10 steps to attract women

10 steps to attract women

Show your desire for her.

The desire of being desired by another guy is extremely sexy for a girl. Unleash the beast! Be the man who goes after what he wants. Tell a girl “You’re the perfect mix of sexy and cute” (a terrific quote from Crazy Stupid Love) and don’t apologise for saying it.

Understand the role of Arousal in Attraction

Attraction isn’t just in the mind, it comes from a bit of adrenaline, and excitement. So you can create attraction simply by doing exciting things together (even if the conversation is somewhat slow!)

The Way to Attract Women: What They’re Not Telling You

What should I do? Why? Because you’re not asking the proper question.

All these questions you’re asking actually have a deeper undercurrent — something that forms the basis of these questions which you have to get to before you can think of a real answer: How do I attract women?

You see, you don’t really care about what you should say or what you should do, as long as they get you the results you want: doe-eyes, wet-panty, delicate-touch-of-your-arm, attraction. You want her to want you, and want you badly.

So if you’re ever going to answer these questions that race through your ming, you need to start by answering the core question first: How do you attract women?

Keep your voice low and speak slowly.

A calming deep voice is extremely seductive. Think Joey Tribianni on ‘Friends’ and his famous pickup line “How you doin?” . Speak slowly and accentuate your words like you’re telling a story to captivate her attention.

How to attract women: A Beginners Guide

Attracting women is straightforward, straight-forward, and even logical — when you know how.

And if you would like to take the hard work out of turning accidental eye-contact into, flirty smiles and even a feminine hand resting casually on your arm, the first thing you need to do is forget everything you’ve ever been told about attracting women.

Here’s why:

According to the ‘seduction bibles’ floating around the internet, mischievously traded between confused 14 year olds in seedy online chat rooms, to attract a woman, you want to activate her attraction switches.

Yes, that’s in fact the way they talk about attraction, like women were some piece of Ikea furniture you could ‘turn on’ by following the instruction manual and making sure all the screws were in the perfect places (pun intended).

This is in fact a load of crap — made up by some confused little boys who couldn’t tell the difference between what they did that made a particular woman attracted to them at a specific point in time and the actual mechanism of attraction.

Saying that you need to flick 5 / 9 / 14 ‘attraction switches’ to entice a woman because they were the things you did to attract 1 woman is like saying you need to kick a ball forward, then backwards, then with your right foot, then your left foot, then really hard with your right again to score a goal in soccer.

What you did once to achieve an outcome doesn’t mean that that’s how you achieve that outcome every time.

If you walked onto a soccer field and just kicked the ball the same way you did the last time you scored a goal then you’re going to miss 99.999% of the moment. And in the event that you blindly follow this flawed ‘attraction switch’ theory, you’re likely to miss out on attracting the girl, again and again.

This is because the theory of attraction switches ignores the most fundamental rule of attraction: attraction is a feeling, not a thought.

If you can make a woman experience what she wants to experience, then she will be attracted to you. If you can’t, then she won’t.

That’s it. That’s all there is to it.

If a woman wants to feel excited and alive and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel safe and secure and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel free and unrestricted and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.

When you can give a woman what she wants, she’ll be drawn to you like a magnet. If you can’t, then at worst, she’ll be neutral and at worst, she’ll be pushed away from you.

Now, you’re probably thinking: “So what? This isn’t revolutionary. And this doesn’t say anything about attraction switches.”

And you’re right, it’s not revolutionary. Which makes it even more puzzling how the guys who came up with the attraction switch theory missed how obvious this is…

The fact that attraction is a feeling makes the ‘attraction switch’ theory completely wrong on two counts.

Get older.

We all know the stereotype about the older man and the younger woman. According to a zoologist named Stephen Proulx, that stereotype has its basis in the animal kingdom. From there, it traveled the lines evolution to land squarely in the contemporary human heart.

Basically, Proulx’s argument goes like this: In nature, males don’t tend to live that long. If you’re a female deer and you meet a majestic, elderly stag with a complete head of antlers, odds are that potential mate is packing some nutritious genes.

