how to start an interesting conversation with a woman over text
Why else are you on this earth? You cannot ask good questions without listening and observing and learning about what another individual cares about. You cannot have a good conversation without good questions. So you see, listening is the foundation for the entire damn carnival ride.
Start things off to invite her to talk.
Pay attention to the scenario, and mold your invitation to the circumstances. Don’t, by way of instance, ask her a random astronomy question when she’s shopping for shoes. Here are a different ways to accomplish this:
If you want to strike up a conversation with a girl you don’t know, consider making a recommendation. For example, if you see a gorgeous girl at a coffee shop, and she looks undecided about her order, then recommend your favorite drink or tell her that you’re going to guess exactly what she wants just by looking at her.
If you’re in school together, then make a comment about classes or discuss your extra curricular activities. If you’re working together, then begin a chat about some workplace news, or ask for her help with something that you’re working on.
For example, ask her to watch your stuff (like your phone) while you go get her something to drink. Girls will feel more interested in you if they’ve done a favor for you. It will also make them feel trustworthy and maybe even curious.
Pay her a compliment. If she looks great that day or if she said something amazing during class, then tell her so. Compliment her hair, or her smile, or her dress. Make sure that your compliment is genuine and not phony.
Think back to the last time you had a conversation with a girl you were interested in.
Let me ask you something… what were you focusing on the MOST? Was it:
Wondering if you’ll get her phone number?
Attempting to make a good impression, so she’ll like you?
Doing your best to seem confident and smooth?
I have been thinking about this a lot now, and I understood that one of the biggest mistakes us guys make is that we’re too focused on “what she thinks of us” or “if we’re going to get what we want (phone number, date, gender, etc)”… that we completely forget the purpose of the conversation, which is…
Getting to know the person in front of you!
It sounds easy, but if you remember this when you’re in the real world talking to a real girl, you’ll loosen up, and begin genuinely try to get to know her, and she’ll FEEL that.
If she feels like you are actually interested in her, she’ll become considerably more interested in YOU. I’ve got a few excellent tips for you to use next time you talk to a nice looking girl.
Focus on body language.
For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as though you’re focused on her.
Watch the way she uses her body. If she makes eye contact with you, lightly touches your arm or leans in toward you as you’re talking, then you can feel confident that she’s into you.
Be sure to’re projecting good body language, too. Don’t cross your arms, tap your feet, sigh or groan audibly. All these tics are signs that you’re bored or dissatisfied with her.
If she’s constantly looking away, fiddling with her beverage or her jewellery or looking like she can not wait to escape, then you might be losing her attention. You can try saying something like, “Are you having a bad day? You look as if you’re a million miles away.” Or, if the conversation hasn’t been all that interesting to start with, just politely say, “Nice talking to you” and walk away.
Keep the conversation light.
Don’t delve into any controversial subjects or anything that she may find uncomfortable. In addition, don’t gossip about other people, because she may believe that you’re not genuinely wonderful.
Use your sense of humor. Don’t dive in with a really off-color joke or something that could be shocking to her. Keep it light and test the waters before you say anything that she might think is mean or offensive.
Practice funny stories. More than simply jokes, people love hearing stories about funny things that happened to you. So keep an eye on funny or entertaining things that happened to you and rehearse the story you wish to tell with friends.
Know your pop culture. Keep up on the latest celebrity news and what’s new in movies and music. When you know what’s happening out there, you’ll always have something light to talk about. Additionally, you might just impress her with the number of things you know.
Talk Some about Yourself
There is this popular idea that to keep a conversation going with a girl you just met, you need to ask her lots of questions, because everybody loves to talk about themselves, and not talk too much about yourself, because you’ll appear self-absorbed.
Because in practice, this idea rarely holds water.
You want to realize that when you’re talking with a girl you just met, to her, you’re mostly a stranger. She knows almost nothing about you. And a girl isn’t gonna feel comfortable answering a long line of personal questions from a guy she knows almost nothing about. I can not tell you how many women have confessed this to me.
For this reason it’s important when you’re talking to a woman to unite asking her questions with speaking about yourself. It is this mix of her talking, you talking, her talking some more, you talking some more, that makes the conversation move forward and helps both of you become comfortable with each other. And that’s precisely what you would like.
Typically, you might hesitate to talk about yourself, and as you lack practice, you might not be very good at it either. But this is something that you could only overcome with practice. So try to be more talkative and talk more about yourself. With experience you will get better at it and it will find a lot easier as well.