10 best ways to attract girls
Women are attracted to confident men
The idea that women like confident men is almost a cliche, but it’s true. Confidence is a valuable in every element of your life, but never more so than in dating. A confident tennis player might play better and more aggressively than an unconfident tennis player, but at the end of the day, he’s judged by how many points he scores in the court. But on a date, a man is judged first by his confidence, and only later by any other factors. And most importantly, confidence is learnable. Check out this blog post on The Real Secret Of Confidence if you want to go into more depth on confidence and how to really develop it naturally.
It’s great that you have a nice car and a great job, but don’t tell her that directly. Although women are attracted to wealth, they are not attracted to men who brag about it. The main reason behind this is that women can sense that a tendency to brag likely stems from low confidence. Instead of bragging, tell her an intriguing story that enables her to decipher independently that you’re successful.
How to attract women: A Beginners Guide
Attracting women is simple, straight-forward, and even logical — when you know how.
And if you want to take the hard work out of turning accidental eye-contact into, flirty smiles and even a feminine hand resting casually on your arm, the first thing you need to do is forget everything you’ve ever been told about attracting women.
According to the ‘seduction bibles’ floating around the web, mischievously traded between confused 14 year olds in seedy online chat rooms, to attract a woman, you want to activate her attraction switches.
Yes, that’s in fact the way they talk about attraction, like women were some piece of Ikea furniture you could ‘turn on’ by following the instruction manual and making sure all of the screws were in the perfect places (pun intended).
This is actually a load of crap — made up by some confused little boys who couldn’t tell the difference between what they did that made a specific woman attracted to them at a specific point in time and the actual mechanism of attraction.
Saying that you have to flick 5 / 9 / 14 ‘attraction switches’ to attract a woman because they were the things you did to attract 1 woman is like saying you will need to kick a ball forward, then backwards, then with your right foot, then your left foot, then really hard with your right again to score a goal in soccer.
What you did once to achieve an outcome doesn’t mean that that’s how you achieve that outcome every time.
If you walked on a soccer field and just kicked the ball the same way you did the last time you scored a goal then you’re going to miss 99.999% of the moment. And if you blindly follow this flawed ‘attraction switch’ theory, you’re going to miss out on attracting the girl, time and time again.
This is because the theory of attraction switches ignores the most fundamental rule of attraction: attraction is a feeling, not a thought.
If you can make a woman experience what she wants to experience, then she is going to be attracted to you. If you can’t, then she won’t.
That’s it. That’s all there is to it.
If a woman wants to feel excited and alive and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel safe and secure and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel free and unrestricted and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
When you can give a woman what she wants, she’ll be drawn to you like a magnet. If you can’t, then at worst, she’ll be neutral and at worst, she’ll be pushed away from you.
Now, you’re probably thinking: “So what? This isn’t revolutionary. And this doesn’t say anything about attraction switches.”
And you’re right, it is not revolutionary. Which makes it even more puzzling how the guys who developed the attraction switch theory missed how obvious this is…
The fact that attraction is a feeling makes the ‘attraction switch’ theory completely wrong on two counts.
Show your sense of humor.
As opposed to complimenting her and asking vanilla questions like “what do you do for work?” instead, tease her. Break her balls.
Tell her she looks like a low class stripper in that outfit. Or if she’s standing on her own, tell her she’s a loner and doesn’t have friends. As long as it’s all tongue-and-cheek you can get away with it ?
Ladies love to role play
Indulge her appetite for fantasy by making her your private bodyguard and telling her to protect you from the other girls across the bar. Or pretend that you’re engaged and then break up with her when she says something you don’t like. Tease her and tell her that if she makes up for it, you might take her back.
Learning how to draw women takes time and dedication, but in the long run it’s an extremely important skill to develop. Taking the time to work on this element of your life doesn’t just lead to fun times with new women at bars and nightclubs, it also leads to better relationships, a better family and a better life later on.
Forget the pickup lines.
Yes, they’ve studied this. Not one but two groundbreaking studies of classic cheesy pickup lines appear to suggest that (SPOILER ALERT) they don’t work. Almost 90 percent of the women in one of these studies rated those poor old pickup lines as extremely useless.
Something like 65 percent of the women surveyed in a Personality and Individual Differences article said that they appreciate a simple, confident, and direct approach.
Can the cheesy lines, even if you’re trying to be ironic. In actuality, we tried to include a sample of lousy pickup lines in this list, but they’re all too bad.
We won’t subject you to the cringefest. Just do not forget that a simple, self-assured “hello” will get you a lot further, and you won’t be as ashamed of yourself in the morning.
Smile and hold eye contact.
Remain locked in eye contact and follow with a light smile to relieve the tension and avoid looking like an expressionless garden gnome.
By holding eye contact and smiling you are subtly expressing your sexual desire for her in a confident way.
Attracting women isn’t all about appearing attractive, it’s about being attractive from inside, and expressing your positive qualities to the girls you interact with.
You can understand why self-loathing guys struggle to get girlfriends. If you play the victim and hold a negative view on everything, women will repel you.
Learn to love yourself first before you can love somebody else. Think “Would I date me?”
The more you invest and ‘love yourself’ the more attractive you are going to be in the eyes of women. With this, you’ll find women come into your life naturally as a by-product to all of this.
To become more attractive within, take pride in your appearance, and focus on pursuing your passions.
Be adventurous, take up something you’ve always wanted to do.
But don’t pursue an activity for the sole reason of impressing women. Do it because YOU want to do it. Whatever your hobbies and interests are, it’s extremely attractive if women can sense your passion in the way that you speak about them and the amount of time you dedicate in pursuing them.