10 steps to attract women

10 steps to attract women

Women love to role play

Indulge her appetite for fantasy by making her your private bodyguard and telling her to guard you from the other girls across the bar. Or pretend that you’re engaged and then break up with her when she says something you don’t like.

Learning how to draw women takes time and dedication, but in the end it’s an extremely important skill to develop. Taking the time to work on this element of your life doesn’t just lead to fun times with new women at bars and nightclubs, in addition, it leads to better relationships, a better family and a better life down the road.

Indulge in a little “courtship feeding.”

“Courtship feeding” is just what it sounds like. Really, it’s only a fancy way of saying, “Take her out to dinner.”

Strangely, offering a slice of pizza appears to make the giver of the food like the recipient more, in addition to the other way around.

The entire thing probably goes back to human infancy. To quote the study Food for love: the use of food offering in empathic emotion regulation (of course a title like that would be a mouthful), “Food offering is one of the earliest biobehavioral regulatory interactions between parent and child.”
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Basically, that boils down to the inversion of that old chestnut about the way to a man’s heart being his stomach. It turns out that stomachs are a pretty dependable route to a woman’s heart, too.

Keep your voice low and speak slowly.

A calming deep voice is very seductive. Think Joey Tribianni on ‘Friends’ and his famous pickup line “How you doin?” . Speak slowly and accentuate your words like you’re telling a story to captivate her attention.

Tell stories, rather than brag.

Bragging screams neediness and reduced confidence. …I make lots of money and drive a Ferrari….

If you happen to drive a Ferrari, do not feel the need to tell a girl straight away. Rather tell interesting stories about your life so she can work out for herself if you’re successful and a person of status.

Understand How to Attract Women from Her Perspective

The first thing you need to realize is that attraction works differently for women than it does for men. Some of you might say “that’s obvious”, but knowing precisely what the differences are is vitally important. As soon as you understand how attraction works from a female perspective, you will find it much easier to create attraction, and to avoid destroying it. Or at least, when you screw up, you will understand what you did wrong.

Once you really start to comprehend the secret of attraction, suddenly the issue of how to attract women becomes a lot easier to solve. This is one of those things that guys who really get women understand, and average guys struggle with.

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10 things attract girls

10 things attract girls

Forget the razor for a while (but not too long).

Here’s some good news for the hipsters: Women really do love beards. Facial hair is seen as a sign of maturity and masculinity, and unsurprisingly, a good beard can help you get a date.
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However, don’t throw away your razor just yet. A study published in Evolution and Human Behavior showed that women prefer “heavy stubble” to a full beard. Researchers asked men and women to estimate the health, masculinity, and parenting abilities of photos of men with varying amounts of facial hair.

“Women judged faces with heavy stubble as most attractive and heavy beards, light stubble and clean-shaven faces as similarly less attractive,” the study’s authors wrote. However, women rated men with full beards as better parents than men with light beards.
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“[Our findings] suggest that an intermediate degree of beardedness is the most attractive,” the authors write, “while full-bearded men might be perceived as better dads who could protect and invest in offspring.”

Confidence.

If you’re a man who goes after what he wants, is a leader of people and has a greater perception of himself over others, women will find you attractive.

Rather than the guy who’s worried about making a move, follows the crowd, and puts women on a pedestal when he talks to them.

— Don’t be ashamed to express your sexual desire
— Focus on teasing a girl rather than complimenting her all the time

— When talking to a girl, ask questions to get her qualifying herself to you. eg. “Give me one good reason I should buy you a drink?”

The Way to Attract Women: What They’re Not Telling You

In the darkness, as you stare across the bar, desperately wondering how to get the attention of that impossibly out-of-your-league blonde bombshell, your mind is racing.

Why? As you’re not asking the right question.

All these questions you’re asking actually have a deeper undercurrent — something that forms the basis of these questions which you have to get to before you can come up with a real answer: How do I attract women?

You see, you don’t really care about what you should say or what you should do, provided that they get you the results you want: doe-eyes, wet-panty, delicate-touch-of-your-arm, attraction. You want her to want you, and want you badly.

So if you’re ever going to answer these questions that race through your ming, you have to begin by answering the core question first: How do you attract women?

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10 things attract women

10 things attract women

Keep your voice low and speak slowly.

