10 steps to attract women
Show your desire for her.
The desire of being desired by another guy is extremely sexy for a girl. Unleash the beast! Be the man who goes after what he wants. Tell a girl “You’re the perfect mix of sexy and cute” (a terrific quote from Crazy Stupid Love) and don’t apologise for saying it.
Understand the role of Arousal in Attraction
Attraction isn’t just in the mind, it comes from a bit of adrenaline, and excitement. So you can create attraction simply by doing exciting things together (even if the conversation is somewhat slow!)
The Way to Attract Women: What They’re Not Telling You
What should I do? Why? Because you’re not asking the proper question.
All these questions you’re asking actually have a deeper undercurrent — something that forms the basis of these questions which you have to get to before you can think of a real answer: How do I attract women?
You see, you don’t really care about what you should say or what you should do, as long as they get you the results you want: doe-eyes, wet-panty, delicate-touch-of-your-arm, attraction. You want her to want you, and want you badly.
So if you’re ever going to answer these questions that race through your ming, you need to start by answering the core question first: How do you attract women?
Keep your voice low and speak slowly.
A calming deep voice is extremely seductive. Think Joey Tribianni on ‘Friends’ and his famous pickup line “How you doin?” . Speak slowly and accentuate your words like you’re telling a story to captivate her attention.
How to attract women: A Beginners Guide
Attracting women is straightforward, straight-forward, and even logical — when you know how.
And if you would like to take the hard work out of turning accidental eye-contact into, flirty smiles and even a feminine hand resting casually on your arm, the first thing you need to do is forget everything you’ve ever been told about attracting women.
According to the ‘seduction bibles’ floating around the internet, mischievously traded between confused 14 year olds in seedy online chat rooms, to attract a woman, you want to activate her attraction switches.
Yes, that’s in fact the way they talk about attraction, like women were some piece of Ikea furniture you could ‘turn on’ by following the instruction manual and making sure all the screws were in the perfect places (pun intended).
This is in fact a load of crap — made up by some confused little boys who couldn’t tell the difference between what they did that made a particular woman attracted to them at a specific point in time and the actual mechanism of attraction.
Saying that you need to flick 5 / 9 / 14 ‘attraction switches’ to entice a woman because they were the things you did to attract 1 woman is like saying you need to kick a ball forward, then backwards, then with your right foot, then your left foot, then really hard with your right again to score a goal in soccer.
What you did once to achieve an outcome doesn’t mean that that’s how you achieve that outcome every time.
If you walked onto a soccer field and just kicked the ball the same way you did the last time you scored a goal then you’re going to miss 99.999% of the moment. And in the event that you blindly follow this flawed ‘attraction switch’ theory, you’re likely to miss out on attracting the girl, again and again.
This is because the theory of attraction switches ignores the most fundamental rule of attraction: attraction is a feeling, not a thought.
If you can make a woman experience what she wants to experience, then she will be attracted to you. If you can’t, then she won’t.
That’s it. That’s all there is to it.
If a woman wants to feel excited and alive and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel safe and secure and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
If a woman wants to feel free and unrestricted and you can give that to her, then she’ll be attracted towards you.
When you can give a woman what she wants, she’ll be drawn to you like a magnet. If you can’t, then at worst, she’ll be neutral and at worst, she’ll be pushed away from you.
Now, you’re probably thinking: “So what? This isn’t revolutionary. And this doesn’t say anything about attraction switches.”
And you’re right, it’s not revolutionary. Which makes it even more puzzling how the guys who came up with the attraction switch theory missed how obvious this is…
The fact that attraction is a feeling makes the ‘attraction switch’ theory completely wrong on two counts.
We all know the stereotype about the older man and the younger woman. According to a zoologist named Stephen Proulx, that stereotype has its basis in the animal kingdom. From there, it traveled the lines evolution to land squarely in the contemporary human heart.
Basically, Proulx’s argument goes like this: In nature, males don’t tend to live that long. If you’re a female deer and you meet a majestic, elderly stag with a complete head of antlers, odds are that potential mate is packing some nutritious genes.
At the dawn of humanity, males didn’t live much past their twenties. If women encountered a healthy male specimen who managed to beat the odds, their evolutionary psychology might push them toward attraction. It’s all about the genes.
However, this trick doesn’t work for every male of any species. You can’t just be old. You also need to be sort of fit. “If males can display ostentatiously at that age, then they really need something going for them,” Proulx told The Observer.
It may not be a bad idea to spring for that gym membership.