10 steps to attract girls
When it comes to attraction, confidence is everything.
If you’re a guy who goes after what he wants, is a leader of people and has a higher perception of himself over others, women will find you attractive.
As opposed to the guy who’s worried about making a move, follows the crowd, and puts women on a pedestal when he talks to them.
If confidence is something you struggle with, here are a few tips to grow naturally confident:
— Assume every girl is interested in you
— Focus on teasing a girl Instead of complimenting her all the time
— When talking to a girl, ask questions to receive her qualifying herself to you. eg.
Understand How to Attract Women from Her Perspective
The first thing you want to realize is that attraction works differently for women than it does for men. Some of you might say “that’s obvious”, but knowing exactly what the differences are is vitally important. Once you recognize how attraction works from a female perspective, you will find it a lot easier to create attraction, and to avoid destroying it. Or at least, when you screw up, you will know what you did wrong.
Once you really start to comprehend the secret of attraction, suddenly the issue of how to attract women becomes much easier to solve. This is one of those things that guys who really get women understand, and average guys struggle with.
Women are attracted to confident men
The notion that women like confident men is almost a cliche, but it’s true. But on a date, a man is judged first by his confidence, and only later by any other factors. And most of all, confidence is learnable. Check out this blog post on The Real Secret Of Confidence if you want to go into more depth on confidence and how to actually develop it naturally.
Tell stories, and never brag.
Bragging screams neediness and low confidence. “Pick me, please find me attractive! …I make a great deal of money and drive a Ferrari….
If you happen to drive a Ferrari, do not feel the need to tell a girl straight away. Rather tell interesting stories about your life so she can work out for herself whether you’re successful and a person of standing.
The Secret to Attracting Women is…
…first giving yourself what you desire.
It begins with creating a life that’s exciting and challenging, where you feel powerful and strong and open and free and connected to people about you.
It begins with challenging your insecurities rather than letting them you challenge you.
It begins with moving towards your fears as opposed to moving away from them.
It begins with opening up and sharing yourself instead of shutting down and hiding.
Becoming the sort of Man that women are naturally and effortlessly attracted to starts by becoming the type of Man that you want to be.
To attract women, you first have to become attractive. And that means becoming attractive to yourself.
Now, I’m not saying that pickup artist tricks can’t work. Of course they can. You can learn how to hide and conceal and pretend and manipulate and get short term results with gullible women.
But if you’ve ever dreamed of getting long-term results with intelligent, self-aware ladies, then there’s only one way to do it.
Play an instrument.
Just be certain it’s not the drums. No one wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.
The method of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a poor internet “prank” video.
Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In fact, he did this three times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.
Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Scientists have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.
Dress in red.
A study from the United Kingdom attempted to determine whether the color red could influence social signals.
Researchers took photos of several men and digitally altered the color of the men’s clothing. When women were shown images of men in red clothes, they rated the men as “more aggressive” and more attractive. When male test groups were shown the very same images, they rated the red-clothed subjects as “more dominant.”
Bright red colors do seem to have some effect on our perception of potential mates, and in case you’re wondering, the effect can be flipped–men also rate women wearing red as more attractive.
So, does this mean that Ronald McDonald is one of the most attractive men alive?
Attraction Switches are a Load of Crap Reason 1:
Women want different experiences
Do you think the follow women want the same experience?
The 18 year old party girl who’s just broken up with her high-school love and is exploring all of the possibilities that comes with moving out from home to school for the first time
The 27 year old book worm who just started to explore her love affair with Edgar Allen Poe and other great literary geniuses
The 35 year old cougar who wants the attention of younger men because he husband of 11 years spends more time on the Xbox than he does with her
The 29 year old who has been trapped in an unsafe relationship with an abusive boyfriend for the past 2 years and has finally found the strength to Proceed
Do you think you could just flip the very same switches with these women and they’d be on their knees unzipping your fly?
Do you think you could just stick to the same manual to turn all of these women into blubbering messes?
The party girls wants to taste freedom and so to attract her, you would need to give her the experience of liberty
The book worm wants to experience a depth of connection so to attract her, you’d have to give her the experience of connection
The cougar wants to feel appreciated and important so to attract her, you’d have to give her the experience of appreciation
The abuse victim wants to feel a sense of power and control over her life and so to attract her, you’d have to give her the experience of power and control
This means there isn’t step-by-step set of switches you have to flick because each woman has a different set of ‘switches’.
Just in the same way you want different things out of life than your parents and your mates, women also want different things.
But, it doesn’t just stop there. This goes even deeper…
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