A calming deep voice is very seductive. Think Joey Tribianni on ‘Friends’ and his famous pickup line “How you doin?” . Speak slowly and accentuate your words like you’re telling a story to captivate her attention.

A man of status.

Women want to be wanted by a powerful man. If you’re perceived to be of higher standing around the people you socialize with, you hold the magical power to attract boundless women into your life.

Status is determined by two things — how you present yourself and how you act around women.

Even though some factors (genetic makeup and wealth) are somewhat out of our control, there are many small changes you can make to look like a man of standing.

If you wish to attract high value women start dressing like a high value man.

You don’t have to wear designer labels and flash a rolex to dress well. Just start by dressing more like a man than a boy. Like James Bond or Damon Salvatore in the Vampire Diaries, rather than Harold Wolowitz from The Big Bang Theory.

In terms of how you behave around women, your status is determined by your level of confidence.

Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 1:

Women want different experiences

Do you believe the follow women want the same experience?

The 18 year old party girl who’s just broken up with her high-school sweetheart and is exploring all the possibilities that comes with moving away from home to school for the first time

The 35 year old cougar who craves the attention of younger men since he husband of 11 years spends more time on the Xbox than he does with her
The 29 year old who has been trapped in an unsafe relationship with an abusive boyfriend for the last two years and has finally found the strength to Proceed

Do you think you could just flip the same switches with these women and they’d be on their knees unzipping your fly?

Do you think you could just stick to the same manual to turn all these women into blubbering messes?

No. Of course not.

The party women wants to taste freedom and to attract her, you’d have to give her the experience of liberty

Each woman is different and each woman wants a different experience. This means there is not step-by-step set of switches you have to flick because each woman has a different set of ‘switches’.

Just in the same manner you want different things out of life than your parents and your mates, women also want different things.

But, it doesn’t just stop there. This goes even deeper…

The Key to Attracting Women is…

…first giving yourself what you want.

It starts with creating a life that is exciting and challenging, where you feel strong and powerful and open and free and connected to people about you.

It starts with challenging your insecurities rather than letting them you challenge you.

It starts with moving towards your fears as opposed to moving away from them.

It begins with opening up and sharing yourself instead of closing down and hiding.

Becoming the kind of Man that women are naturally and effortlessly drawn to begins by becoming the kind of Man that you would like to be.

To attract women, you first must become attractive.

Now, I’m not saying that pickup artist tricks can’t do the job. Of course they can. You can learn to hide and conceal and pretend and manipulate and get short term results with gullible women.

But if you’ve ever dreamed of getting long-term results with intelligent, self-aware women, then there’s only one way to do it.

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10 things that attract girls to men

10 things that attract girls to men

Play an instrument.

Just be certain it is not the drums. Nobody wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.

The procedure of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a poor internet “prank” video.

Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In actuality, he did this three times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.

Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Researchers have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.

Keep your voice low and speak slowly.

A calming deep voice is extremely seductive. Think Joey Tribianni on ‘Friends’ and his famous pickup line “How you doin?” . Speak slowly and accentuate your words like you’re telling a story to captivate her attention.

Indulge in a little “courtship feeding.”

“Courtship feeding” is exactly what it sounds like. Really, it’s only a fancy way of saying, “Take her out to dinner.”

According to a 2014 study in the journal Frontiers in Psychology, sharing food “increases interpersonal closeness.” Strangely, offering a slice of pizza appears to make the giver of the food like the recipient more, as well as the other way around.

The whole thing probably goes back to human infancy. To quote the study Food for love: the role of food offering in empathic emotion regulation (of course a title like that would be a mouthful), “Food offering is one of the earliest biobehavioral regulatory interactions between parent and child.”
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Basically, that boils down to the inversion of that old chestnut about the way to a man’s heart being his stomach. It turns out that stomachs are a fairly dependable route to a woman’s heart, too.

Don’t brag

It’s great that you have a wonderful car and a great job, but don’t tell her that directly. Although women are attracted to wealth, they are not attracted to men who brag about it. The reason for this is that women can sense that a propensity to brag likely stems from low confidence. Instead of bragging, tell her an interesting story that allows her to decipher independently that you’re successful.

Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 2:

The experience women want changes day-by-day, and even moment-by-moment

Answer this: when you woke up this morning, did you crave the exact same thing for breakfast as you did for lunch? Or, over the course of the day, have your desires changed?

