recommend your favourite drink or tell her that you’re going to guess exactly what she wants just by looking at her.

If you’re in school together, then make a comment about classes or talk about your extra curricular activities. If you’re working together, then start a chat about some workplace news, or ask for her help with something that you’re working on.

Ask her for a minor favor. By way of example, ask her to watch your stuff (like your phone) while you go get her something to drink. It will also make them feel trustworthy and maybe even curious.

If she looks great that day or if she said something amazing during class, then tell her so. Compliment her hair, or her smile, or her dress. Make sure that your compliment is genuine and not phony.

Ask open-ended questions.

The difference between a close-ended question and an open-ended question is that when you ask a close-ended question the answer is either yes or no. An open-ended question uses What, When, Where, How and Why, but the purpose behind asking the questions is to elicit someone else’s opinions, thoughts, and feelings.

Before you head out the door, make a list of 5 or 10 things you can talk about — be it current events, politics, sports, or a hobby — and be open to listening and hearing differing opinions.

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