10 things that attract women to men
How do I attract a woman by giving her the experience she wants?
This is where most pickup books would just in with techniques about to demonstrate this and how to internalise that, and frankly, once more, they’re all crap.
Why? Because the actions you take don’t determine how you make women feel.
You can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel creeped out and you can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel excited and alive
You can tell a story in a way that makes her feel pressured to laugh and give you a positive response and you can tell a story in a way that makes her feel excited.
You can ask her for her number in a way that her feel unsafe and unsure and you can ask for her number in a way that makes desired and appreciated
Your actions don’t determine how you make a woman feel.
And no, it is not your haircut, your style, your understanding or your bank balance.
It’s something far simpler… Think about it like this:
Which kind of people do you feel most excited and alive around? Is it routine, boring, monotone, safe people or is it exciting people who’re living on their edge and pushing their boundaries?
Which sort of people do you feel the most safe and secure around? Is it nervous, anxious, and flighty people or is it calm, confident, and strong people
Which sort of people do you feel more connected to? Is it closed off and standoffish people or is it open and expressive people?
What you experience determines what the women you’re interacting with feel. What you experience determines whether women are attracted to you.
You can not give women the experience of security and security until you feel safe and protected yourself.
You can not give women the experience of excitement and really living until you feel excited and alive.
You can’t give women the experience of freedom and openness till you feel free and open.
It’s just that easy.
A feeling of humour.
Her attraction for you is not logically determined by a screening process — your job, looks, hobbies and interests.
So don’t treat your interactions with women like an interview. Dull conversation kills attraction. Rather than ask boring questions like “Where are you from?” Instead play the guessing game. “You sound like you’re an Essex girl with that terrible accent of yours”.
Concentrate on showing your funny side, make lighthearted conversation and tease her senseless.
Play an instrument.
Just be certain it is not the drums. No one wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.
The method of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a poor internet “prank” video.
Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In fact, he did this 3 times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.
Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Scientists have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.
Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 1:
Women want different experiences
Do you believe the follow women want the same experience?
The 18 year old party girl who’s just broken up with her high-school sweetheart and is exploring all the possibilities that comes with moving out from home to school for the first time
The 35 year old cougar who craves the attention of younger guys because he husband of 11 years spends more time on the Xbox than he does with her.
The 29 year old who’s been trapped in an unsafe relationship with an abusive boyfriend for the past 2 years and has finally found the strength to move on
Do you think you could just flip the same switches with these women and they’d be on their knees unzipping your fly?
Do you think you could just follow the identical manual to turn all of these women into blubbering messes?
No. Of course not.
The party girls wants to taste freedom and so to attract her, you would have to give her the experience of liberty
The book worm wants to experience a depth of connection so to attract her, you’d have to give her the experience of connection
The cougar wants to feel appreciated and important so to attract her, you’d have to give her the experience of appreciation
This means there isn’t step-by-step set of switches you have to flick because each woman has a different set of ‘switches’.
Just in exactly the same manner you want different things out of life than your parents and your mates, women also want different things.
But, it doesn’t just stop there.
Relax your body language.
You need to be looking calm, cool and calculated under pressure. Not like like a meth junkie waiting for his next hit. Keep your body language open, never cross your arms. And lean back slightly so you don’t come across threatening.
The Way to Attract Women: What They’re Not Telling You
In the darkness, as you stare across the bar, desperately wondering how to get the attention of that impossibly out-of-your-league blonde bombshell, your mind is racing.
What do I say? How do I act? Why? Because you’re not asking the right question.
All these questions you’re asking actually have a deeper undercurrent — something that forms the basis of these questions that you must get to before you can think of a real answer: How do I attract women?
You see, you don’t really care about what you should say or what you should do, as long as they get you the results you want: doe-eyes, wet-panty, delicate-touch-of-your-arm, attraction. You want her to want you, and want you badly.
So if you’re ever going to answer these questions that race through your ming, you need to begin by answering the core question first: How do you attract women?
Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 2:
Answer this: when you woke up this morning, did you crave the same thing for breakfast as you did for lunch? Or, over the course of the day, have your desires changed?
Of course you didn’t.
Why? Because people change. All the time. Every day.
And that means that the experience they’re attracted to changes as well.
The party girl who wants to taste freedom might see her ex-boyfriend making out with another girl and all of a sudden desire to feel significant and important
The book worm who craves connection might get her fill and all of a sudden desire to do something exciting and outlandish
The cougar who desires to feel appreciated and important might find her sense of significance and then crave an adventure
Women (just like guys) change. Their thoughts change, their feelings change, and their desires change.
You can’t just follow one set script and process to attract women because even if all women did desire the identical experience at one point in time, that desire will change. And when that want changes, what they are attract to will change.
But that’s not all. There’s one more point you need to know about attraction switches
There’s nobody exact set of resources or buttons you can use to entice any woman because every woman is different.
Every single one.
Various women want different experiences at different times of the day and to give them the experience they want (and have them attracted to you because of it), you can’t just follow a script or a prescribed set of actions.
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