Of course you didn’t.

Why? Because people change. All the time. Every day.

And that means that the experience they’re attracted to changes as well.

The party girl who wants to taste freedom might see her ex-boyfriend making out with another girl and all of a sudden desire to feel significant and important
The book worm who craves connection might get her fill and All a sudden desire to do something exciting and outlandish
The cougar who desires to feel appreciated and important might find her sense of significance and crave an adventure

Women (just like guys) change. Their thoughts change, their feelings change, and their desires change.

You can’t just follow one set script and process to attract women because even if all women did desire the identical experience at one point in time, that desire is going to change. And when that want changes, what they’re attract to will change.

But that’s not all. There’s one more point you need to know about attraction switches

There’s nobody exact set of tools or buttons you can use to attract any woman because every woman is different.

Every single one.

Various women want different experiences at different times of the day and to give them the experience they want (and have them attracted to you because of it), you can’t just follow a script or a prescribed set of actions.

Skip the razor for a while (but not too long).

Here’s some good news for the hipsters: Women really do love beards. Facial hair is seen as a sign of maturity and masculinity, and unsurprisingly, a decent beard can help you to get a date.
Unsplash

However, don’t throw away your razor just yet. A study published in Evolution and Human Behavior showed that women prefer “heavy stubble” to a complete beard. Researchers asked men and women to estimate the health, masculinity, and parenting abilities of photos of men with varying amounts of facial hair.

“Women judged faces with heavy stubble as most attractive and heavy beards, light stubble and clean-shaven faces as similarly less attractive,” the study’s authors wrote.
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“[Our findings] suggest that an intermediate degree of beardedness is the most attractive,” the authors write, “while full-bearded guys may be perceived as better dads who could protect and invest in offspring”

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10 things that attract guys to girl

10 things that attract guys to girl

Smile and hold eye contact.

Remain locked in eye contact and follow with a light smile to relieve the tension and avoid looking like an expressionless garden gnome.

By holding eye contact and smiling you are subtly expressing your sexual desire for her in a confident way.

Forget the pickup lines.

Yes, they’ve studied this. Not one but two groundbreaking studies of classic cheesy pickup lines seem to suggest that (SPOILER ALERT) they don’t work. Almost 90 percent of the women in one of those studies rated those poor old pickup lines as extremely useless.

Something like 65 percent of the women surveyed in a Personality and Individual Differences article said they appreciate a simple, confident, and direct approach.

Can the cheesy lines, even if you’re trying to be ironic. In fact, we tried to include a sample of bad pickup lines in this list, but they’re all too bad.
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We won’t subject you to the cringefest. Just remember that a simple, self-assured “hello” will get you a lot further, and you won’t be as ashamed of yourself in the morning.

A man of standing.

Women want to be wanted by a strong man. If you’re perceived to be of higher status around the people you interact with, you hold the magic power to entice infinite women into your life.

Status is determined by two things — how you present yourself and how you act around women.

Although some factors (genetic makeup and prosperity) are somewhat out of our hands, there are lots of little changes you can make to appear as a man of status.

Keep fit, hit the gym, eat healthy, and taking pride in what you wear. If you wish to attract high value women start dressing like a high value man.

You don’t need to wear designer labels and flash a rolex to dress well.

In terms of how you behave around women, your status is dependent on your level of confidence.

Smell like gasoline, printer ink, or leather…or, just smell.

This survey wasn’t performed with proper scientific controls, but it’s almost too interesting to ignore. Daz, a soap company, surveyed 2,000 people to find the most attractive scents. The results indicated that gasoline, printer ink, paint, and leather were the most sensually exciting scents on a guy, while lipstick and baby lotion were most attractive on a woman.

We’d definitely take that info with a grain of salt, but scientists do believe that scent plays a role in attraction. Some studies indicate that the human nose has pheromone receptors, which would indicate that we’ve got the biological gear required to process chemical cues from our potential mates.

So, how does that actually work in dating? One study showed that women exposed to male sweat felt more arousal than women exposed to other substances.

No word on what those other substances were, but we’re guessing that they weren’t printer ink, paint, or leather.

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10 things that attract guys to girls

10 things that attract guys to girls

Get older.