At the dawn of humanity, males didn’t live much past their twenties. If women encountered a healthy male specimen who managed to beat the odds, their evolutionary psychology might push them toward attraction. It’s all about the genes.

However, this trick doesn’t work for every male of any species. You can’t just be old. You also need to be sort of fit. “If males can display ostentatiously at that age, then they really need something going for them,” Proulx told The Observer.

It may not be a bad idea to spring for that gym membership.

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10 things attract girls

10 things attract girls

Show your desire for her.

The desire of being desired by another man is extremely sexy for a girl. Unleash the beast! Be the guy who goes after what he wants. Tell a girl “You’re the perfect mix of sexy and cute” (a terrific quote from Crazy Stupid Love) and don’t apologise for saying it.

Understand the role of Arousal in Attraction

Attraction isn’t just in the mind, it comes from a little adrenaline, and excitement. So it is possible to create attraction simply by doing exciting things together (even if the conversation is somewhat slow!)

Forget the pickup lines.

Yes, they have studied this. Not one but two groundbreaking studies of classic cheesy pickup lines seem to suggest that (SPOILER ALERT) they don’t work. Almost 90 percent of the girls in one of those studies rated those bad old pickup lines as extremely useless.

Something like 65 percent of the women surveyed in a Personality and Individual Differences article said that they appreciate an easy, confident, and direct approach.

Can the cheesy lines, even if you’re trying to be ironic. In fact, we tried to include a sample of lousy pickup lines in this list, but they’re all too bad.
Saturday Night Live / NBC

We won’t subject you to the cringefest. Just do not forget that a simple, self-assured “hello” will get you a lot further, and you won’t be as ashamed of yourself in the morning.

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10 things attract women

10 things attract women

Understand the role of Arousal in Attraction

Attraction isn’t just in the mind, it comes from a little adrenaline, and excitement. So it is possible to create attraction simply by doing exciting things together (even if the conversation is a bit slow!)

Smell like gasoline, printer ink, or leather…or, just smell.

This survey wasn’t performed with proper scientific controls, but it’s almost too interesting to ignore. Daz, a soap company, surveyed 2,000 people to discover the most attractive scents. The results indicated that gasoline, printer ink, paint, and leather were the most sensually exciting scents on a man, whilst lipstick and baby lotion were most attractive on a woman.

Some studies suggest that the human nose has pheromone receptors, which would indicate that we’ve got the biological gear necessary to process chemical cues from our potential mates.

1 study showed that women exposed to male sweat felt more arousal than women exposed to other substances.

No word on what those other substances were, but we’re guessing that they weren’t printer ink, paint, or leather.

A feeling of humour.

If you can make a girl laugh and show you’re fun to be around, she’ll associate positive feelings with you.

Attraction is an emotion, it’s defined by how a girl feels about you. Her attraction for you is not logically determined by a screening process — your job, looks, hobbies and interests.

Dull conversation kills attraction. As opposed to ask boring questions like “Where are you from?” Instead play the guessing game. “You sound like you’re an Essex girl with that terrible accent of yours”.

Concentrate on showing your funny side, make lighthearted conversation and tease her senseless.

The Way to Attract Women: What They’re Not Telling You

In the darkness, as you stare across the bar, desperately wondering how to get the attention of that impossibly out-of-your-league blonde bombshell, your mind is racing.

What should I do? Why? As you’re not asking the right question.

All these questions you’re asking actually have a deeper undercurrent — something that forms the basis of these questions that you have to get to before you can think of a real answer: How do I attract women?

You see, you don’t really care about what you should say or what you should do, as long as they get you the results you want: doe-eyes, wet-panty, delicate-touch-of-your-arm, attraction. You want her to want you, and want you badly.

So if you’re ever going to answer these questions that race through your ming, you need to begin by answering the core question first: how can you attract women?

Dress in red.

A study from the United Kingdom attempted to ascertain whether the color red could influence social signals.

When women were shown images of men in red clothes, they rated the men as “more aggressive” and more attractive. When male test groups were shown the same images, they rated the red-clothed subjects as “more dominant.”

The study’s authors note that red coloration correlates with testosterone production in many species (although the color doesn’t really indicate anything about testosterone in humans). Bright red colors do seem to have some effect on the perception of potential mates, and in case you’re wondering, the effect can be flipped–men also rate women wearing red as more attractive.

