1st conversation with a girl
Ask her direct questions about her personal interests.
Don’t make the mistake of spending too much time talking about “surface level” stuff, like the weather, or the other members of the place, or the band that’s playing.
Don’t be afraid to just go ahead and ask her about herself. I know this sounds like common sense, but do you DO it in real life? If you see that she’s wearing an intriguing necklace, ask her about it.
The point is… you need to discuss personal stuff, not surface level crap. Start with small talk, but move out of it after a couple of minutes, or she’ll get bored of the conversation (and so will you).
Think of amusing and interesting stories
Always have a few interesting and unique stories. Consider them before you go out so they are at your disposal. They should be stories that are smooth conversation starters like, “The weirdest thing just happened to me, you wouldn’t believe it!” Tell it like it was so interesting, you just had to share it with someone. If you tell it well, she’ll be on the edge of her seat, wanting to know more. Whatever you decide to discuss, be certain it makes you look good — you want to come across as confident and humorous, but not arrogant. These stories will distinguish you from everyone else, and will offer her some insight into your character, enough for her to want to find out more.
Focus on body language.
For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as if you’re focused on her.
Watch the way she uses her body. If she makes eye contact with you, lightly touches your arm or leans in toward you as you’re talking, then you can feel confident that she’s into you.
Be sure to’re projecting great body language, too. Don’t cross your arms, tap your feet, sigh or groan audibly. All these tics are signs that you’re bored or dissatisfied with her.
If she’s constantly looking away, fiddling with her beverage or her jewellery or looking like she can not wait to escape, then you might be losing her attention. You can try saying something like, “Are you having a bad day? You look as if you’re a million miles away.” Or, if the conversation hasn’t been all that interesting to begin with, just politely say, “Nice talking to you” and walk away.
Make a bet
Just as engaging as a game, you could also make a bet. The idea here is to continue to interact with her the entire evening. Here’s a great one: Bet her that you will remember her name the whole evening and if you forget, you have to buy her a drink. For the remainder of the evening, you’ll find her calling out your name every time she sees you. Nice! See what kinds of games you can produce.
Notice what she gives you.
Here’s what I mean. If, during the conversation, she mentions that she went bowling last week with her best friend, then you need to ASK her about it. She’s giving you a way to ask her about her personal interests, and she’s hoping you’ll pick up on that, and run with it.
If she mentions that she went bowling, you could follow up with any of the following questions or remarks:
* Oh that’s cool, I used to bowl in a league. How often do you play?
What other kind of things you and your friends to together?
* I think that’s awesome that you like bowling, because it’s one of my favorite things.
Bear in mind, take what she gives you, and use it as an entry way into a deeper conversation about personal interests, instead of being stuck in endless small talk (which she doesn’t want either).