All of us know the stereotype about the older man and the younger woman. According to a zoologist named Stephen Proulx, that stereotype has its basis in the animal kingdom. From there, it traveled the lines evolution to land squarely in the modern human heart.

Basically, Proulx’s argument goes like this: In nature, males don’t tend to live that long. If you’re a female deer and you meet a majestic, elderly stag with a full head of antlers, odds are that potential mate is packing some nutritious genes.

At the dawn of humanity, males didn’t live much past their twenties. If women encountered a healthy male specimen who managed to beat the odds, their evolutionary psychology might push them toward attraction. It’s all about the genes.

However, this trick doesn’t work for every male of any species. You can’t just be old. You also need to be sort of fit. “If males can display ostentatiously at that age, then they really have to have something going for them,” Proulx told The Observer.

It may not be a bad idea to spring for that gym membership.

Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 2:

Answer this: when you woke up this morning, did you crave the same thing for breakfast as you did for lunch? Or, over the course of the day, have your desires changed?

Of course you didn’t.

Why? Because people change. All the time. Every day.

And that means that the experience they’re attracted to changes as well.

The party girl who wants to taste freedom might see her ex-boyfriend making out with another girl and all of a sudden desire to feel significant and important
The book worm who craves connection might get her fill and all of a sudden desire to do something exciting and outlandish
The cougar who desires to feel appreciated and important might find her sense of significance and crave an adventure

Women (just like guys) change. Their thoughts change, their feelings change, and their desires change.

You can’t just follow one set script and process to attract women because even if all women did desire the identical experience at one point in time, that desire is going to change. And when that want changes, what they are attract to will change.

But that’s not all. There is one more point you need to know about attraction switches

There’s nobody exact set of resources or buttons you can use to entice any woman because every woman is different.

Every single one.

Different women want different experiences at different times of the day and to give them the experience they want (and have them attracted to you because of it), you can’t just follow a script or a prescribed set of actions.

Playful and exciting.

Ladies love the thrill of danger and excitement. They want to be rescued from the boredom of everyday life. If you can be that guy and provide the experience a girl craves, she’ll find you attractive.

To do this, focus on being playful around women. Joke around, be spontaneous, tease them, and tell interesting stories about your life.

And try role playing different situations. Ladies love role play. Pretend you’re hiding from FBI agents, and need a girl’s help to escort you to the bar unscathed.

The ability to excite a girl is like a drug — give her what she desires, and she’ll keep coming back for more.

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10 things that attract guys to woman

Relax your body language.

You need to be looking calm, cool and calculated under pressure. Not like like a meth junkie waiting for his next hit. Keep your body language open, never cross your arms. And lean back slightly so that you don’t come across threatening.

Indulge in a little “courtship feeding.”

“Courtship feeding” is just what it sounds like. Really, it’s only a fancy way of saying, “Take her out to dinner.”

According to a 2014 study in the journal Frontiers in Psychology, sharing food “increases interpersonal closeness.” Strangely, offering a slice of pizza appears to make the giver of the food like the recipient more, in addition to the other way around.

The entire thing probably goes back to human infancy. To quote the study Food for love: the use of food offering in empathic emotion regulation (of course a title like that would be a mouthful), “Food offering is one of the first biobehavioral regulatory interactions between parent and child.”
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It turns out that stomachs are a fairly dependable route to a woman’s heart, too.

A sense of humour.

If you can make a girl laugh and show you’re fun to be around, she’ll associate positive feelings with you.

Attraction is an emotion, it’s defined by how a girl feels about you. Her attraction for you is not logically dependent on a screening process — your job, looks, hobbies and interests.

Dull conversation kills attraction. Rather than ask boring questions like “Where are you from?” Instead play the guessing game. “You sound as if you’re an Essex girl with that terrible accent of yours”.

Concentrate on showing your funny side, make lighthearted conversation and tease her senseless.

Play an instrument.

Just be certain it’s not the drums. No one wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.

The method of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a bad internet “prank” video.

Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In fact, he did this three times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.

Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Researchers have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.

Make her work for your attention.

Use your body language to position yourself so she has to lean in to talk and fight for the attention. Ask questions to get her qualifying herself to you. For example “I have zero time for dull girls, do you do anything fun in your spare time?”

Skip the razor for a while (but not too long).