So, does this mean that Ronald McDonald is one of the most attractive men alive?

Relax your body language.

You want to be looking calm, cool and calculated under pressure. Not like like a meth junkie waiting for his next hit. Keep your body language open, never cross your arms. And lean back slightly so you don’t come across threatening.

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10 things that attract girls to men

10 things that attract girls to men

Playful and exciting.

Ladies love the thrill of danger and excitement. They want to be rescued from the boredom of everyday life. If you can be that guy and provide the experience a girl craves, she’ll find you attractive.

To do this, focus on being playful around women. Joke around, be spontaneous, tease them, and tell interesting stories about your life.

And try role playing different situations. Ladies love role play. Pretend you’re hiding from FBI agents, and require a girl’s help to escort you to the bar unscathed.

The ability to excite a girl is like a drug — give her what she desires, and she’ll keep coming back for more.

Self-love.

Attracting women isn’t all about appearing attractive, it’s about being attractive from inside, and expressing your positive qualities to the women you interact with.

You can understand why self-loathing men struggle to get girlfriends. If you play the victim and hold a negative view on everything, women will repel you.

Learn to love yourself first before you can love somebody else. Think “Would I date me?”

The more you invest and ‘love yourself’ the more attractive you are going to be in the eyes of women. And with this, you’ll find women come into your life naturally as a by-product to all this.

To become more attractive inside, take pride in your appearance, and concentrate on pursuing your passions.

Be adventurous, take up something you have always wanted to do. Maybe that’s an extreme sport like rock climbing, surfing or motorcross.

Do it because YOU want to do it. Whatever your hobbies and interests are, it’s extremely attractive if women can sense your passion in how you talk about them and the amount of time you dedicate in pursuing them.

Tell stories, and never brag.

Bragging screams neediness and low confidence. …I make a great deal of money and drive a Ferrari…. did I mention I make lot’s of money?!”

If you happen to drive a Ferrari, don’t feel the need to tell a girl straight away. Rather tell interesting stories about your life so she can work out for herself if you are successful and a man of standing.


Indulge in a little “courtship feeding.”

“Courtship feeding” is just what it sounds like. Really, it’s only a fancy way of saying, “Take her out to dinner.”

According to a 2014 study in the journal Frontiers in Psychology, sharing food “increases interpersonal closeness.” Strangely, offering a slice of pizza appears to make the giver of the food like the recipient more, in addition to the other way around.

The whole thing probably goes back to human infancy. To quote the study Food for love: the role of food offering in empathic emotion regulation (of course a title like that would be a mouthful), “Food offering is one of the earliest biobehavioral regulatory interactions between parent and child.”
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Basically, that boils down to the inversion of that old chestnut about the way to a man’s heart being his stomach. It turns out that stomachs are a pretty dependable route to a woman’s heart, too.

Dress in red.

This has little to do with fashion sense. A study from the United Kingdom attempted to determine whether the color red could affect social signals.

Researchers took photos of several men and digitally altered the color of the men’s clothing. When male test groups were shown the very same images, they rated the red-clothed subjects as “more dominant.”

Bright red colors do seem to have some effect on our perception of potential mates, and in case you’re wondering, the effect can be flipped–men also rate women wearing red as more attractive.

Well, we’re not going to argue with the science.

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10 things that attract guys to girl

10 things that attract guys to girl

Indulge in a little “courtship feeding.”

“Courtship feeding” is exactly what it sounds like. Really, it’s just a fancy way of saying, “Take her out to dinner.”

According to a 2014 study in the journal Frontiers in Psychology, sharing food “increases interpersonal closeness.” Strangely, offering a slice of pizza seems to make the giver of the food like the recipient more, in addition to the other way around.

The whole thing probably goes back to human infancy. To quote the study Food for love: the role of food offering in empathic emotion regulation (of course a title like that would be a mouthful), “Food offering is one of the first biobehavioral regulatory interactions between parent and child.”
Unsplash

Basically, that boils down to the inversion of that old chestnut about the way to a man’s heart being his stomach. It turns out that stomachs are a pretty dependable route to a woman’s heart, too.

