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Q: It’s surreal that girls in clubs, 90-95% of them easily, CANNOT perform any simple logical plans.

These plans would include:

*I better not get so drunk that I don’t fall over*

*I better not start a bitch fight*

*I like this guy… but I will go the toilet a lot anyway* 

Why do chicks act this way?

A: Mainly as a protection mechanism. Just as guys will see a girl and feel very attracted to her yet DO NOTHING; so a girl will be interested in a guy and not act on it.

Both depend on evolutionary psychology - go with safety and comfort rather than risk something which could involve a loss.

How many times have you seen a girl and with all your heart wanted to talk to her and get to know her? Yet you do nothing.

Similarly with chicks who will be super interested in a guy but those same mechanisms act on her chick brain and can default to the safe response of walking away rather than risk a loss (but it could be a gain too if she/you would only bring yourself to act on your feelings!)

In a sense, this is how the Matrix controls us. In fact, we are doing the Matrix’s work - we are controlling ourselves because it is easier to stay with what is comfortable and safe than to risk rejection and danger and potential loss.

When she shows interest but doesn’t act on it, it is much the same mechanism that causes men to eject on a set that is going well. We rest on our laurels, psychologically and quit while we are ahead rather than risk a loss potentially down the road. You leave the set without any sense of failure and with a sense of ‘I could have closed that if I’d wanted to’, though you didn’t.

Both cases retain the comfort zone of the person, and thereby give a positive feedback experience in the medium or short term (e.g. no rejection, continue to have fun with one’s friends). But in the longer term it does not lead to one’s deeper values being met nor one’s relationship goals developing because you stick with what you know and what you are used to, rather than what might be more fulfilling, ultimately.

Ross^» Jeffries talks about this when he says that if you close yourself down to meeting new people and new ideas you diminish your sense of possibility because you can no longer be aware of that which is outside you to illuminate and expand your sense of possibility and potential in this world. The Levels of The Mind pattern uses this principle.

If you can tap into where the person is in the present, THEN guide them to a level one or two steps beyond what they are used of experiencing, you start to build a new reality for them and show them new ways of looking at the world and enjoying its potential that she never knew existed before. Make sure there is an emotional involvement to this.

If you see her ‘getting it’, ratify the experience for her as having a strong emotional pay off for her.

A man who can do that is able to offer huge value to the girl. Yet to get into that position, one has to build an initial bridge to her reality so as to be able to first bring her into your reality, then from there take her into a hugely expanded sense of possibility which entry into your world can offer her.

An example of this - my LTR was amazed by how I talked to people and easily made connections with them. She had not experienced this before and didn’t think it possible - especially in her country. But I showed her how to break free from this self-imposed/Matrix limitation and be able to see that meeting new people is possible and mutually rewarding.

In summary, what I’m saying here is don’t take it personally if the chick sometimes uses some defence mechanism. It’s the way they are programmed. Understand the mindset - that protection mechanisms exist, then endeavour to bend these mechanisms to our advantage by knowing how they work and how to get around them.

Getting around them is a whole different post, but it can involve fake time constraints, fake disinterest, busting them on flaking without being needy oneself, displaying huge value initially then mildly pushing them away psychologically once she has initiated indications of interest and engaging the emotional angle in a way that pumps her up without buying into her reality