Here’s some fantastic news for those hipsters: Women really do love beards. Facial hair is seen as a sign of maturity and masculinity, and unsurprisingly, a decent beard can help you to get a date.
Unsplash

But don’t throw away your razor just yet. A study published in Evolution and Human Behavior showed that women prefer “heavy stubble” to a full beard. Researchers asked men and women to judge the health, masculinity, and parenting abilities of photos of men with varying amounts of facial hair.

“Women judged faces with heavy stubble as most attractive and heavy beards, light stubble and clean-shaven faces as similarly less attractive,” the study’s authors wrote. However, women rated men with full beards as better parents than men with light beards.
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“[Our findings] suggest that an intermediate degree of beardedness is the most attractive,” the authors write, “while full-bearded men might be perceived as better fathers who could protect and invest in offspring.”

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10 things that attract women to men

How do I attract a woman by giving her the experience she wants?

This is where most pickup books would just in with techniques about to demonstrate this and how to internalise that, and frankly, once more, they’re all crap.

Why? Because the actions you take don’t determine how you make women feel.

You can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel creeped out and you can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel excited and alive
You can tell a story in a way that makes her feel pressured to laugh and give you a positive response and you can tell a story in a way that makes her feel excited.
You can ask her for her number in a way that her feel unsafe and unsure and you can ask for her number in a way that makes desired and appreciated

Your actions don’t determine how you make a woman feel.

And no, it is not your haircut, your style, your understanding or your bank balance.

It’s something far simpler… Think about it like this:

Which kind of people do you feel most excited and alive around? Is it routine, boring, monotone, safe people or is it exciting people who’re living on their edge and pushing their boundaries?
Which sort of people do you feel the most safe and secure around? Is it nervous, anxious, and flighty people or is it calm, confident, and strong people
Which sort of people do you feel more connected to? Is it closed off and standoffish people or is it open and expressive people?

What you experience determines what the women you’re interacting with feel. What you experience determines whether women are attracted to you.

You can not give women the experience of security and security until you feel safe and protected yourself.

You can not give women the experience of excitement and really living until you feel excited and alive.

You can’t give women the experience of freedom and openness till you feel free and open.

It’s just that easy.

A feeling of humour.

Her attraction for you is not logically determined by a screening process — your job, looks, hobbies and interests.

So don’t treat your interactions with women like an interview. Dull conversation kills attraction. Rather than ask boring questions like “Where are you from?” Instead play the guessing game. “You sound like you’re an Essex girl with that terrible accent of yours”.

Concentrate on showing your funny side, make lighthearted conversation and tease her senseless.

Play an instrument.

Just be certain it is not the drums. No one wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.

The method of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a poor internet “prank” video.

Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In fact, he did this 3 times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.

Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Scientists have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.

Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 1:

Women want different experiences

Do you believe the follow women want the same experience?

The 18 year old party girl who’s just broken up with her high-school sweetheart and is exploring all the possibilities that comes with moving out from home to school for the first time

The 35 year old cougar who craves the attention of younger guys because he husband of 11 years spends more time on the Xbox than he does with her.
The 29 year old who’s been trapped in an unsafe relationship with an abusive boyfriend for the past 2 years and has finally found the strength to move on

Do you think you could just flip the same switches with these women and they’d be on their knees unzipping your fly?

Do you think you could just follow the identical manual to turn all of these women into blubbering messes?

No. Of course not.

The party girls wants to taste freedom and so to attract her, you would have to give her the experience of liberty
The book worm wants to experience a depth of connection so to attract her, you’d have to give her the experience of connection
The cougar wants to feel appreciated and important so to attract her, you’d have to give her the experience of appreciation

This means there isn’t step-by-step set of switches you have to flick because each woman has a different set of ‘switches’.

Just in exactly the same manner you want different things out of life than your parents and your mates, women also want different things.

But, it doesn’t just stop there.

Relax your body language.

You need to be looking calm, cool and calculated under pressure. Not like like a meth junkie waiting for his next hit. Keep your body language open, never cross your arms. And lean back slightly so you don’t come across threatening.

The Way to Attract Women: What They’re Not Telling You

In the darkness, as you stare across the bar, desperately wondering how to get the attention of that impossibly out-of-your-league blonde bombshell, your mind is racing.

What do I say? How do I act? Why? Because you’re not asking the right question.