Don’t brag

It’s great that you have a nice car and a great job, but don’t tell her that directly. Although women are attracted to wealth, they are not attracted to men who brag about it. The reason behind this is that women can sense that a propensity to brag likely stems from low confidence. Instead of bragging, tell her an interesting story which allows her to decipher independently that you’re successful.

Smell like gasoline, printer ink, or leather…or, just smell.

This survey was not performed with proper scientific controls, but it’s almost too interesting to ignore. Daz, a soap company, surveyed 2,000 people to discover the most attractive scents. The results indicated that gasoline, printer ink, paint, and leather were the most sensually exciting scents on a guy, whilst lipstick and baby lotion were most attractive on a woman.

We’d definitely take that info with a grain of salt, but scientists do believe that scent plays a role in attraction. Some studies suggest that the human nose has pheromone receptors, which would indicate that we’ve got the biological gear necessary to process chemical cues from our potential mates.

One study showed that women exposed to male sweat felt more arousal than women exposed to other substances.

No word on what those other substances were, but we’re guessing that they weren’t printer ink, paint, or leather.

Keep your voice low and speak slowly.

A calming deep voice is extremely seductive. Think Joey Tribianni on ‘Friends’ and his famous pickup line “How you doin?” . Speak slowly and accentuate your words like you’re telling a story to captivate her attention.

Women love to role play

Indulge her appetite for fantasy by making her your private bodyguard and telling her to guard you from the other girls across the bar. Or pretend that you’re engaged and then break up with her when she says something you don’t like.

Learning how to attract women takes time and dedication, but in the end it’s an extremely important skill to develop. Taking the time to work on this element of your life doesn’t just lead to fun times with new women at bars and nightclubs, in addition, it leads to better relationships, a better family and a better life down the road.

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10 things that attract guys to girls

10 things that attract guys to girls

Get older.

All of us know the stereotype about the older man and the younger woman. According to a zoologist named Stephen Proulx, that stereotype has its basis in the animal kingdom. From there, it traveled the lines evolution to land squarely in the modern human heart.

Basically, Proulx’s argument goes like this: In nature, males don’t tend to live that long. If you’re a female deer and you meet a majestic, elderly stag with a complete head of antlers, odds are that potential mate is packing some nutritious genes.

At the dawn of humanity, males didn’t live much past their twenties. If women encountered a healthy male specimen who managed to beat the odds, their evolutionary psychology might push them toward attraction. It’s all about the genes.

However, this trick doesn’t work for every male of any species. You can’t just be old. You also have to be sort of fit. “If males can display ostentatiously at that age, then they really have to have something going for them,” Proulx told The Observer.

It might not be a bad idea to spring for that gym membership.

Keep your voice low and speak slowly.

A calming deep voice is very seductive. Think Joey Tribianni on ‘Friends’ and his famous pickup line “How you doin?” . Speak slowly and accentuate your words like you’re telling a story to captivate her attention.

Crack a lot of jokes (but only the good ones).

Women love a man with a good sense of humor. This almost looks like a cliche, right?

But scientists still aren’t completely certain why humor is such a turn-on. At one point, the general consensus was that great jokes showed that a possible partner was smart…but then, several studies proved that humor doesn’t correlate with intelligence.

Jeffrey Hall of the University of Kansas believes that humor may simply demonstrate that a man is sociable, but there’s another possible explanation: Men might be using humor to judge a woman’s interest. Men behave like jokers, and women play along. “The script is strong and it is enduring, and it dictates everything from asking someone out to picking up the tab,” Hall explained.
Leah Kelley

Of course, he also admits that humor may be simply valuable for humor’s sake. That’s a scientific way of saying, “We’re not really sure what’s going on here, but it’s probably not that important.”

Smell like gasoline, printer ink, or leather…or, just smell.

This survey wasn’t performed with proper scientific controls, but it’s almost too interesting to ignore. Daz, a soap company, surveyed 2,000 people to discover the most attractive scents. The results indicated that gasoline, printer ink, paint, and leather were the most sensually exciting scents on a guy, while lipstick and baby lotion were most attractive on a woman.

