When most guys set out to improve their interactions with women they immediately begin researching pickup lines.

And while good opening lines have their place in a conversation, there are other elements that will improve your chances of drawing a woman into your conversation that are much more powerful than a couple clever lines.

In fact, guys who place too much emphasis on coming up with a clever opener, usually wind up falling flat on their face a few minutes into the conversation when the initial conversational thread dies out.

Other guys assume that everything has to do with how “cool” and “alpha” you appear to a woman. The problem that arises here is that many men become so focused on portraying “alpha” body language that they wind up appearing stiff and unnatural.

They also find that their desire to come off as “cool” makes them really just come off as cold or boring.

The “cool” factor should really come from being calm and sure of yourself.  That “cool” feeling comes from speaking in a relaxed fashion, but giving the impression that there IS more, that there is a “fire” beneath the surface. That’s the “allure”. That’s what women like, and what people like in general.

The coolest people are the ones that are fun to talk to and fun to be with.

I’ve been passing along a little slogan that has helped me when I was in a social situation and wasn’t quite sure how to draw women into my conversation… I would just ask myself “What would Tommy Lee do?” If you aren’t familiar with Tommy Lee just go to Youtube and watch some videos of him and you’ll begin to get a better understanding of what I mean.

What Draws Women In?

Your Voice

One of the biggest tools that you have for drawing women into your conversations is your voice.  Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are, how calm you are, how interesting you are, and says a lot about you.
Your tone of voice is so important because it allows you to convey comfort, and demonstrate that sense of the all powerful relaxed confidence.  It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times, especially when it is appropriate to the situation.

There are many articles and books on improving your voice tonality, but the common fundamental seems to be speaking from your chest rather than your nose or mouth.  Take a moment right now to test this out… grab some reading material and begin reading it out loud.  However, focus on generating the sound from deep within your chest.  Relax.  Sound relaxed.  See how relaxed this makes you feel and how relaxed you need to be to do this.
Over the next few days when speaking to anyone, make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking, and where you are speaking from (your nose, mouth, or chest). Also, make note of how you felt (nervous, comfortable, and relaxed-confident).

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