All these questions you’re asking actually have a deeper undercurrent — something that forms the basis of these questions that you must get to before you can think of a real answer: How do I attract women?

You see, you don’t really care about what you should say or what you should do, as long as they get you the results you want: doe-eyes, wet-panty, delicate-touch-of-your-arm, attraction. You want her to want you, and want you badly.

So if you’re ever going to answer these questions that race through your ming, you need to begin by answering the core question first: How do you attract women?

Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 2:

Answer this: when you woke up this morning, did you crave the same thing for breakfast as you did for lunch? Or, over the course of the day, have your desires changed?

Of course you didn’t.

Why? Because people change. All the time. Every day.

And that means that the experience they’re attracted to changes as well.

The party girl who wants to taste freedom might see her ex-boyfriend making out with another girl and all of a sudden desire to feel significant and important
The book worm who craves connection might get her fill and all of a sudden desire to do something exciting and outlandish
The cougar who desires to feel appreciated and important might find her sense of significance and then crave an adventure

Women (just like guys) change. Their thoughts change, their feelings change, and their desires change.

You can’t just follow one set script and process to attract women because even if all women did desire the identical experience at one point in time, that desire will change. And when that want changes, what they are attract to will change.

But that’s not all. There’s one more point you need to know about attraction switches

There’s nobody exact set of resources or buttons you can use to entice any woman because every woman is different.

Every single one.

Various women want different experiences at different times of the day and to give them the experience they want (and have them attracted to you because of it), you can’t just follow a script or a prescribed set of actions.

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10 things to attract a girl

10 things to attract a girl

Make her work for your attention.

Use your body language to place yourself so she must lean in to talk and fight for the attention. Ask questions to get her qualifying herself to you. For instance “I have zero time for boring girls, do you do anything fun in your spare time?”

Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 2:

The experience women want changes day-by-day, and even moment-by-moment

Answer this: when you woke up this morning, did you crave the same thing for breakfast as you did for lunch? Or, over the course of the day, have your desires changed?

Of course you didn’t.

Why? Because people change. All the time. Every day.

And that means that the experience they’re attracted to changes also.

The party girl who wants to taste freedom might see her ex-boyfriend making out with another girl and all of a sudden desire to feel significant and important
The book worm who craves connection might get her fill and all of a sudden desire to do something exciting and outlandish
The cougar who desires to feel appreciated and important might find her sense of significance and then crave an adventure

Women (just like guys) change. Their thoughts change, their feelings change, and their desires change.

You can’t just follow one set script and process to attract women because even if all women did desire the identical experience at one point in time, that desire will change. And when that desire changes, what they’re attract to will change.

But that’s not all. There’s one more point you need to know about attraction switches

There’s no one exact set of tools or buttons you can use to attract any woman because every woman is different.

Every single one.

Different women want different experiences at different times of the day and to give them the experience they want (and have them attracted to you because of it), you can’t just follow a script or a prescribed set of actions.

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10 things to attract a woman

10 things to attract a woman

Women don’t want to be interviewed

Instead of asking her of questions like “where are you from” and “what do you do for fun,” make a definitive statement or a cold read. By way of instance, say “you have a New York vibe” or “you must be a lawyer.” This is a terrific system to prevent the conversation from turning into a boring interview. Try to practice this tactic the next time you’re in a bar because it is a crucial behavioral component to draw women. We use a great deal of techniques to help guys improve their conversational skills (trigger words is just one).

Self-love.

Attracting women isn’t all about appearing attractive, it’s about being attractive from within, and expressing your positive qualities to the women you interact with.

You can understand why self-loathing men struggle to get girlfriends. Should you play the victim and maintain a negative view on everything, women will repel you.

Learn to love yourself first before you can love someone else.

The more you invest and ‘love yourself’ the more attractive you are going to be in the eyes of women. And with this, you’ll find women come into your life naturally as a by-product to all of this.

To become more attractive within, take pride in your appearance, and concentrate on pursuing your passions.

Be adventurous, take up something you have always wanted to do.

Do it because you would like to do it. Whatever your hobbies and interests are, it’s extremely attractive if women can sense your passion in the way that you talk about them and the amount of time you dedicate in pursuing them.

Play an instrument.

Just make sure it is not the drums. No one wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.

The method of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a poor internet “prank” video.

Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In fact, he did this 3 times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.

Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Researchers have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.

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