We’d definitely take that info with a grain of salt, but scientists do believe that scent plays a role in attraction. Some studies suggest that the human nose has pheromone receptors, which would indicate that we’ve got the biological gear necessary to process chemical cues from our potential mates.

1 study showed that women exposed to male sweat felt more arousal than women exposed to other substances.

No word on what those other substances were, but we’re guessing that they weren’t printer ink, paint, or leather.

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10 things that attract guys to woman

10 things that attract guys to woman

Speed of Attraction.

It takes 13 milliseconds to determine if you find someone attractive, which really works both to your advantage and disadvantage. Of course it’s easier when you’re at a party or bar to determine the girl you want to spend your time chatting up. But it also means women are judging you in less than 1 split second. So what can you do to make sure you’re looking good during that critical first impression?

Show your sense of humor.

Rather than complimenting her and asking vanilla questions like “what do you do for work?” instead, tease her. Break her balls.

Tell her she looks like a low class stripper in that outfit. Or if she’s standing on her own, tell her she’s a loner and has no friends. Provided that it’s all tongue-and-cheek you can get away with it ?

Forget the pickup lines.

Yes, they have studied this. Not one but two groundbreaking studies of classic cheesy pickup lines appear to suggest that (SPOILER ALERT) they don’t work. Almost 90 percent of the girls in one of those studies rated those bad old pickup lines as extremely useless.

Something like 65 percent of the women surveyed in a Personality and Individual Differences article said they appreciate an easy, confident, and direct approach.

Can the cheesy lines, even if you’re trying to be ironic. In actuality, we tried to include a sample of lousy pickup lines in this list, but they’re all too bad.

Just remember that a simple, self-assured “hello” will get you a lot further, and you won’t be as ashamed of yourself in the morning.

Ladies love to role play

Indulge her appetite for fantasy by making her your private bodyguard and telling her to protect you from the other girls throughout the bar. Or pretend that you are engaged and then break up with her when she says something that you don’t like. Tease her and tell her that if she makes up for it, you might take her back.

Learning how to draw women takes time and dedication, but in the end it’s an extremely important skill to develop. Taking the time to work on this element of your life doesn’t just lead to fun times with new women at bars and nightclubs, it also contributes to better relationships, a better family and a better life down the road.

Crack a lot of jokes (but only the good ones).

Women love a man with a good sense of humor. This almost seems like a cliche, right?

But scientists still aren’t completely sure why humor is such a turn-on. At one point, the general consensus was that great jokes showed that a potential partner was smart…but then, several studies proved that humor doesn’t correlate with intelligence.

Jeffrey Hall of the University of Kansas believes that humor may simply show that a guy is sociable, but there’s another potential explanation: Men may be using humor to gauge a woman’s attention. Men behave like jokers, and women play along. “The script is strong and it is enduring, and it dictates everything from asking someone out to picking up the tab,” Hall explained.
Leah Kelley

Of course, he also admits that humor may be simply valuable for humor’s sake. That’s a scientific way of saying, “We’re not really sure what’s going on here, but it’s probably not that important.”

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10 things that attract women to men

10 things that attract women to men

Confidence.

If you’re a man who goes after what he wants, is a leader of people and has a higher perception of himself over others, women will find you attractive.

As opposed to the guy who’s worried about making a move, follows the crowd, and puts women on a pedestal when he talks to them.

— Assume every girl is interested in you
— Don’t be ashamed to express your sexual desire
— Focus on teasing a girl Instead of complimenting her all the time
— Relax your body posture.
— When talking to a girl, ask questions to receive her qualifying herself to you. eg.

Women don’t want to be interviewed

Instead of asking her of questions like “where are you from” and “what do you do for fun,” make a definitive statement or a cold read. For instance, say “you have a New York vibe” or “you must be a lawyer.” This is a terrific method to prevent the conversation from turning into a boring interview. Try to practice this tactic the next time you’re in a bar because it is a crucial behavioral component to attract women. We use a great deal of techniques to help guys improve their conversational skills (trigger words is just one).

Playful and exciting.

Women love the thrill of danger and excitement. They want to be rescued from the boredom of everyday life. If you can be that guy and provide the experience a girl craves, she’ll find you attractive.

To do so, focus on being playful around women. Joke around, be spontaneous, tease them, and tell interesting stories about your life.

And try role playing different situations. Ladies love role play. Pretend you’re hiding from FBI agents, and require a girl’s help to escort you to the bar unscathed.

The ability to excite a girl is like a drug — give her what she desires, and she’ll keep coming back for more.

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10 things to attract a girl

10 things to attract a girl

Speed of Attraction.

It takes 13 milliseconds to ascertain if you discover someone attractive, which really works both to your advantage and disadvantage. Of course it’s easier when you’re at a party or bar to determine the girl that you want to spend your time chatting up. But additionally, it means women are judging you in less than one split second. So what can you do to be sure you’re looking good during that critical first impression?

Smell like gasoline, printer ink, or leather…or, just smell.

This survey was not performed with proper scientific controls, but it’s almost too interesting to ignore. Daz, a soap company, surveyed 2,000 people to find the most attractive scents. The results indicated that gasoline, printer ink, paint, and leather were the most sensually exciting scents on a guy, whilst lipstick and baby lotion were most attractive on a woman.

Some studies suggest that the human nose has pheromone receptors, which would indicate that we’ve got the biological gear required to process chemical cues from our potential mates.

So, how does that actually work in dating? 1 study showed that women exposed to male sweat felt more arousal than women exposed to other substances.

No word on what those other substances were, but we’re guessing that they weren’t printer ink, paint, or leather.

How do I attract a woman by giving her the experience she wants?

This is where most pickup books would just in with techniques about to demonstrate this and how to internalise that, and frankly, once more, they’re all crap.

Why? Because the actions you take don’t determine how you make women feel.

You can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel creeped out and you can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel excited and alive
You can tell a story in a way that makes her feel pressured to laugh and give you a positive response and you can tell a story in a way that makes her feel excited.
You can ask her for her number in a way that her feel unsafe and unsure and you can ask for her number in a way that makes desired and appreciated

Your actions don’t determine how you make a woman feel.

And no, it is not your haircut, your style, your knowledge or your bank balance.

It’s something far simpler… Think about it like this:

Which sort of people do you feel most excited and alive around? Is it routine, boring, monotone, safe people or is it exciting people who’re living on their edge and pushing their boundaries?
Which sort of people do you feel the most safe and secure around? Is it nervous, anxious, and flighty people or is it calm, confident, and strong people
Which kind of people do you feel more connected to? Is it closed off and standoffish people or is it open and expressive men and women?

What you experience determines what the women you’re interacting with feel. What you experience determines whether or not women are attracted to you.

You can’t give women the experience of safety and security until you feel safe and secure yourself.

You can’t give women the experience of excitement and really living until you feel excited and alive.

You can’t give women the experience of freedom and openness until you feel free and open.

It’s just that easy.

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10 things to attract a woman

10 things to attract a woman

Self-love.

Attracting women isn’t all about appearing attractive, it’s about being attractive from inside, and expressing your positive qualities to the girls you interact with.

You can understand why self-loathing guys struggle to get girlfriends. Should you play the victim and maintain a negative view on everything, women will repel you.

Learn to love yourself first before you can love someone else.

The more you invest and ‘love yourself’ the more attractive you’ll be in the eyes of women. With this, you’ll find women come into your life naturally as a by-product to all this.

To become more attractive inside, take pride in your appearance, and focus on pursuing your passions.

Be adventurous, take up something you’ve always wanted to do. Maybe that’s an extreme sport like rock climbing, surfing or motorcross.

But don’t pursue an activity for the sole reason of impressing women. Do it because YOU want to do it. Whatever your hobbies and interests are, it’s extremely attractive if women can sense your passion in the way you speak about them and the amount of time you dedicate in pursuing them.

How do I attract a woman by giving her the experience she wants?

This is where most pickup books would just in with techniques about to demonstrate this and how to internalise that, and frankly, once again, they’re all crap.

Why? Because the actions you take don’t determine how you make women feel.

You can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel creeped out and you can introduce yourself in a way that makes her feel excited and alive
You may tell a story in a way that makes her feel pressured to laugh and give you a positive response and you can tell a story in a way that makes her feel excited.
You can ask her for her number in a way that her feel unsafe and unsure and you can ask for her number in a way that makes desired and appreciated

Your actions don’t determine how you make a woman feel.

And no, it’s not your haircut, your style, your knowledge or your bank balance.

It’s something far simpler… Think about it like this:

Which kind of people do you feel most excited and alive around? Is it routine, boring, monotone, safe people or is it exciting men and women who’re living on their edge and pushing their boundaries?
Which kind of people do you feel the most safe and secure around? Is it nervous, anxious, and flighty people or is it calm, confident, and strong people
Which kind of people do you feel more connected to? Is it closed off and standoffish people or is it open and expressive people?

What you experience determines what the women you’re interacting with feel. What you experience determines whether women are attracted to you.

You can not give women the experience of security and security until you feel safe and secure yourself.

You can not give women the experience of excitement and really living until you feel excited and alive.

You can’t give women the experience of freedom and openness till you feel free and open.

It’s just that easy.

Play an instrument.

Just make sure it is not the drums. No one wants to date the drummer. We’re kidding, of course. Or are we? The only scientific evidence we could come up with is a 2014 article published in the journal Psychology of Music.

The method of the study “Men’s music ability and attractiveness to women in a real-life courtship context” reads a lot like the script of a poor internet “prank” video.

Researchers planted a young (presumably handsome) guy in the street. He asked out 300 random women. In fact, he did this 3 times. The first time, he was empty handed. The second time he held a sports bag. The third time, he hauled around a guitar case.

Guess which accessory scored the guy the most phone numbers? Yep, it was the guitar. Researchers have yet to repeat the study with a guy carrying drumsticks, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the results would differ.

Forget the pickup lines.

Yes, they’ve studied this. Not one but two groundbreaking studies of classic cheesy pickup lines seem to suggest that (SPOILER ALERT) they don’t work. Almost 90 percent of the girls in one of these studies rated those bad old pickup lines as extremely useless.

But where science shuts a door, it opens a window. Something like 65 percent of the women surveyed in a Personality and Individual Differences article said that they appreciate a simple, confident, and direct approach.

Can the cheesy lines, even when you’re trying to be ironic. In actuality, we tried to include a sample of bad pickup lines in this list, but they’re all too bad.

We won’t subject you to the cringefest. Just do not forget that a simple, self-assured “hello” will get you a lot further, and you won’t be as ashamed of yourself in the morning.

The Key to Attracting Women is…

…first giving yourself what you desire.

It starts with creating a life that’s exciting and challenging, where you feel powerful and strong and open and free and connected to people around you.

It begins with challenging your insecurities rather than letting them you challenge you.

It starts with moving towards your fears as opposed to moving away from them.

It begins with opening up and sharing yourself rather than closing down and hiding.

Becoming the sort of Man that girls are naturally and effortlessly attracted to starts by becoming the kind of Man that you want to be.

To attract women, you first have to become attractive. And that means becoming attractive to yourself.

Now, I’m not saying that pickup artist tricks can’t work. You can learn how to hide and conceal and pretend and manipulate and get short term results with gullible women.

But if you’ve ever dreamed of getting long-term results with intelligent, self-aware women, then there’s just one way to do it.

Understand How to Pull Women from Her Perspective

The first thing you want to understand is that attraction works differently for women than it does for men. Some of you might say “that’s obvious”, but knowing exactly what the differences are is vitally important. Once you recognize how attraction works from a female perspective, you will find it a lot easier to create attraction, and to avoid destroying it. Or at least, when you screw up, you will know what you did wrong.

Once you really begin to comprehend the secret of attraction, suddenly the problem of how to attract women becomes much easier to solve. This is one of those things that guys who really get women understand, and average guys struggle with.

Make her work for your attention.

Use your body language to position yourself so she must lean in to talk and fight for the attention. Ask questions to receive her qualifying herself to you. For instance “I have zero time for dull women, do you do anything fun in your free time?”

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